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William Gouge
1622
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Domestical Duties
The First Treatise
An Exposition of That Part of Scripture out of which
Domestical Duties Are Raised
Ephesians 5:21. Submit your selves one to another in the fear of God.
1. Of the Apostle's transition from general duties to particulars.
As there are two vocations whereunto it hath pleased God to call every one; one general, by virture whereof certain common duties which are to be performed of all men, are required, [as knowledge, faith, obedience, repentance, love, mercy, justice, truth, etc.] the other particular, by virture whereof certain peculiar duties are required of several persons, according to those distinct places wherein the Divine Providence hath set them in Commonwealth, Church or family; so ought God's Ministers to be careful in instructing God's people in both kinds of duties; both those which concern their general, and those also which concern their particular calling. Accordinly Paul (who, as Moses, was faithful in all the house of God (Num 12:7) after he had sufficiently instructed God's Church in such general duties, as belong to all Christians, of what sex, state, degree, or condition soever they be, proceedeth to lay down certain particular duties, which appertain to particuar callings and conditions: among which, he maketh choice of those which God hath established in a family. With excellent art doth he pass from those generals, to the particulars: laying down a transition betwixt them, in these words, Submit your selves one to another in the fear of God; which words have reference both to that which goeth before, and also to that which followeth after. The form and manner of setting down this verse, with a participle thus, submitting, showeth that it dependeth on that which went before, and so hath reference thereunto. Again, the word itself being the very same which is used in the next verse following, showeth, that this verse containeth the sum of that which followeth, and so hath reference thereunto, as a general unto particulars. This manner of passing from one point to another, by a perfefct transition which looketh both ways, both to that which is past, and to that which cometh on, as it is very elegant, so it is frequent with this our Apostle. Whereby he teacheth us, so to give heed to that which followeth, as we forget not that which is past: as we must give diligent attention to that which remaineth, so we must well retain that which we have heard, and not let it slip: otherwise, if (as one nail driveth out another) one precept maketh another to be forgotten, it will be altogether in vain to add line unto line, or precept unto precept.
2. Of joining service to men with our praising of God.
As this verse hath reference to that which was delivered before, concerning our duty to God, it teacheth us this lesson: It is the duty of Christians as to set forth the praise of God, so to be serviceable one to another. For this purpose in the Decalogue to the first table, which prescribeth that duty which we owe to God, is added the second table, which declareth the service that we owe one to another: and he said, The first and great Commandment is this, Thou shalt love the Lord, etc. (Matt 22:38-39) said also, The second is like to this, Thou shalt love thy neighbor, etc. whereupon the Apostle declaring what those sacrifices be wherewith God is well pleased, joineth these two together, to give thanks to God, and to do good to man (Heb 13:15-16). The service which in the fear of God we perform one to another, is an evident and real demonstration of the respect we bear unto God. To God our goodness exceedeth not (Psa 16:2). He is so high above us, so perfect and complete in Himself, that neither can we give to Him, nor He receive of us (Job 22:3; 35:7). But in His own stead He hath placed our brother like to ourselves; to whom, as we may do hurt (Job 35:8), so by our faithful service we may do much good (Psa 16:3): in doing whereof God is much honored.
This discovereth their hypocrisy, who make great pretence of praising God, and yet are scornful, and distainful to their brethren, and slothful to do any service to man: These men's religion is vain. By this note did the Prophets in their time, and Christ in His Apostles in their time also, discover the hypocrisy of those among whom they lived: and so may we also in our times. For many there be, who frequently in their houses, and in the midst of the congregation sing praise unto God, and perform other parts of God's outward worship, but towards one another, are proud, stout, envious, unmerciful, unjust, slanderous, and very backward to do any good service. Surely, that outward service which they pretend to perform to God, doth not so much wipe out the spot of prophaness, as their neglect of duty unto man brandeth their foreheads with the stamp of hypocisy (James 1:26, Isa 58:3 and on, Micah 6:6 and on, Matt 23:14, Job 4:20).
For our parts, let us not upon pretext of one duty, though it may seem to be the weightier, think to shift off another; lest that fearful woe (Matt 23:23) which Christ denounced against the Scribes and Pharisees fall upon our pates. As God is careful to instruct us how to carry our selves both to His own Majesty, and also one to another, so let us in both approve our selves to Him: remembering what Christ said to the Pharisees, These ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone. The same Lord that requireth praise to His own Majesty, enjoineth mutual service one to another; the neglect of this, as well as of that, whoeth too light respect of His will and pleasure: What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (Matt 19:6).
3. Of every one's submitting himself to another.
Again, as this verse hath reference ot that which followeth, it declareth the general sum of all, which is mutually to submit our selves one to another in the fear of God. The parts hereof are two:
1. An exhortation.
2. A direction.
In the exhortation is noted, both the duty itself in this word submit, and also the parties to whom it is to be perfomred, one to another.
Both branches of the exhortation, viz. the duty, and the parties joined together, afford this doctrine, that
It is a general mutual duty appertaining to all Christians, to submit themselves on to another: For this precept is as general as any of the former, belonging to all sorts and degrees whatsoever: and so much doth this word one another imply: in which extent the Apostle in another place exhorteth to serve one another: and again, every man to seek another's wealth (Gal 5:13, 1 Cor 10:24).
Concerning inferiours, it is without question clear, that they ought to submit themselves to their superiours: yea, concerning equals no great question can be made, but they in giving honor must go one before another, and so submit themselves: but concerning superiours, just question may be made, whether it be a duty required of them to submit themselves to their inferiours.
To resolve this doubt, we must first distinguish betwixt subjection of reverence, and subjection of service.
Subjection of reverence is that whereby one testifieth and eminency and superiority in them whom he reverenceth, and that in speech, by giving them title of honor; or in gesture, by some kind of obeisance; or in action, by a ready obeying of their commandment. This is proper to inferiours.
Subjection of service is that whereby one in his place is ready to do what good he can to another. This is common to all Christians: a duty which even superiours owe to inferiours, according to the fore-named extent of this word one another: in which respect even the highest governour on earth is called a Minister, for the good of such as are under him.
Secondly, we must put difference betwixt the work itslef, and the manner of doing it. That work which in itself is a work of superiority and authority, in the manner of doing it may be a work of submission, viz. if it be done in humility and meekness of mind. The magistrate by ruling with meekness and humility, submitteth himself to his subject. In this respect the Apostle exhorteth that nothing [no not the highest and greatest works that can be] be done in vain-glory, but in meekness.
Thirdly, we must distinguish betwixt the several places wherein men are: for even they who superiours to some, are inferiours to others: as he that said, I have under me, and am under authority. The master that hath servants under him, may be under the authority of a Magistrate. Yea, God hath so disposed every one's several place, as there is not any one, but in some respect is under another. The wife, though a mother of children, is under her husband. The husband, though head of a family, is under public Magistrates. Public Magistrates are under another, and all under the King. The King himself under God and His Word delivered by His Ambassadors, whereunto the highest are to submit themselves. And Ministers of the Word, as subjects, are under their Kings and Governours. He that saith, Let every soul be subject to the higher powers, excepteth not Ministers of the Word: and he that saith obey them that have the oversight of you, and submit your selves, excepteth not Kings: only the difference is in this, that the authority of the King is in himself, and in his own name he may command obedience to be performed to himself: but the authority of a Minister is in Christ, and Christ's name only may he require obedience to be performed to Christ.
The reason why all are bound to submit themselves one to another is, because every one is set in his place by God, not so much for himself, as for the good of others: whereupon the Apostle exhorteth, that none see his own, but every man another's wealth. Even Governours are advanced to places of dignity and authority, rather for the good of their subjects than for their own honor. Their callings are in truth offices of service, yea burdens under which they must willingly put their shoulders being called of God, and of which they are to give an account concerning the good which they have done to others: for the effecting whereof, it is needful that they submit themselves.
Let every one therefore high and low, rich and poor, superiour and inferiour, Magistrate and subject, Minister and people, husband and wife, parent and child, master and servant, neighbors and fellows, all of all sorts in their several places take notice of their duty in this point of submission, and make conscience to put it in practice: Magistrates, by procuring the wealth and peace of their people, as Mordecai: Ministers, by making themselves servants unto their people, not seeking their own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved, as Paul: Fathers, by well educating their children, and taking heed that they provoke them not to wrath, as David: Husbands, by dwelling with their wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel, as Abraham: Masters, by doing that which is just and equal to their servants, as the Centurion: Every one, by being of like affection one towards another, and by serving one another in love, according to the Apostle's rule. Let this duty of submission be first well learned, and then all other duties will be better performed.
Be not high minded, nor swell one against another. Though in outward estate some may be higher than other, yet in Christ all are one whether bond or free: all members of one and the same body. Now consider the mutual affection [as I may so speak] of the members of a natural body one towards another: not any one of them will puff itself up, and rise against the other: the head which is the highest and of greatest honour will submit itself to the feet in performing the duty of an head, as well as the feet in performing their duty; so all other parts. Neither is it hereby implied that they which are in place of dignity and authority should forget or relinquish their place, dignity or authority, and become as inferiours under authority, no more than the head doth: for the head in submitting itself doth not go upon the ground and bear the body, as the feet; but it submitteth itself by directing and governing the other parts, and that with all the humility, meekness, and gentleness that it can. So must all superiours: much more must equals and inferiours learn with humility, and meekness, without scorn or disdain, to perform their duty: this that which was before by the Apostle expressly mentioned, and is here again intimated; none are exempted and privileged from it. We know that it is unnatural, and unbeseeming the head to scorn the feet, and to swell against them, but more than monstrous for the one hand to scorn another: what shall we then say if the feet swell against the head? Surely such scorn and disdain among the members, would cause not only great disturbance, but also utter ruin to the body. And can it be otherwise in a politic body? But on the contrary, when all of all sorts shall [as hath been before shown] willingly submit themselves one to another, the whole body, and every member thereof will reap good thereby: yea, by this mutual submission, as we do good, so we shall receive good.
4. Of the fear of God.
Hitherto of the exhortation. The direction followeth. In the fear of the Lord. This clause is added, to declare partly the means, how men may be brought to submit themselves readily to one another: and partly the manner, how they ought to submit themselves. The fear of the Lord is both the efficient cause that moveth a true Christian willingly to perform all duty to man, and also the end whereunto he referreth every thing that he doth. For the better conceiving whereof, I will briefly declare.
1. What this fear of the Lord is.
2. How the Lord is the proper object of it.
3. What is the extent thereof.
4. Why it is so much urged.
First, fear of God is an awful respect of the Divine Majesty. Sometimes it ariseth from faith in the mercy and goodness of God: for when the heart of man hath once felt a sweet taste of God's goodness, and found that in His favor only all happiness consisteth, it is stricken with such an inward awe and reverence, as it would not for any thing displease his Majesty, but rather do whatsoever it may know to be pleasing and acceptable unto Him. For these are two eeffects which arise from this kind of fear of God:
1. A careful endeavour to please God, in which respect good king Jehosaphat having exhorted his judges to execute the judgment of the Lord aright, addeth this clause as a motive thereunto, Let the fear of the Lord be upon you: implying thereby that God's fear would make them endeavour to approve themselves to God.
2. A careful avoiding of such things as offend the Majesty of God, and grieve His Spirit: in which respect the wiseman saith, The fear of the Lord is to hate evil: and of Job it is said that he fearing God departed from evil.
Sometimes again, awe and dread of the Divine Majesty ariseth from diffidence: For when a man's heart doubteth of God's mercy, and expecteth nothing but vengence, the very thought of God striketh an awe or rather dread into him, and so maketh him fear God.
From this double cause of fear, whereof one is contrary to another, hath arisen that usual distinction of a filial or son-like fear, and a servile or slavish fear: which distinction is grounded on these words of the Apostle, ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear [this is a servile fear] but ye have received the spirit of adoption whereby we cry, Abba, Father: this causeth a filial fear. The filial fear is such a fear as dutiful children bear to their fathers. But the servile fear is such an one as bondslaves bear to their masters. A son feareth simply to offend or displease his father: so as it is accomplished with love. A bondslave feareth nothing but the punishment of his offence; so as it is joined with hatred: and such an one feareth not to sin, but to burn in hell for sin. Faithful Abraham like a gracious child feared God [as God's Angel beareth witness, Gen 22:12] when he was ready rather to sacrifice his only son, than offend God by refusing to obey His commandment. But faithless Adam like a servile bondslave feared God [as he himself testifieth against himself Gen 3:10] when after he had broken God's commandment, he hid himself from the presence of God. This slavish fear is a plain diabolical fear [for the devils so fear as they tremble] (James 2:19). It maketh men wish there were no hell, no day of judgment, no Judge, yea no God. This is that fear without which we must serve the Lord (Luke 1:74). In this fear to submit one's self is nothing acceptable to God: It is therefore the filial fear which is here meant.
Secondly, of this fear God is the proper object, as by this and many more testimonies of Scripture is evident, where the fear of God and of the Lord is mentioned. This fear hath so proper a relation unto God, as the Scripture styleth God by a kind of property, witht his title Fear: for where Jacob mentioneth the fear of Isaac, he meaneth the Lord whom Isaac feared (Gen 31:42,53).
Is it then unlawful to fear any but God?
No: Men also may be feared, as princes, parents, masters and other superiours; For the Apostle exhorting to give every one their due, giveth this instance, fear to whom fear is due (Rom 13:7). But yet may God notwithstanding be said to be the proper object of fear, because all the fear that any way is due to any creature, is due to him in and for the Lord whose image he carrieth: so as in truth it is not so much the person of a man, as the image of God placed in him, by virtue of some authority or dignity appertaining to him, which is to be feared. If there should fall out any such opposition betwixt God and man, as in fearing man our fear would be withdrawn from God, then the rule of Christ is to take place, which is this, fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.
Thirdly, the extent of this true filial fear of God is very large. No one point throughout the whole Scripture is more urged than this fear of the Lord. It is oft added to other duties, as that whereby they are seasoned, and without which they cannot well be performed: wherefore we are commanded to serve the Lord in fear, to perfect holiness in the fear of God, to work out our salvation with fear (Psa 2:11, 2 Cor 7:1, Phil 2:12): and the Churches are commended for walking in the fear of the Lord (Acts 9:31): so likewise particular men as Abram (Gen 22:12), Joseph (Gen 42:18), Job (Job 1:1), and many other: yea the whole worship of God is oft comprised under this branch of fear: whereupon our Saviour Christ alleging this text, thou shalt fear the Lord thy God, thus expresseth it, thou shalt worship the Lord thy God. And again where the Lord by His Prophet Isaiah saith, Their fear toward me is taught by the precept of men, Christ thus quoteth that text, In vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men: out of which places compared together, it is evident, that under the fear of God, is comprised the worship of God. Yea, all that duty which we owe to God and man is comprised under this title, the fear of God: for David when he would in one word declare the sum and substance of all that which a Minister ought to teach his people, saith, I will teach you the fear of the Lord (Deut 6:13, Matt 4:10, Isa 29:13, Matt 15:9, Psa 34:11).
Fourthly, The reason why the Holy Ghost so much urgeth the fear of God, and that in so large an extent as hath been showed, I take to be this; to show a difference betwixt that integrity and perfection of God's image which was at man's creation first planted in him, and the renovation thereof while here he liveth in this world. So complete and perfect was then God's image in man, as he needed no other motive to provoke him to any duty but love. Wherefore when the Holy Ghost would set forth that perfection of God's image first planted in man, he addeth this title Love: unto other duties, whether they concern God or man. Concerning God, Moses exhorteth Israel to love the Lord and serve Him: and again, to love the Lord, to walk in His ways, to keep His commandments, etc. Concerning man, the Apostle exhorteth to serve one another by love: and to do all things in love. Yea, sometimes the Holy Ghost is pleased to comprise all duties under love: In which respect Christ calleth this commandment [Thou shalt love the Lord] the great commandment, which compriseth all the commandments of the first table under it: and for the second table, Paul saith, that love is the fulfilling of the law. But by Adam's fall, and the corruption which thereby infected man's nature, the love of God hath waxed cold in man, and though the Saints be created again according to that image of God, yet while in this world they live, that image is not so perfect as it was, the flesh remaineth in the best: in which respect God hath fast fixed this affection of fear in man's heart, and thereby both restraineth him from sin, and also provoketh him unto every good duty.
5. Of the fear of God moving us to do service to men.
Having briefly declared the nature, object, extent, and use of fear, I return to the point in hand, viz. to show 1. how it is here laid down as a motive to stir up men to perform the duty here required: for by this clause, in the fear of the Lord, the Apostle implieth that
It is the fear of God which moveth men conscionably to submit themselves one to another. This made David so well to rule the people of God (2 Sam. 23:3): and Joseph to deal so well with his brethren (Gen 42:18): yea, this is noted to be the cause of the righteous regiment of Christ Himself (Isa. 11:2,3). Well did that good King Jehosaphat know this, and therefore when he appointed judges over his people, as a motive to stir them up to execute the judgments of the Lord aright, he saith unto them, Let the fear of the Lord be upon you. So also Peter to move subjects to honor their King, prefixeth this exhortation, Fear God.
By fear of man, may one be brought to submit himself to another: as a Magistrate may be moved to deal justly and mildly with his people through fear of insurrections and rebellions: subjects may by severe laws and tyranny be brought to submit themselves: and so other inferiours also by threats, by hard usage, and other by-respects.
1. Though fear of man be a motive, yet it followeth not, that therefore fear of God should be no motive: it may be another motive, and a better motive.
2. The submission which is performed through fear of man is a forced and a slavish submission, nothing acceptable to God, but that which is performed through a true filial fear of God, is a free, willing, ready, cheerful, conscionable submission: such a submission as will stir us up to do the best good we can thereby unto them, to whom we submit our selves, and so is more acceptable to God, by reason of the cause thereof, and more profitable unto man, by reason of the effect and fruit thereof.
For a true fear of God maketh us more respect what God requireth and commandeth, than what our corrupt heart desireth and suggesteth: It subdueth our unruly passions, and bringeth them within compass of duty: It maketh us deny our selves and our own desires: and though through the corruption of our nature and inborn pride we be loath to submit, yet will God's fear bring down that proud mind, and make us humble and gentle. It will keep those who are in authority from tyranny, cruelty, and over-much severity: and it will keep those who are under subjection from dissimulation, deceit, and privy conspiracies.
Behold how necessary it is, that a true fear of the Lord be planted in men's hearts, in the hearts of Kings and all Governours, in the hearts of subjects and all people whether superiours or inferiours. Where no fear of God is, there will be no good submission unto man. Abraham thought that the men of Gerar would have no respect to him or his wife, nor make conscience of common honesty, nor abstain from innocent blood, because he saw no fear of God in that place (Gen 20:11): and the Apostle having reckoned up many notorious effects of man's natural corruption, concludeth all with this, as the cause of all, There is no fear of God before their eyes (Rom 3:11). Wherefore let Magistrates, parents, masters, and all in authority, have especial care that their subjects, children, servants, and all under them may be taught and brought to fear the Lord. I dare avouch it, that such inferiours which are taught to fear God, will do better service to their superiours, than such as fear their superiours only as men, and fear not God. Let Ministers especially urge and press upon the consciences of men a fear of God. Let all inferiours pray that the fear of the Lord may be planted in the hearts of their superiours, that so they may live a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty under them. Happy is that kingdom where Magistrates and subjects fear the Lord. Happy is that Church where Ministers and people fear the Lord. Happy is that family where husband and wife, parents and children, master and servants fear the Lord. In such a Kingdom, Church, and family, will everyone, to the mutual good one of another, submit themselves one to another. But if such as fear not God submit themselves, whether they be superiours or inferiours, it is for their own ends and advantages, and not for their good to whom they submit themselves.
6. Of limiting all duty to man, within the compass of the fear of God.
Again, as this clause [In the fear of the Lord] declareth the manner of submission, it showeth, that
No submission is to be preformed unto man, but that which may stand with the fear of God. Whereby we show that we have respect to God, and labour above all to approve our selves to Him. Thus David is commanded to rule in the fear of God (2 Sam 23:3): and other Magistrates to perform their duty in the fear of the Lord (2 Chron 19:9): which Nehemiah that good Governour was careful to do (Neh 5:15). So also subjects are to obey in the fear of the Lord, which the Apostle implieth by prefixing this precept, Fear God, before that, Honour the King (1 Peter 2:17); as if he had said, so honor the King, as in and thereby you may manifest your fear of God: let not this latter cross the former. Servants likewise are commanded to be obedient unto their masters with this proviso, fearing the Lord. Such phrases as these, For the Lord's sake, As unto the Lord, In the Lord, As servants of Christ, with the like, being annexed to the duties of inferiours, do imply as much (Col 3:22, 1 Peter 2:13, Eph 5:22,6:1,6).
Great reason there is that all service should be limited wtih the fear of God: for God is the highest Lord to whom all service primarily and principally is due: whatsoever service is due to any man, high or low, is due in and for the Lord. The Lord hath set superiours in the places of eminency, wherein they bear the image of God. The Lord also hath set inferiours in their places, and commended them as his charge to the government of those who are over them. He that obeyeth not those who are over him in the fear of God, showeth no respect of God's image: and he who governeth not those who are under him in the fear of God, showeth no respect for God's charge.
Besides, God is that great judge to whom all of all sorts, superiours and inferiours are to give an account of their service. Though by our service we have never so well approved our selves to men, yet if we have not therein had respect unto God, and approved our selves to Him, with what face may we appear before His dreadful judgment seat? Can the favor of those whom we have pleased in this world, protect and shelter us from the fury of God's displeasure?
Behold the folly of such Governours as wholly apply themselves to the fancy of their people, yea though it be against the Lord and His Word. This was Adam's folly, (Gen 3:6) who at his wife's motion did eat of the forbidden fruit. This was Aaron's folly, (Exo 32:1) who to please the people, erected and idol. And this was Saul's folly, (1 Sam 15:21) who against God's express prohibition suffered his people to make some of the spoil of the Amalekites. The like may be said of Joash, who (2 Chron 24:17) hearkened to his princes to set up idols: and of Pilate, who (Mark 15:15) to please the people, against his conscience, delivered Christ to be crucified. The fearful issue of this their submission, not seasoned with a fear of God, but contrary thereunto, may be a warning to all superiours, to take heed how they seek to please them that are under them, more than God who is above them. The issue of Adam's, Aaron's, Saul's, and Joash's base submission, is noted by the Holy Ghost in their several histories. Of Pilate it is recorded, that being brought into extreme necessity, he laid violent hands upon himself.
Neither is it to be accounted folly only in superiours to submit themselves to their inferiours against the Lord, but also in inferiours to their superiours: for thereby they show that they fear man more than God, which Christ expressly forbiddeth his friends to do. The captains which went to fetch Elijah, obeyed their king therein; but what got they thereby? Was the King able to save them from the fire which God sent down from heaven upon them? The women reproved for offering incense to the Queen of heaven, did it not without their husbands, yet were they not excused thereby. The children and others in the family submitted themselves to Dathan and Abiram in standing in the door of their tents at a distance against Moses; but because it was not in the Lord, but against Him, they were not exempted from the judgment. Wherefore let all of all sorts set the fear of God as a mark before them to aim at in all their actions. (Luke 12:4,5; 2 King 1:9 etc.;Jer 44:19; Num.16:32) Let superiours (Num 11:29) neither do anything to give content to their inferiours: nor suffer any thing (1 Sam 24:8) to be done for their sakes by their inferiours, which cannot stand with the fear of God. And let inferiours (Gen 39:10; 1 Sam 22:17) nor do, nor forbear (Acts 4:19) to do at the will of their superiours any thing swerving from the fear of God: but every one submit themselves one to another in the fear of God.
7. Of performing the duties of particular callings.
Ephesians 5:22. Wives Submit unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
From that genreal direction concerning mutual submission, the Apostle cometh to certain particulars, by which he exemplieth the same: and teacheth us, that
It is not sufficient to perform general duties of Christianity, unless also we be conscionable in performing the particular duties of our general callings. A conscionable performance of those particular duties is one part of our walking worthy of the vocation wherein we are called (Eph 4:1): and therefore the Apostle, for illustration and exemplification thereof, doth reckon up sundry particulars, both in this and other Epistles (Col 3:18 etc.; 1 Cor 7; 1 Tim 3.): and so do other Apostles (1 Peter 2,3). And Titus (Titus 2) is charged to teach them. God himself hath given a pattern hereof in his Law: for the main scope of the fifth Commandment tendeth to instruct us in the particular duties of our several callings. (See more of this point in The Whole Armour of God, Treatise 2, Part 1, Section 4.)
Hereby much credit is brought to our professions, and the doctrine of God our Saviour is adored. (Titus 2:10; 1 Peter 3:1,2). And much good is hereby both mutually communicated one to another, and received one from another: for our particular places and callings are those bonds whereby persons are firmly and fitly knit together, as the members of a natural body by nerves, arteries, sinews, veins, and the like, by which life, sense and motion is communicated from one to another.
Let therefore notice be taken of the particular callings wherein God hath set us, and of the several duties of those callings, and conscience be used in the practice of them. He is no good Christian that is careless herein. A bad husband, wife, parent, child, master, servant, magistrate or minister, is no good Christian.
8. Of the lawfulness of private functions in a family.
Among other particular callings the Apostle maketh choice of those which God hath settled in private families, and is accurate in reciting the several and distinct orders thereof, [for a family consisteth of these three orders, Husbands, Wives, Parents, Children, Masters, Servants, all which he reckoneth up] yea he is also copious, and earnest in urging the duties which appertain to them. Whence we may well infer, that
The private vocations of a family, and functions appertaining thereto, are such as Christian's are called unto by God, and in the exercising whereof, they may and must employ some part of their time. For can we think that the Holy Ghost [who, as the Philosophers speak of nature, doth nothing in vain] would so distinctly set down these private duties, and so forcibly urge them, if they did not well become, and nearly concern Christians? All the places in Scripture which require family-duties, are proofs of the truth of this doctrine.
The reasons of this doctrine are clear, for the family is a seminary of the Church and Commonwealth. It is as a bee-hive, in which is the stock, and out of which are sent many swarms of bees: for in families are all sorts of people bred and brought up: and out of families are they lent into the Church and Commonwealth. The first beginning of mankind, and of his increase, was out of a family. For first did God join in marriage Adam and Eve, made them husband and wife, and then gave them children: so as husband and wife, parent and child, [which are parts of a family] were before Magistrate and subject, Minister and people, which are the parts of a Commonwealth, and a Church. When by the general deluge all public societies were destroyed, a family, even the family of Noah, was preferred, and out of it kingdoms and nations again raised. That great people of the Jews which could not be numbered for multitude, was raised out of the family of Abraham. Yea even to this day have all sorts of people come from families, and so shall to the end of the world. Whence it followeth, that a conscionable performance of domestical and household duties, tend to the good ordering of Church and Commonwealth, as being means to fit and prepare men thereunto.
Besides, a family is a little Church, and a little Commonwealth, at least a lively representation thereof, whereby trial may be made of such as are fit for any place of authority, or of subjection in Church or Commonwealth. Or rather it is as a school wherein the first principles and grounds of government and subjection are learned: whereby men are fitted to greater matters in Church or Commonwealth. Whereupon the Apostle declareth (1 Tim 3:5), that a Bishop that cannot rule his own house, is not fit to govern the Church. So we may say of inferiours that cannot be subject in a family; they will hardly be brought to yield such subjection as they ought in Church or Commonwealth: instance Absalom, and Adoniah, David's sons.
This is to be noted for satisfaction of certain weak consciences, who think that if they have no public calling, they have no calling at all; and thereupon gather that all their time is spent without a calling. Which consequence if it were good and sound, what comfort in spending their time should most women have, who are not admitted to any public function in Church or Commonwealth? Or servants, children, and others who are wholly employed in private affairs of the family? But the forenamed doctrine showeth the unsoundness of that consequence. Besides, who knoweth not that the preservation of families tendeth to the good of Church and Commonwealth? So as a conscionable performance of household duties, in regard of the end and fruit thereof, may be accounted a public work. Yea, if domestical duties be well and thoroughly performed, they will be even enough to take up a man's whole time. If a master of a family be also an husband of a wife, and a father of children, he shall find work enough; as by those particular duties, which we shall afterwards show to belong unto masters, husbands and parents, may easily be proved. So a wife likewise, if she also be a mother and a mistress, and faithfully endeavour to do what by virtue of those callings she is bound to do, shall find enough to do. As for children under the government of their parents, and servants in a family, their whole calling is to be obedient to their parents and masters, and to do what they command them in the Lord. Wherefore if they who have no public calling, be so much the more diligent in the functions of their private callings, they shall be as well accepted of the Lord, as if they had public offices.
Yet many there be, who having no public employment, think they may spend their time as they list, either in idleness, or in following their fain pleasures and delights day after day, and so cast themselves out of all calling. Such are many masters of families who commit all the care of their house either to their wives, or to some servant, and mispend their whole time in idleness, riotness, and voluptuousness. Such are many mistresses, who spend their time lying abed, attiring themselves, and gossiping. Such are many young gentlemen living in their fathers' houses, who partly through the too-much indulgency and negligence of their parents, and partly through their own headstrong affections, and rebellious will, run without restraint whither their corrupt lusts lead them. These, and such other like to these, though by God's providence they be placed in callings, in warrantable callings, and in such callings as minister unto them matter enough of employment, yet make themselves to be of no calling. Now what blessing can they look for from the Lord? The Lord useth to give his blessing to men, while they are busied in their callings. Jacob's faithful service (Gen 31:42) to his uncle Laban moved God to bless him. Joseph's faithfulness to his master Potiphar (Gen 39:2) was had in rememberance with God, who advanced him to be ruler in Egypt. Moses (Exo 3:1,2) was keeping his father in law's sheep when God appeared to him in the bush, and appointed him a prince over his people. David (1 Sam 16:11) was sent for from the field, where he was keeping his father's sheep, when he was anointed to be King over Israel. Elisha (1 Kings 19:19) was plowing when he was annointed to be a Prophet. The shepherds (Luke 2:8) were watching their sheep, when that gladsome tiding was brought to them, that the Savior of the world was born. Not to insist on any more particulars, the promise of God's protection is restrained to our callings: for (Psa 91:11) the charge which God hath given to the Angels concerning man is, to keep him in all his ways.
As for those who have public offices in Church or Commonwealth, they may not thereupon think themselves exempted from all family-duties. These private duties are necessary duties. Though a man be a Magistrate or a Minister, yet if he be an husband, or a father, or a master, he may not neglect his wife, children, and servants. Indeed they who are freed from public functions, are bound to attend so much the more upon the private duties of their families, because they have more leisure thereunto. But none ought wholly to neglect them. Joshua (Josh 24:15), who was a captain and prince of his people, and very much in public affairs, yet neglected not his family: for he professeth that he and his house would serve the Lord. It seemeth that Eli (1 Sam 2:29 and 3:13) was negligent in performing the duty of a father, and David (1 King 1:6) also. But what followeth thereupon? Two of Eli's sons proved sacreligious, and lewd priests. Two of David's sons proved very ill Commonwealth's men, even plain traitors.
9. Of the Apostle's order in laying down the duties of husbands and wives in the first place.
There being three especial degrees, or orders in a family, [as we heard before] the Apostle placeth husband and wife in the first rank, and first declareth their duties, and that not without good reason: for
First, The husband and wife were the first couple that ever were in the world. Adam and Eve were joined in marriage, and made man and wife before they had children, or servants. So falleth it out for the most part even to this day in erecting, or bringing together a family: the first couple is ordinarily an husband and wife.
Secondly, most usually the husband and his wife are the chiefest in a family, all under them single persons: they governours of all the rest in the house. Therefore most meet it is, that they should first know their duty, and learn to practice it, that so they may be an example to all the rest. If they fail in their duty one to another, they give occasion to all the rest under them to be careless, and negligent in theirs. Let an husband be churlish to his wife, and despise her, he ministreth an occasion to children and servants to contemn her likewise, and to be disobedient unto her: yea, to be churlish and froward one to another, especially to their underlings. Let a wife be untrusty and unfaithful to her husband, let her filch and purloin from him, children and servants will soon take courage, or rather boldness from her example prively to steal what they can from their father, and master. Thus is their breach of duty a double fault: one in respect to the party whom they wrong, and to whom they give occasion of sinning.
Know therefore, O husbands and wives, that ye, above all other in the family, are most bound unto a conscionable performance of your duty. Greater will your condemnation be, if you fail therein. Look to it above the rest: and by your example draw on your children and servants [if you have any] to perform their duties: which surely they will more readily do, when they shall behold you as guides going before them, and making conscience of your joint and several duties.
10. Of the Appostle's order in setting down inferiours' duties in the first place.
In handling the duties of the first forenamed couple, the Apostle beginneth with wives, and layeth down their particular duties in the first place. The reason of this order I take to be the inferiority of the wife to her husband. I do the rather take it so to be, because I observe this to be his usual method and order, first to declare the duties of inferiours, and then of superiors: For in handling the duties of children (Eph 6:1) and parents, and of servants (Eph 6:5), and masters, he beginneth with the inferiours, both in this, and in other (Col 3:18,20,22) Epistles; which order also Peter (1 Pet. 3:1) observeth: yea, the Law (Exo 20:12) itself doth in the first place, and that expressly, mention the inferiour's duty, only implying the superiour's to follow as a just consequence, which is this, If the inferiour must give honor, and by virtue thereof perform such duties as appertain thereto, then must the superiour carry himself worthy of honour, and by virtue thereof perform answerable duties.
Quest. Why should inferiours' duties be more fully expressed, and placed in the first rank?
Answ. Surely because for the most part inferiours are most unwilling to undergo the duties of their place. Who is not more ready to rule, than the subject?
I deny not but that it is a far more difficult and hard matter to govern well than to obey well. For to rule and govern requireth more knowledge, experience, wisdom, care, watchfulness, diligence, and other like virtues, than to obey and be subject. He that obeyeth hath his rule laid before him, which is the will and command of his superiour in things lawful, and not against God's will. But the superiour who commandeth, is to consider not only and every way of the best: yea also he must forecast for the time to come, and so far as he can observe whether that which is now for the present meet enough, may not be dangerous for the time to come, and in that respect unmeet to be urged. Whence it followeth, that the superiour in authority may sin in commanding that which the inferiour in subjection may upon his command do without sin. Who can justly charge Joab (2 Sam. 24:2 and on) with sin in numbering the people, when David urged him by virtue of his authority so to do? (See Treatise 7, Section 37.) Yet did David sin in commanding it. Without all question Saul did sin in charging the people by an oath, to eat no food the day that they pursued their enemies [a time when they had most need to be refreshed with good, and Jonathan's words imply] and yet did not the people sin in forbearing: witness the event that followed on Jonathan's eating (1 Sam 14:24, etc.), though he knew not his father's charge. Who seeth not hereby, that it is a matter of much more difficulty to rule well, than to obey? Which is yet further evident by God's wise disposing providence in ordering who should govern, who obey. Commonly the younger for age, the weaker for sex, the meaner for estate, the more ignorant for understanding, with the like, are in places of subjection: but the elder, stronger, wealthier, wiser, and such like persons, are for the most part, or at least should be in place of authority. Woe to thee o'land [saith Solomon] (Eccl 10:16) when thy king is a child. And Isaiah (Isa 3:4) denounceth it as a curse to Israel, that children shall be their princes, and babes shall rule over them, and complaineth that women had rule over the people (Isa 3:12).
Now to return to the point, though it be so that Governours have the heaviest burden laid of their shoulders, yet inferiours that are under subjection think their burden the heaviest, and are loathest to bear it, and most willing to cast it away. For naturally there is in every one much pride and ambition, which as dust cast on the eyes of their understanding, puttest out the sight thereof, and so maketh them affect superiority, and authority over others, and to be stubborn under the yoke of subjection: which is the cause that in all ages, both in divine, and also by human laws, penalties and punishments of divers kinds have been ordained, to keep inferiours in compass of their duty: and yet [such is the pride of man's heart] all will not serve. What age, what place ever was there, which hath not just cause to complain of subjects' rebellion, servants' stubbornness, children's disobedience, wives' presumption? Not without cause therefore doth the Apostle first declare the duties of inferiours.
Besides, the Apostle would hereby teach those who are under authority, how to move them that are in authority over them, to deal equally and kindly, not hardly and cruelly with them, namely, by endeavouring to perform their own duty first. For what is it that provoketh to wrath, rage, and fury in Governours? What maketh them that have authority, to deal roughly, and rigorously? Is it not for the most part disobedience, and stoutness in those that are under government? Though some in authority be so proud, so savage, and inhumane, as no honor done to them, no performance of duty can satisfy and content them, but they will [as David's enemies (Psa 38:20)] reward evil for goodness, yet the best general direction that can be prescribed to inferiours, to provoke their Governours to deal well with them, is, that inferiours themselves be careful and conscionable in doing their duty first. If their Governours on earth be nothing moved therewith, yet will the highest Lord in heaven graciously accept it.
Lastly, men must first learn to obey well, before they can rule well: for they who scorn to be subject to their Governours while they are under authority, are like to prove intolerably insolent when they are in authority.
Learn all that are under authority, how to win your Governour's favor: how to make your yoke easy, and your burden light: how to prevent many mischiefs which by reason of the power of your superiours over you may otherwise fall upon you: First do ye your duty.
There are many weighty reasons to move Governours first to begin to do their duty. For,
First, by virtue of their authority they bear God's image, therefore in doing their duty they honor that image.
Secondly, by reason of their place they ought to go before such as are under them.
Thirdly, a faithful performance of their duty, is an especial means to keep their inferiours in compass of theirs.
Fourthly, their failing in duty is exemplary: it causeth others under them to fail in theirs, and so it is a double sin.
Fifthly, their reckoning shall be the greater: for of them who have received more, more shall be required.
It were therefore to be wished that superiours and inferiours would strive who should begin first, and who should perform their own part best, and in this kind strive to excel, as runners in a race strive to out-strip one another (1 Cor 11).
But if question be made who shall begin, I advise inferiours not to stand out in this strife, but to think the Apostle first inciteth them: and that it is the safest for them to begin: for in this contention inferiours are like to fare that worst, by reason of the power which superiours have over them. And though it be more against our corrupt, proud, and stout nature, to be subject and obey, yet let us so much the more endeavour to yield duty in this kind. For it is an especial part of spiritual prudence, to observe what our corrupt nature is most prone unto, and wherein it most swelleth up, that therein we may most strive to bear it down: nature is contrary to grace, and the wisdom of the flesh is enmity against God (Rom 8:7).
11. Of the reasons why wives' duties are first taught.
Quest. Why among other inferiours are wives first brought into the school of Christ to learn their duty?
Answ. Many good reasons may be given of the Apostle's order even in this point.
First, of all other inferiours in a family, wives are far the most excellent, and therefore to be placed in the first rank.
Secondly, wives were the first to whom subjection was enjoined: before there was child or servant in the world, it was said to her, thy desire shall be subject to thine husband (Gen 3:16).
Thirdly, wives are the fountain from which all other degrees spring: and therefore ought first to be cleansed.
Fourthly, this subjection is a good pattern unto children and servants: and a great means to move them to be subject.
Fifthly, I may further add as a truth, which is too manifest by experience in all places, that among all other parties of whom the Holy Ghost requireth subjection, wives for the most part are most backward (see Treatise 3, Section 4) in yielding subjection to their husbands. But ye wives that fear God, be careful to your duty: and though it may seem somewhat contrary to the common course and practise of wives, yet follow not a multitude to do evil (Exo 23:2). Though it be harsh to corrupt nature, yet beat down that corruption: yea though your husbands be backward in their duties, yet be ye forward, and strive to go before them in yours: remembering what the Lord saith (Matt 5:46,47). If you love them which love you, what singular thing do ye? Yea remembering also what the Apostle saith, (1 Tim 2:14) The woman was first in the transgression (Gen 3:16), and first had her duty given unto her, and was made for the man, and not man for the woman (1 Cor 11:9).
Thus shall ye deserve that commendation of good wives, Many have done virtuously, but ye excel them all (Prov 31:29).
Having hitherto handled the forenamed general instructions, I will proceed to a more distinct opening of the words; and collect such observations as thence arise, and then particularly declare the several duties which the three orders in a family owe each to other.
12. Of wives' subjection.
Ephesians 5:22. Wives subject your selves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
The word by which the Apostle hath noted out the duties of wives, is of the middle voice, and may be translated passively as many have done, or actively as our English doth [submit your selves] and that most fitly: for there is a double subjection.
1. A necessary subjection: which is the subjection of order.
2. A voluntary subjection: which is the subjection of duty.
The necessary subjection is that degree of inferiority, wherein God hath placed all inferiours, and whereby He hath subjected them to their superiours, that is, set them in a lower rank. By virtue thereof, though inferiours seek to exalt themselves above their superiours, yet are they subject unto them, their ambition doth not take away that order which God hath established. A wife is in an inferiour degree, though she domineer never so much over her husband.
The voluntary subjection, is that dutiful respect which inferiours carry towards those whom God hath set over them: whereby they manifest a willingness to yield to that order which God hath established. Because God hath placed them under their superiours, they will in all duty manifest that subjection which their place requireth.
Because it is a duty which is here required, the voluntary subjection must needs be here meant: and to express so much, it is thus set down, submit your selves.
Though the same word be here used that was in the former verse, yet it is restrained to a narrower compass, namely to subjection of reverence (see Section 3. I. Observe).
Here learn that to necessary subjection, must voluntary subjection be added: that is, duty must be performed according to that order and degree wherein God hath set us. This is to make a virtue of necessity.
Under this phrase [submit your selves] all the duties which a wife oweth to her husband are compassed, as I shall afterwards (see Treatise 3, Section 2) more distinctly show.
13. Of the persons to whom wives must be subject.
In setting down the parties to whom wives owe subjection, the Apostle noteth a particle of restraint and that to show that a wife ought to have but one husband, which is more plainly expressed in another place by the same phrase, let every woman have her own husband: that is, only one proper to her self; so as (1 Cor 7:2) (see Section 82,83).
It is unlawful for a wife to have more than one husband at once.
A wife must submit her self only to that one, proper husband, and to no other man [as she is a wife and yieldeth the duty of a wife] so as the subjection of adulteresses is here excluded: and the duty required is, that
A wife must yield a chaste, faithful, matrimonial subjection to her husband.
Hereby the way note the foolish collection of Adamites, Familists, and such like licentious libertines, who from the general words which the Apostle useth [men and women] infer that all women are as wives to all men, and that there needeth not any such near conjunction of one man with one woman. Which beastly opinion as it is contrary to the current of Scripture, and to the ancient law of marriage [two shall be one flesh] so also to this clause [their own husbands]. The Apostle, in using those general words, followed the Greek phrase, which putteth those two words [men, women] for husbands and wives: so also do other tongues, yea and our English. The particular relation, which is betwixt the persons who are meant by those two words, doth plainly show how they are to be taken, and when they are to be restrained to man and wife. To take away that ambiguity, our English hath well translated them, husband and wife.
To direct and provoke wives unto their duty, the Apostle addeth this clause [as unto the Lord] which is both a Rule and a Reason of wives' subjection. It directeth wives by noting the restraint of their obedience, and the manner thereof.
The restraint in that wives ought so to obey their husbands as withal they obey the Lord; but no further: they may not be subject in any thing to their husbands, that cannot stand with their subjection to the Lord.
The manner in that wives ought to yield such a kind of subjection to their husbands, as may be approved of the Lord. Thus the Apostle himself expoundeth this phrase, chapter 5, verse 5, 6.
It provoketh wives to submit themselves to their husbands, by noting the place of an husband, which is, to be in the Lord's stead, bearing His image, and in that respect having a fellowship and partnership with the Lord, so as
Wives in subjection themselves aright to their husbands are subject to the Lord. And on the contrary side,
Wives in refusing to be subject to their husbands, refuse to be subject to the Lord.
14. How an husband is his wife's head.
Ephesians 5:23. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and he is the Savior of the body.
The place of an husband intimated in the last clause of the former verse, is more plainly expressed, and fully explained in this verse. His place is expressed under the metaphor of an head: and amplified by his resemblance therein unto Christ.
The particle of connection [For] showeth that this verse is added as a reason: which may fitly be referred both to the duty itself: and to the manner of performing it.
The metaphor of an head enforceth the duty.
The amplification thereof by the resemblance that is made to Christ, enforceth the manner of performing the duty.
A wife must submit her self to an husband, because he is her head: and she must do it as unto the Lord, because her husband is to her, as Christ is to the Church.
The metaphor of an head declareth two points:
1. The dignity of an husband.
2. The duty of an husband.
1. As an head is more eminent and excellent than the body, and placed above it, so is an husand to his wife.
2. As an head, by the understanding which is in it, governeth, protecteth, preserveth, provideth for the body, so doth the husand his wife: at least he ought so to do: for this is his office and duty: this is here noted to show the benefit which a wife receiveth by her husband: so as two motives are included under this metaphor.
The first is taken from the husband's perogative, whence note that
Subjection must be yielded to such as are over us. For this is a main end of the difference between party and party. To what end is the head set above the body, if the body be not subject to it?
The second is taken from the benefit which a wife reapeth by her husband's superiority: and it showeth that
They who will not submit themselves to their superiours are injurious to themselves: as the body were injurious to it self, if it would not be subject to the head (see Treatise 3, Section 73)
15. Of the resemblance of an husband to Christ.
The more to enforce the forenamed reason, the Apostle addeth the resemblance that is betwixt an husband and Christ , as this note of comparison [even as] showeth: whence it followeth that
It is meet for a wife to submit her self to her husband, as for the Church to submit it self to Christ. This amplification is especially added for Christians. Heathens may be moved to subject themselves to their Governours, by the resemblance taken from a natural body. How much more ought Christians to be moved by the resemblance taken from the mystical body of Christ?
These words [and he is is the Saviour of the body] as they do declare the office of Christ, and the benefit which the Church reapeth, so they note the end why an husband is appointed to be the head of his wife, namely that by his provident care he may be as a saviour to her. It is here noted rather to show the benefit which a wife reapeth by her husband, than the duty which he oweth: for that the Apostle declareth afterwards, verse 25, etc. The meaning then is, That as Christ was given to be an head of the Church which is his body, that he might protect it, and provide all needful things for it, and so be a Saviour to it, even so for that very end are husbands appointed to be head of their wives.
Upon this ground the Apostle inferreth the conclusion in the next verse.
16. Of the resenblance betwixt:
The Church to Christ.
A wife to her husband.
Ephesians 5:24. Therefore as the Church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything.
This conclusion setteth forth not only the duty itself, but also another Reason, and another Rule to provoke and direct wives to perform their duty: and that under the pattern of the Church.
The reason may be thus framed, That which the Church doth to Christ, a wife must do to her husband. But the Church is subject to Christ. Therefore a wife must be subject to her husband.
The proposition is grounded on that resemblance which is betwixt the Church in relation to Christ, and a wife in relation to her husband: for an husband is that to his wife, which Christ is to the Church; therewith a wife must be so to her husband, as the Church is to Christ.
The rule noteth both the Manner [as] and also the Extent of a wife's subjection [in everything] (see more of the manner and extent of a wife's obedience, Treatise 3, Section 51 and 63).
Quest.. Is mortal and sinful man to be obeyed as the Lord Christ the eternal Son of God?
Answ. This extent is to be restrained to the generality of the things in question. As in other places, where the Apostle saith, all thing are lawful for me, he meaneth all indifferent things, for of them his speech was in that place. And where again he saith, Whatsoever is set before you, eat, he meaneth, whatsoever good and wholesome meat: for of that he spake.
Thus much of the main drift of the Apostle in setting before wives the example of Christ, to whom husbands are like in dignity, and the example of the Church, to whom wives ought to be like in duty.
I will further consider these examples of Christ and the Church more distinctly by themselves, without any relation to man and wife: and out of them note such general instructions as concern all Christians.
17. Of the relation betwixt Christ and the Church.
Ephesians 5:23, 24. Christ is the head of the Church: and He is the Saviour of the body. The Church is subject unto Christ in everything.
Behold here the mutual relation betwixt:
1. Christ.
2. The Church.
Wherein more concerning Christ,
1. His preeminence over the Church, [He is her head].
2. His goodness to her, [He is her Saviour].
Note also concerning the Church,
1. Her perogative, [she is the body of Christ].
2. Her duty. In laying down whereof there is noted, 1. Wherein it consisteth [The Church is subject to Christ], 2. How far it extendeth, [in everything].
The title Head is given to Christ in two respects.
1. In regard to His dignity and dominion over the Church (Col 1:18).
2. In regard of the near union betwixt Him and the Church (Eph 4:15-16).
This union is more fully expressed afterwards, in verse 30.
The dignity of Christ is here principally intended: so as Christ is the highest in authority over the Church: the titles Lord (2 Cor 8:6), Father, Master, Doctor (Matt 23:7-9), Prophet (Deut 18:15), First-born (Col 1:18), with the like, being by a kind of excellency and propriety attributed to Him, prove as much.
The causes hereof are
1. The good pleasure of God His Father.
2. The dignity of His person being God-Man.
3. The merit of His sacrifice whereby He hath redeemed and purchased His Church unto himself.
4. The omnipotency of His power whereby He is able to protect it.
5. The all-sufficiency of Spirit, whereby He is able to give to every member all needful grace.
Till the Pope of Rome can show so good reason for this title [Supreme head of the whole Church] we will account him a blasphemous usurper thereof.
Object. He is not accounted an Imperial head as Christ is, but only a Minister All head.
Answ. 1. This distinction is without all ground or warrant of Scripture.
2. It implieth plain contradiction. For to be a ministerial head, is to be an head and a Minister, which is all one as an head and member in relation to the same thing.
3. Though in these two words [Imperial, Ministerial] they may seem to advance Christ above the Pope, yet in their own interpretation of these words they make the Pope equal to Christ, if not advance him above Christ. For they say that Christ is an imperial head to quicken the Church inwardly: and the Pope a ministerial head to govern it outwardly. First let it be noted, how little congruity this exposition hath with the words expounded. Doth this word [imperial] intimate a quickening virtue? Doth this word [ministerial] imply a governing power? Nay, is there not great incongruity in this, that Christ should be the Imperial head, and yet the Pope an head to govern? Besides, doth not this rend asunder two of Christ's offices, and leaving one to Christ, give another to the Pope, and so make him equal with Christ? If the particular branches of this government which is given by papists unto the Pope by virtue of his headship be observed, we shall find that to be verified in him, which the Apostle hath foretold concerning Antichrist, that as God he sitteth in the temple of God, showing himself that he is God (2 Thess 2:4) For they give to him the keys of heaven and hell, to shut or open the one or other as pleaseth him: they give him power to dispense with God's laws, to coin articles of faith, to make laws to bind men's consciences directly and immediately, to give pardon for sin, to free subjects from allegiance to their Sovereigns, to canonize Saints, and what not? But to let these impious blasphemies pass, beside that this perogitive of Christ [to be head of the Church] (Eph 1:21-23) is incommunicable [for thereby the Apostle proveth Christ to be advanced far above all principality, and power, and might, and dominion, and every name, etc.] Christ needeth not for the execution of his office therein any Vicar, or Deputy: for as head he filleth all in all things: and by his eternal spirit is He in heaven, earth, and every place where any of His members are, according to His promises made unto His Church (Matt 18:20; 28:20).
Much comfort and great confidence must this needs minister to all such as have assurance that they are of this body: for having so mighty, so wise, so merciful an head, an head so sufficient every way, who can instruct, direct, guide, govern, protect, and help them in all their needs whatsoever, what need they fear? When we are assaulted by Satan, or any way set upon by any of his instruments, or are in any distress or need, let us lift up the eyes of our faith higher than we can the eyes of our body, and in heaven behold this our head, who is invisible, and we cannot but receive from thence much comfort, and encouragement.
18. Of the benefit of Christ's headship.
The goodness of Christ is set down in these words [and He is the Saviour of the body]. Every word almost hath His emphasis.
1. The copulative particle [And] showeth that The goodness which Christ doth for His Church, He doth because He is the head thereof.
O how happy a thing is it for the Church that it hath such an head! An head that doth not tyrannize over it, nor trample it under foot: an head that doth not pole, nor peel the Church: but procureth peace and safety to it. When Naomi sought to make a match betwixt Boaz and Ruth, that he might be her head, what saith she? Shall I not seek rest for thee that it may be well with thee? (Ruth 3:1). It is therefore the office of an head to be a Saviour, to procure rest and prosperity to the body whose head it is.
Happy were it for kingdoms, Commonwealths, cities, Churches, families, wives, and all that have heads, if they were such heads: that, because they are heads, they would endeavour to be Saviours.
19. Of Christ a sufficient Saviour.
In laying forth the goodness of Christ three things are noted.
1. The kind of goodness, which is Salvation [the Saviour].
2. The person that performeth [He Himself].
3. The parties for whom He performeth it [the body].
1. The Greek word translated Saviour is so emphatical that other tongues can hardly find a fit word to express the emphasis thereof: it being attributed to Christ, implieth that Christ is a most absolute and perfect Saviour, He is every way a sufficient Saviour: able perfectly to save even to the very uttermost. (Heb 7:25) He saveth soul and body: he saveth from all manner of misery: which is intimated by that particular from which he saveth, namely sin: He shall save His people from their sins. Sin is the greatest, and most grievous evil; yea, the cause of all misery: they who are saved from it, are saved from all evil: for there is nothing hurtful to man, but that which is caused by sin, or poised by it.
Before sin seized on man he was most happy, free from all misery: and so shall be after the contagion, guilt, punishment, dominion, and remainder of sin is removed. But he that remaineth in the bondage of sin is in a most woeful plight. In that Christ saveth from sin, He saveth from the wrath of God, the curse of the Law, the venom of all outward crosses, the tyranny of Satan, the sting of death, the power of the grave, the torments of hell, and what not?
The purity of Christ's nature, and excellency of His person is it that maketh Him so sufficient a Saviour: which reason the Apostle himself noteth: for where he saith that Christ is able to save to the uttermost, he addeth, for proof thereof, that He is Holy, harmless, undefiled, separate from sinners, and made higher then the heavens (Heb 7:25-26).
Great matter of rejoicing, and of confidence doth this minister unto us. When the Angel brought this news, To you is born a Saviour, he saith, Behold I bring you good tidings of great joy (Luke 2:10-11). This made the Virgin Mary say, My spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour, (Luke 1:47) and for this did Zacharias bless God that redeemed His people, and raised up a horn of salvation (vs. 68-69). When the eyes of old Simeon had seen this salvation, he desired no longer to live, but said, Lord now lettest thou thy servant depart in peace (Luke 2:29-30).
They who believe in this Saviour will be of like mind: and as they rejoice in Him, so they will trust unto Him, and say with the Apostle, we are more than conquerors through Him that love us, etc. (Rom 8:37).
This being so, to what end serveth the supposed treasure of the Church, wherein are said to be stored up indulgences, pardons, merits, works of superogation, and I know not what trash, to add to the satisfaction of this Saviour? Either Christ is not a sufficient Saviour, or these are [to speak] the least vain. But vain they are: etc. and empty, filthy, detestable treasure that is, which God will destroy with all that trust therein.
20. Of Christ the only Saviour.
This relative particle [He] hath also emphasis; for as it pointeth out Christ the head of the Church, so it restraineth this great work to Him: it may thus be translated, He himself: that is, He in His own person, He by Himself, He and none but He. So as to speak properly,
Christ is the only Saviour of men: in which respect He is called the horn of salvation, (Luke 1:69) yea Salvation itself (Luke 2:30): which titles are given to Him by an excellency and propriety: and in the same respect the name Jesus was given unto Him (Matt 1:21).
Here by way note the blasphemous arrogancy of those great sectaries among the Papists, who style themselves Jesuits: assuming that name which is proper to this great office of Jesus Christ.
Object. Why is this name more blasphemous, than the title Christians?
Answ. One of their own religion doth thus resolve that objection: We are called Christians of Christ, not Jesuits of Jesus, because we partake of the thing signified by the name Christ, that is anointing: for [as the Apostle saith] we all receive of His fulness. But He hath not communicated to us the thing signified by the name Jesus; for it belongeth to Him alone to save, as saith the Scripture, He shall save His people: as if He should say, He alone, and no other (Matt 16).
But to return to our matter, Peter doth most plainly and fully prove the forenamed doctrine in these words spoken of Jesus Christ, There is not salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men whereby we must be saved. (Acts 4:12) None is able, none is worthy to work so great a work: He must do it, or it can not be done. But He is so able, and so worthy as He can do it of Himself, and needeth none to assist Him (Isa 63:3).
What a dotage is it to trust to other Saviours? Legions of Saviours have Papists to whom they fly in their need. All the Angels in heaven, and all, whom at any time their Popes have canonized for Saints [which are many millions] are made Saviours by them. Be astonished, O ye heavens, at this: for they have committed two evils: they have forsaken Christ the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns that can hold no water (Jer 2:12-13). (See The Whole Armour of God, Treatise 1, Part 1, Section 5.)
Let us for our parts fly unto this Saviour only, and wholly rely upon Him, as we desire to be saved. Thus shall we honour Him by preferring Him before all: yea by rejecting all but Him: and thus shall we be sure to bring help, ease and comfort to our own souls.
21. Of the Church the body of Christ.
The persons who receive any benefit by the Saviour, are all comprised under this metaphor the body: whereby the same thing is meant that was meant before by the Church.
Church according to the notation of the Greek word signifieth an assembly called together. It is in Scripture by a propriety attributed to them who are called to God.
This calling is twofold:
1. Outward, which is common to all that make profession of the gospel: in this respect it is said, many are called and few chosen.
2. Inward, which is proper to the elect, none but they, and all they in their time shall both outwardly be called by the word to a profession of Christ, and also inwardly and effectually by the Spirit to believe in Christ, and obey His Gospel. This is styled an heavenly calling (Heb 3:1), which is proper to the Saints (1 Cor 1:2). These make that Church, whereof Christ is properly the head: and therefore in relation to that metaphor of an head, they are called the Body: and that in these respects;
1. They are under Christ, as a body under the head.
2. They receive Spiritual life and grace from Christ, as a body natural receiveth sense, and vigour from the head.
3. Christ governeth them, as an head of the body.
4. They are subject to Christ, as a body to the head.
22. Of the extent of Christ's goodness to all His body.
This metaphor, by which the persons that reap the benefit of Christ's office are set forth, noteth two points.
1. All that are once incorporated into Christ shall be saved. The body compriseth all the parts and members under it: not only arms, shoulders, breast, back, and such like: but also hands, fingers, feet, toes, and all. Christ their head being their Saviour, who can doubt of their salvation?
2. None but those that are incorporated into Christ shall be saved. For this privilege is appropriated to the body.
The former point is clearly set forth by a resemblance, which the Apostle maketh betwixt Adam and Christ, thus: As by the offence of one, judgment came on all men to condemnation, even so by the righteousness of one, the free gift came on all men unto sanctification of life. Here are noted two roots, one is Adam, the other is Christ: both of them have their number of branches, to all which they convey that which is in them, as the root conveyeth the sap that is in it, into all the branches that sprout from it. The first root, which is Adam, conveyeth sin and death to all that come from him: and the other root, which is Christ, conveyeth grace and life to everyone that is given to Him: for saith He, All that the Father giveth me, shall come to me: and him that cometh to me, I will in no wise cast out: and a little after, he rendereth this reason, This is the Father's will, that of all which He hath given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at the last day.
Object. Christ himself maketh exception of one, where he saith, none is lost but the son of perdition.
Answ. That phrase son of perdition, sheweth that Judas was never of this body: for can we imagine that Christ is a Saviour of a son of perdition?
Object. Why is he then excepted?
Answ. By reson of his office and calling he seemed to be of this body, and till he was made known, none could otherwise judge of him, in which respect S. Peter saith, he was numbered with us (Acts 1:17).
2. Answ. Christ there speaketh in particular of the twelve Apostles, and to be an Apostle of Christ was in itself but an outward calling.
This is a point of admirable comfort to such as have assurance of their incorporation into Christ, they may rest upon the benefit of this office of Christ, that he is a Saviour. We need not think of climbing up to heaven, and searching God's records to see if our names be written in the Book of Life. Let us only make trial whether we be of this body or no. For our help herein, know we that this metaphor of a body implieth two things.
1. A mystical union with Christ.
2. A spiritual communion with the Saints.
1. By virtue of that union they who are of Christ's body,
1. Receive grace, and life from him (Eph 4:15,16).
2. Are guided and governed according to his will (John 17:6).
3. Seek to honour him in all things they do (John 17:10).
4. Are offended and grieved when he is dishonoured by others (Gal 3:1, Psa 116:136).
2. By reason of their communion with the Saints being fellow members,
1. They love the brethren (1 John 4:11).
2. They are ready to succour such as are in distress (Matt 25:40).
3. They will edify one another (Eph 4:16).
4. They retain a mutual sympathy: rejoicing, and mourning one with another (1 Cor 12:26).
23. Of the restraint of the benefit of Christ's headship to them only that are of his body.
That none but those who are of Christ's body, shall partake of the benefit of his office, is clear by other like titles of restraint, as his people (Matt 1:21), and his sheep (John 10:15): but especially by denying to the world the benefit of his intercession. I pray not for the world saith he (John 17:9). In this respect this postiion [out of the Church no salvation] is without exceptionn true: for the body is the true, catholic, invisible Church: he that is not a member of this Church, but is out of it, hath not Christ to be his head and Saviour, whence then can he have salvation?
The former point is not more comfortable to those that have assurance that they are members of this body, than this is terrible to those that give too great evidence they are no members thereof; as all they do that have not the spirit of Christ ruling in them, but rather rebel against him: and bear no love to the Saints, but rather hate them, and do them all the spite they can.
24. Of the Church's subjection to Christ.
Ephesians 5:24. The Church is subject unto Christ in everything.
The duty which the Church in way of thankfulness performeth to Christ her head for this great benefit, that he is her Saviour, is Subjection: Under which word is comprised all that obedience and duty, which in any kind Christ requireth of the Church, in and by the word.
Quest. Is it possible for that part of the Church which is here on earth, to yield such obedience?
Answ. It will faithfully endeavor to do what it can: and that honest and utmost endeavor Christ graciously accepteth for a perfect performance of all.
In that it is here taken for granted, that the Church is subject to Christ; I may, as from a general to particular, infer that
Whosoever is of the true catholic Church is subject to Christ, and yieldeth obedience to his word. We will run after thee, saith the Church to Christ. My sheep hear my voice and follow me (John 10:27), saith Christ of that flock, which is his Church.
For Christ conveyeth his own spirit into his mystical body the Church, and into every member thereof: which spirit is much more operative, and lively than the soul of man. If therefore man's soul quickening every part of the natural body, make them subject to the head, much more will the spirit of Christ bring the members of his mystical body in subjection to himself. If the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead, shall also quicken your mortal bodies, by the Spirit that dwelleth in you (Rom 8:11).
Hereby let trial be made of particular visible Churches and of particular persons, whether they are indeed of this true catholic Church or no. Those visible Churches which refuse to be governed by Christ's word, and are wholly governed by human traditions, which rise against Christ and play the adulterers by committing idolatry, are not of this catholic Church which is subject to Christ. No more are infidels that defy Christ, heretics that deny him, ignorant persons that know not his will, profane persons that despise him, worldlings that lightly esteem him, nor any that persecute or scorn him in his members. By this we may see that many have a name that they are of the Church, who indeed are not.
Object. Many such persons may belong to God's election, and so be of that body whereof Christ is a Saviour.
Answ. Election indeed giveth them a title to Christ, but they cannot reap any benefit by that title till they have a possession of Christ by virtue of their spiritual union with him. Neither can they have any assurance of their election, till they find by the quickening virtue of the spirit, that they are united unto Christ. Wherefore so long as men remain destitute of the Spirit of Christ, and are possessed with a contrary Spirit, they may well be judged for the present to be none of this body, nor to have any part in Christ, their future estate being referred to him who only knoweth what it shall be.
25. Of the extent of the Church's subjection.
The extent of the Church's subjection to Christ is without any restraint at all, in everything. For there is nothing which Christ requireth of her, but she may with a good conscience, and must in obedience yield unto. Just, and pure, and perfect are all his commandments, there is no error in any of them: no mischief or inconvenience can follow upon the keeping of them. This extent being here taken for granted, I may further infer that
They who are of the true catholic Church will yield universal obedience to Christ: they will obey him in all and every of his commandments. David turned not aside from any thing that the Lord commanded him (1 Kings 15:5). Josiah turned to the Lord with all his heart according to the law (2 Kings 23:25) and Zacharias and Elizabeth, walked in all the commandments of God (Luke 1:6). All these were of this Church: and of their mind are all others that are of this Church.
For the Spirit of Christ which is in them worketh a thorough reformation: even as the flesh leadeth a natural man on to every sin, so the Spirit of Christ stirreth him up to every good duty. In which respect it is said, that whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin (1 John 3:9).
Object. The best Saints in all ages have transgressed in many things (James 3:2).
Answ. Their sins though grievous, have not willfully in open rebellion against Christ been committed, but they have slipped from them partly through their own weakness, and partly through the violence of some temptation. So as that which the Apostle saith of himself, may be applied to all that are of the body of Christ, That which I do I allow not: Now then is it no more I that do it, but the sin that dwelleth in me (Rom 7:15-17).
This extent is a good proof of the truth of subjection, for herein lieth a main difference between the upright, and the hypocrite; yea between restraining and renewing grace. That restraining grace which is in many hypocrites stirreth them to do many things which Christ commandeth, if at least they cross not their honor, profit, ease, and the like. Herod that notorious hypocrite did many things (Mark 6:20). None that beareth the name of the Church, but will be subject in some things. But none but the upright, who are indeed renewed by the sanctifying Spirit of Christ, will in all things make Christ's will their rule, and in everything hold close to it, preferring it before their pleasure, profit, preferment, or any other outward allurement. They who so do, give good evidence that they are of the body of Christ, and may rest upon it, that Christ is their Saviour.
26. Of the sum of husbands' duties.
Ephesians 5:25. Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church and gave himself for it.
From wives' duties the Apostle proceedeth to press husbands' duties. And he propounded to wives for a pattern, the example of the Church, so to husbands he propoundeth the example of Christ: and (v. 28,29) addeth thereunto the pattern of a man's self, in regard of that natural affection which he beareth to his body. Thus he added pattern to pattern, and doth the more largely and earnestly press them, because husbands having a more honorable place, their failing in duty is the more heinous, scandalous and dangerous.
The Apostle restraineth the duties of husbands to their own wives, as he did the duties of wives to their own husbands. For though the same word be not here used which was before, yet a word of like emphasis is used: and as good reason there is that our English translators should have put in this particle [own] in this verse, as in the twenty-second verse, for proof whereof, read 1 Corinthians 7:2. Where (see Section 82) these two words are used and both of them translate own.
This I have the rather noted, because many who hold that a wife must have but one husband, conceit that a husband may have more wives than one: which conceit this particle [own] wipeth away. All the duties of an husband are comprised under this one word: love. (See Treatise 4, Section 2) Wherein that an husband might be the better directed, and whereto that he might be the rather provoked, the forenamed example of Christ, and of his love to the Church, is very lively set forth: first generally in these words, even as Christ loved the Church: and then more particularly in the words following.
27. Of the example of Christ's love.
The note of comparison [even as] requireth no equality as if it were possible for an husband in that measure to love his wife, as Christ loved his Church; [for Christ in excellency and greatness exceedeth man, so in love and tenderness]. But it noteth an equity and like quality.
An equity, because there is as great reason that husbands by virtue of their place should love their wives, as that Christ by virtue of his place should love the Church.
A like quality because the love which Christ beareth to the Church is every way without exception: and a love which turneth to the good and benefit of the Church. Hence note two points.
1. Husbands must come as near as they can to Christ in loving their wives. In which respect, because they can never love so much as Christ did, they must never think they have loved enough.
2. Though their love in measure cannot equal Christ's love, yet in the manner thereof it must be like Christ's, a preventing, true, free, pure, exceeding, constant love.
The measure and manner of Christ's love is distinctly noted, (see Section 61). And the love which an husband oweth his wife paralleled and applied thereto, which application may be also made of that Christian mutual love which we owe one to another.
The love of Christ to the church is amplified,
1. By an effect thereof, in these words, He gave himself for it.
2. By the end of that effect, largely set down, verse 26, 27.
The effect is noted partly as a confirmation of the truth and declaration of the measure of Christ's love.
The Act [he gave] sheweth that his love was indeed and truth: not only in shew and pretence.
The Object [himself] sheweth that he loved his Church more than his own life. A greater evidence of love could not be given: for greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friend (John 15:13).
The end of Christ's love (set forth verse 26, 27) is noted to show that he so loved his Church for her good and happiness, rather than for any advantage to himself.
As this example of Christ's love to his Church is set before husbands: so it may and ought also to be applied to all Christians: and that in a double respect.
1. As a motive to stir them up to love both Christ himself and also their brethren.
2. As a pattern to teach them how to love.
A motive it is to love Christ, because love deserveth love: especially such a love, of such a person as the love of Christ is. Yea, our love of Christ is an evidence that we are loved of Christ, as smoke is a sign of fire. Wherefore both in thankfulness to Christ, for his love to us, and for assurance to our own souls of Christ's love to us, we ought in all things that we can to testify our love to Christ.
A motive is also to love our brethren, because Christ being in heaven, our goodness extendeth not to him (Psa 16:2): but our brethren on earth stand in his stead, and the love we shew to them, we shew to him; and he accepteth it as done to him: Ye fed me, ye visited me, (Matt 25:35,40) saith Christ to them that fed and visited his brethren. This love also, even the love of our brethren, (John 4:20) is an evidence that we are loved of God. Wherefore if Christ so loved us, we ought also to love one another (John 4:11).
How the love of Christ is a pattern, I will afterward shew (see Treatise 4, Section 61).
28. Of Christ's giving himself.
Ephesians 5:25. And gave himself for it.
This fruit and effect of Christ's love extendeth itself to all the things that Christ did or suffered for our redemption: as, that he descended from heaven, took upon himself our nature, and became a man; that he subjected himself to the Law, and perfectly fulfilled it; that he made himself subject to many temptations of the devil and his instruments; that he took upon him our infirmities; that he became a King to govern us, a Prophet to instruct us, a Priest to make an atonement for us: that he subjected himself to death, the cursed death of the cross, and so made himself an oblation and sacrifice for our sins; that he was buried; that he rose again; that he ascended into heaven, and there sitteth at God's right hand to make intercession for us. For after that Christ had taken upon him to be our head and Saviour, he wholly set himself apart for our use, and our benefit: so as his person, his offices, his actions, his sufferings, his humiliation, his exaltation, the dignity, the purity, the efficacy of all is the Church's, and to her good do they all tend. This in general is the extent of this fruit of Christ's love, he gave himself for it.
More particularly, we may note these three points:
1. The action, what he did, [he gave].
2. The object, what he gave, [himself].
3. The end, why he gave himself, [for it] for the Church's good.
The action having relation to the object, most especially pointeth at the death of Christ. The Greek word is a compound word, and signifieth to give up. It implieth two things:
1. That Christ willingly died: the simple word [gave] intimateth so much.
2. That his death was an oblation: that is, a price of redemption, or a satisfaction: the compound word [gave up] intimateth so much.
29. Of the willingness of Christ to die.
That Christ willingly died is evident by the circumstances noted about his death: when Peter counseled him to spare himself, and not to go to Jerusalem [where he was to be put to death] (Matt 16:22,23) he called him Satan, and said, he was an offence to him: when Judas went out to betray him (John 13:27), he said unto him, That thou doest, do quickly (John 18:2). When Judas was gone out to get company to apprehend him, he went to the place where he was wont, so as Judas might readily find him; yea he met them in the mid-way that came to take him; and he asked them whom they sought, though he knew whom they sought: and when they said, Jesus of Nazareth, he answered, I am he: When they came to him, he drove them backward with a word of his mouth, and yet would not escape from them: (Matt 26:53) He could have prayed to the Father to have had more than twelve legions of Angels for his safeguard against those that apprehended him, but would not: (Matt 27:42) when by his adversaries he was provoked to have come down from the cross, and could have done so, he would not. (Mark 15:39) At the instant of giving up the ghost, he cried with a loud voice: which shewest that his life was not then spent, he might have retained it longer if he would: and thereupon the Centurion gathered that he was the Son of God. (John 2:19, Matt 28:6) When he was actually dead, and laid in the grave, he rose again. These and other like circumstances verify that that which Christ said of himself, (John 10:18) No man taketh my life from me, but I lay it down of myself. It was therefore no necessity that compelled him to die, but his voluntary obedience.
Christ is (Acts 3:15) the Lord, Prince and Author of life, and hath an absolute power as over the life of others, so over his own life.
Thus when we see that his sacrifice was a voluntary and free gift: the cause thereof was his own will and good pleasure.
Exceedingly doth this commend the love of Christ: and assureth us that it is the more acceptable to God, who loveth a cheerful giver (2 Cor 9:7).
Let us in imitation of our head, do the things whereunto we are called willingly and cheerfully, though they seem never so disgraceful to the world, or grievous to our weak flesh.
30. Of the kind of Christ's death, an oblation.
That Christ's death was an oblation, and a price of redemption, is evident by the death of those beasts which were offered up for a sacrifice, and therein were a type of Christ's death. But expressly it is noted by this Apostle, where he saith, Christ hath given himself for us, an offering and sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour (Eph 5:2), and again, Christ gave himself a ransom (1 Tim 2:6). The phrases of redeeming (1 Peter 1:18,19), purchasing (Acts 20:28), buying (2 Peter 2:1) with the like, attributed to Christ and his blood, do further confirm the same.
Learn hereby to consider Christ's death, not as the death of a private man, but of a public person, of a surety, of a pledge, that in our room and stead was made sin (2 Cor 5:21), and was made a curse (Gal 3:13) to redeem us from our sins, and from the curse which by sin was fallen upon us. The comfort and benefit of Christ's death is lost, if this be not known and believed. In this consisteth a main difference between the death of Christ, and all other men, no the most righteous martyrs excepted. Their death was but a duty, and debt: no satisfactory oblation, no price, no ransom, as Christ's was.
31. Of the infinite value of the price of our redemption.
The object, or thing which Christ gave for a ransom was himself, not his body alone, nor his body and soul only, but his person consisting of his two natures, human and divine.
Quest. How could his divine nature be given up? Could it suffer? Could it die?
Answ. 1. The Deity simply considered in and by itself, could not die. For the Son of God assuming an human nature into the unity of his divine nature, and uniting them together without confusion, alteration, distractions, separation, in one person, that which is done by one nature is done by the person, and in that respect the Scripture often attributeth it to the other nature: as when it is said, They crucified the Lord of glory (1 Cor 2:8) and God purchased the Church with his own blood (Acts 20:28).
2. Though the divine nature of Christ suffered not, yet did it support the human nature, and add dignity, worth the efficacy to the sufferings of that nature.
3. Christ's divine nature had proper and peculiar works in the work of redemption, as to sanctify his human nature, to take away our sins, to reconcile us to God, and the like.
Thus then in three respects the whole person of Christ was given to us.
1. In regard of the inseparable union of both natures.
2. In regard of the assistance of the Deity in those things which the human nature of Christ did.
3. In regard of some proper actions pertaining to the Deity.
In that the person of Christ God-Man was given up, I gather that
The price of our redemption is of infinite value (1 Peter 1:19). Not Christ, nor God himself could give a greater. Heaven and earth and all things in them are not of like worth. Well therefore might S. Peter call it precious blood: and prefer it before silver, gold, and all other things of great price.
1. What place can be left for despair in those that know and believe the worth of this ransom?
2. What can be held too dear for him, that notwithstanding the infinite excellency of his person gave himself for us? can goods, can friends, can children, can liberty, can life, can anything else?
3. What just cause have we to give up ourselves a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to him that gave himself for us (Rom 12:1)?
4. How ungrateful, how unworthy of Christ are they, that for his sake will not forsake their unstable honors, fading wealth, vain pleasure, garish attire, and such like trash?
32. Of Christ s seeking the good of the Church.
The End why Christ gave himself was, for the Church: for as Christ in his death aimed at our good (2 Cor 5:21). He was made sin for us that we might be made the righteousness of God in him: he was made a curse for us, and hath redeemed us from the curse of the law (Gal 3:13). He gave himself for our sins, that he might deliver us (Gal 1:4): he laid down his life for the sheep (John 10:15).
This proves Christ's giving of himself to be a fruit of his love: for love seeketh not her own (1 Cor 13:5).
Learn we hereby to apply all that Christ did to ourselves. If for us he gave himself, he and all pertaining to him is ours (see Section 28).
Learn we also hereby how to manifest love: namely by seeking, and procuring the good of others. Let no man seek his own, but every man another's wealth (1 Cor 10:24). If this were practiced, would there be such oppressing, such undermining, such deceiving, such wrongdoing of one another as there is? Too truly is the Apostle's complaint verified in our days. All seek their own (Phil 2:21). But let that mind be in us which was in Christ Jesus, and thus manifest our love, as we desire to partake of this fruit of Christ's love.
From hence by just consequence it followeth that Christ merited not for himself. Was there any need that Christ should come down from heaven on earth, to purchase anything for himself? When he was going out of the world, thus he prayed, Now, O Father, glorify thou me with the glory which I had with thee before the world was (John 17:5). Did Christ by anything which he did on earth merit that glory which he had before the world was? All the exaltation whereunto he was advanced even in his human nature, was due to the dignity of his person.
1. Object. He endured the cross for the joy that was set before him (Heb 12:2).
Answ. He used that joy which of right was due to him as an help to support him in the weakness of his human nature, not as a recompense which he should deserve.
2. Object. He became obedient to the death of the cross, Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him (Phil 2:9).
Answ. That particle [wherefore] doth not declare the cause, but the order of his exaltation: noting a consequence that followed after his death. After he had humbled himself so low, he was most highly advanced.
3. Object. Christ being man was bound to the Law: and therefore for himself he ought to fulfill it.
Answ. If he had been mere man, that were true. But he uniting his human nature unto his divine, and making of both one person, which person was God as well as man, he was bound to nothing further than it pleased him voluntarily to subject himself unto for our sakes.
2. If Christ were bound to the Law, of duty he must have fulfilled it: and if of duty he was to fulfill it, how could he thereby merit so high a degree of honor as he is advanced unto?
This conceit of Christ's meriting for himself, doth much extenuate the glory of Christ's grace and goodness in giving himself.
33. Of the particular ends, why Christ gave himself, and of the condition of the Church before Christ took her.
Ephesians 5:26. That he might sanctify it, and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word.
The general end of Christ's giving himself being before intimated in this phrase [for us] is in this and the next verse particularly exemplified: and that in two branches.
One respecteth the estate of the Church in this world (v. 26).
The other respecteth her estate in the world to come (v. 27).
The latter of these two is the most principal.
The former is subordinate to the latter, an end for the accomplishing of the other end, for the Church is here made pure, that hereafter it may be made glorious.
In laying down the former he noteth
1. The end whereat Christ aimed.
2. The means. whereby he effected that which he aimed at. That end is set forth in these words, that he might sanctify it (see Section 39) having cleansed it [thus may they word for word be translated] so as that which for order of words is in the latter place, for order of matter is in the first place.
The word [cleansing] pointed out our justification.
The word [sanctifying] expresseth our sanctification.
The means of effecting these are two.
1. Baptism comprised under this phrase, washing of water.
2. The word.
The two branches of the former end, namely cleansing and sanctifying do in general imply two things.
1. The condition of the Church in itself.
2. The alteration thereof by Christ.
The condition is presupposed, which is, that she was impure, polluted, in the common estate of corrupt man. Things in themselves pure, are not cleansed, but things foul and impure: persons of themselves freed, and exempted from a common misery, need not another's help to free and exempt them. Seeing then that the Church stood in need to be cleansed and sanctified surely.
The Church in herself was, as the world, polluted. Very lively is this set forth by the Prophet Ezekiel under the similitude of a wretched infant born of a cursed parentage, whose navel was not cut, who was not washed, salted, nor swaddled, but cast out in the open field, polluted with blood. Oft doth the Apostle, setting forth the wretched estate of the world, note of the true members of the church, that we ourselves also were such (Titus 3:3, Eph 2:3, 1 Cor 6:11).
The Church consisteth of none other than of such as came out of Adam's loins. Now as all the brood which cometh from vipers, adders, toads, spiders, and other venomous dams, are infected with poison, so all the sons of Adam are polluted with sin. That which is born of the flesh [as is every mother's child, not the members of the Church excepted: for they have fathers and mothers of their flesh] is flesh; that is, polluted and corrupt. Therefore when we are taken into the Church, we are born again (John 3:3,5).
This our former estate by nature is oft and seriously to be thought of, and that in respect of Christ, ourselves and others.
1. In regard of Christ, the more to magnify his love. Our former estate, before he cast the wings of his mercy upon us, sheweth our unworthiness, our vileness, and wretchedness, and in that respect it openeth our heart and mouth to think and say, O Lord our Lord, what is man that thou art mindful of him, and the son of man that thou visiteth him! (Psa 8:1,4) Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world! (John 14:22) The right knowledge of our former estate, and a due consideration thereof, maketh us ascribe all the glory of our present dignity, and happiness, to Christ that altered our estate, as S. Paul, (1 Tim 1:12) I thank Christ Jesus our Lord who hath enabled me, who was before a blasphemer. Yea it maketh us the more to prize and esteem the present estate, as David (2 Sam 7:18).
2. In regard of ourselves this is to be thought of, to humble us, and to keep us from insolent boasting in those privileges whereof through Christ we are made partakers. To this purpose doth the Apostle thus press this point, Who maketh thee to differ from one another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it? (1 Cor 4:7) When a man is exalted from a mean, to a great place, and thereupon waxeth proud and insolent, we say, he hath forgotten from whence he came. So as remembrance of our former condition is a means to preserve humility, and to suppress insolence.
3. In regard of others it is to be thought of, to move us the more to commiserate their woeful estate, who yet remain as we once were; to conceive hope that their estate may be altered as well as ours was; to pray and use what means we can that it may be altered. To provoke Christians to shew all meekness to them which were without, the Apostle renders this reason, for we ourselves also in times past were foolish (Titus 3:3). (Read how forcibly this is urged, Romans 11:18-20).
34. Of Christ's preventing grace.
In setting down the alteration of the forenamed condition note.
1. The manner of laying it forth.
2. The matter of substance thereof.
The manner is implied in this conjunction. That [that he might sanctify it] Christ loved the Church, and gave himself for it, not because it was sanctified, but that he might sanctify it; so as
The grace which Christ sheweth to the Church, is a preventing grace. Sanctification is no cause, but an effect of Christ's love: and followeth in order after his love. His love arose only and wholly from himself: in the parties loved, there was nothing but matter of hatred before they were loved. Moses thus saith of the love of God to Israel, The Lord did not set his love upon you because ye were more in number, but because the Lord loved you. This at first may seem to be [as we say] a woman's reason, that the Lord should set his love on them because he loved them, but it being duly observed, we shall find excellently set forth the ground of God's love rest altogether in himself, and in his own good pleasure. Yea, this being noted as the end of Christ's love, that he might sanctify it, (Deut 7:7,8) it further sheweth that it was not any foresight of holiness in the Church that moved him to love it: first he loved it, and then sought how to make it amiable, and worthy to be loved.
Herein differeth Christ's love from the love of all men towards their spouses: for they must see something in them, to move them to love. When Ahash-verosh was to choose a wife, the maidens out of whom he was to take one, were first purified, and then he took her in whom he most delighted: But Christ first loveth his spouse, and then sanctifieth it. Before he loved it, he saw nothing in it why he should prefer it before the world.
Seeing of him, and through him, and to him is all the beauty and dignity of the Church, the glory be to him for ever. Amen (Rom 11:36).
35. Of Christ's seeking to make his Church pure.
The matter or substance of that subordinate end which Christ aimed at in giving himself for the Church, is in these words. [that he might sanctify it having cleansed it] which in general shew that:
Christ seeketh the purity of his Church. For this end hath he shed his own most pure and precious blood [for his blood cleanseth us from all sin (1 John 1:7)] and conveyeth his holy Spirit into his body the Church, which is called the Spirit of Sanctification (Rom 1:4), because it reneweth and sanctifieth those in whom it is.
This Christ aimeth at, that he might make his spouse-like to himself, pure, as he is pure.
That end which Christ aimed at, we that profess ourselves to be of this Church, must endeavor after: for every man that hath this hope in him purgeth himself as he is pure (1 John 3:3). Let us therefore use all good means to cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of flesh, and spirit.
This being the end which Christ aimeth at for the good of his Church to cleanse it, that who findeth themselves cleansed have a good evidence that they are of this Church: they who are not cleansed can have no assurance thereof.
How unworthy are they of this benefit, that live as the world, and like swine upon every occasion wallow in the mire, being drawn by every temptation into sin? Do they not, as much as in them lieth, make the death of Christ to be in vain, and pervert that main end, which Christ aimed at in giving himself?
But what may be thought of such as Ishmael-like mock and scoff at those that labor to be cleansed?
36. Of the Church's justification.
The two particular parts of the forenamed end, which are cleansing, and sanctifying, do more distinctly set forth the purity of the Church even in this world. Cleansing hath relation to the blood of Christ, and so pointeth out our justification.
Sanctifying hath relation to the Spirit of Christ, which worketh our sanctification.
From this cleansing of the Church here meant, I gather, that
No sin lieth upon the Church: for the blood of Christ purgeth from all sin. This is to be taken of the guilt of sin, which by Christ's death is clean taken away: so as that sin which is in us is as not in us, because it is not imputed unto us (1 John 1:7).
Behold here the blessed estate of the Church, for Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man unto whom the Lord imputeth not sin (Psa 32:1,2).
37. Of the Church's sanctification.
From the sanctifying of the Church here mentioned, I further gather, that
The Church is made holy and righteous: This is here meant of that inherent righteousness which the Spirit of Christ worketh in all the members of his body. In which respect they are called Saints: (1 Cor 1:2) so as not only the guilt of sin is taken away, but also the very body of sin is so destroyed in them, (Rom 6:6) as it can no more reign in them, nor they obey it in the lusts thereof: but instead of the dominion of sin the Spirit of Christ reigneth in them, and leadeth them unto all righteousness.
Behold here the free estate of the Church: whereas the world lieth under the slavery of sin, and tyranny of Satan, the Church is made free from sin, and a servant of righteousness dead to sin, and alive to God in Jesus Christ (Rom 6:18, 11).
38. Of the Church's purity before God and man.
From the connection of these two benefits of Christ's death, justification and sanctification together, we see that The Church is both spotless before God and blameless before men (Titus 2:11,12). The blood of Christ so cleanseth her as in God's sight she hath no spot of sin: and the spirit of Christ so sanctifieth her, as her righteousness shineth before men: for the grace of God teacheth her to deny ungodliness and worldly lusts, and to live soberly, righteously and godly in this present world (Psa 45:13). In this respect the Church is said to be all glorious within, and her clothing also to be of wrought gold. And Zacharias and Elizabeth, members of this Church, are said to be righteous before God and blameless, namely before men (Luke 1:6). There is no such purity in any, as in the Church. For true and perfect beauty is only in the body of Christ, which is the Church, whereof it is said, Thou art fair, and there is no spot in thee (Cant 4:7).
1. Quest. Is it possible that neither God nor man should espy any fault in those that are of the true Church, while here they live in this world?
Answ. Seeing the flesh remaineth in the best while they remain in the world, it is not possible but that both God and man must needs espy many blemishes in the best. All things are naked and opened to the eyes of God (Heb 4:13): If therefore any remnant of sin be in the Saints [as there are exceeding many in every one, so as if we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us (1 John 1:8)] it is without question manifest in his sight. Yea, such is the imperfection and weakness of the best Saints, as the flesh continually lusting in them against the Spirit, oft times prevaileth, and so sheweth itself in some ill fruit or other, as the eye of man espieth it: instance the examples of the best that ever lived in any age.
2. Quest. How then are they spotless before God, and blameless before men?
Answ. 1. God so fully dischargeth and aquitteth the Church of all her sins, as she is in his account as if she had no speck of sin at all. David in this respect useth the metaphor of covering sin, and explaineth his meaning by these two phrases, forgiving, not imputing sin (Psa 32:1,2).
2. The course of a man's life, not his or that particular action, is it which maketh a man blame-worthy, or blameless: as the flock of swallows, and not one here, or another there, it is which sheweth the spring. Now because the constant carriage of those who are of the Church is before men blameless, they may justly be so accounted, notwithstanding some particular things blame-worthy do sometimes pass from them. Behold here how the true Saints may boldly lift up their faces before God and man. The soundness of their faith causeth confidence before God. The testimony of their conscience causeth courage before men. Let all that desire this boldness, join a sound faith and a good conscience together, and labor for assurance both of their cleansing by the blood of Christ and sanctifying by the Spirit of Christ.
39. Of the order and dependance of justification and sanctification one upon another.
The order and manner of knitting these two benefits together is worthy to be noted.
The letter setteth sanctification in the first place: but the sense presupposeth justification: for thus he saith, that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it. Because the cleansing here spoken of is an inward invisible work, and the evidence thereof is sanctification, which is an outward and sensible work, therefore this is first expressed, and then that inferred, as a matter necessarily to be presupposed.
Our English with this particle [having] doth fitly and properly expound the Greek active participles of the praeterperfect or finite tense, which because the Latins want, they are fain to use the passive, or a periphrase: as ut illam sanctificaret mundatam, Erafm. Postquam eam purgasset, Beza.
Hence arise these Doctrines.
1. Justification in order goeth before sanctification: I say in order, because at that very moment that Christ by his blood cleanseth his Church, he beginneth to sanctify her: but when he beginneth to sanctify her, he hath cleansed her, she is justified.
The grace then of justification is a most free grace: it is not wrought upon any righteousness of ours: for it is before it.
2. Christ sanctifieth those whom he hath cleansed. This the Apostle copiously loveth in the sixth chapter to the Romans. Let none therefore boast of their cleansing by Christ's blood, till they find themselves renewed and sanctified by the Spirit of Christ. For note the Apostle's description of those who are justified by Christ, which for more perspicuity may thus be set down by question and answer. To whom is there no condemnation? To them that are in Christ Jesus. Who are they? They who walk not after the flesh, but after the spirit (Rom 8:1).
3. Sanctification presupposeth justification: they who are sanctified may rest upon it, that they are cleansed and justified.
For sanctification is a fruit of justification, in which respect S. James' faith, that we are justified by works, that is, declared to be (James 2:24).
Admirable is the comfort, which the Saints in this world reap hereby. For their sanctification being imperfect, and the flesh abiding in them, and lusting against the spirit: yea sin being present with them when they would do good, they are oft forced to complain and cry, O wretched man that we are: who shall deliver us from this body of death (Rom 7:24)? If they had no other ground to fasten the anchor of their hope upon but their sanctification, it could not hold them fast enough against the tempest of Satan's temptations. But in that their sanctification is a fruit and evidence of their justification, they take heart to themselves, and thank God that with the mind they themselves serve the Law of God, though with the flesh the Law of sin. And thus upheld and comforted, they continue to strive against sin, till it be clean rooted out of them, as well as remitted.
40. Of sacramental washing of water.
One of the means which Christ useth for the cleansing and sanctification of his Church, is expressed under this phrase, with the washing of water. Water is the outward element used in baptism: Washing is the principle sacramental rite therein. Water setteth forth Christ's blood: Washing noteth out application and efficacy thereof, which is the purging and cleansing of our souls. As water without washing maketh nothing clean: so the blood of Christ, without a right application thereof, cleanseth no man's soul.
This washing of water here mentioned, being applied to an inward spiritual cleansing, what can it else set forth but the sacrament of baptism, wherein both water and washing is used?
Object. There is but little washing used in the sacrament of baptism, nothing but sprinkling a little water on the face of the party that is baptized.
Answ. That sprinkling is sufficient to shew the use of water. The party to be baptized is not brought to the fonte to have his face, or any other part of his body made clean, but to have assurance of the inward cleansing of his soul. Now that our minds may not too much dote on the outward thing done, but be wholy raised up to the mystery, the outward element is no further used, then may serve to put us in mind of the inward thing signified thereby: answerably in the Lord's Supper there in not so much bread and wine given and received, as would satisfy one's appetite, or slake his thirst, but only a little bit of bread, and taste of wine, to declare the use of bread and wine, and so to draw the minds of the communicants to a consideration of their spiritual nourishment by the body and blood of Jesus Christ.
41. How baptism is a means of cleansing and sanctifying.
The manner of inferring this sacramental washing upon the sanctifying and cleansing of the Church thus, with the washing of water, sheweth, that
Baptism is a means of sanctifying and cleansing the Church. All those places of Scripture that attribute regeneration (John 3:5; Titus 3:5), justification (Gal 3:27), sanctification (Rom 6:3) or salvation (1 Peter 3: 21) thereunto, prove as much. But that the truth thereof may be fully and distinctly be conceived, I will briefly shew,
1. In what respect baptism is a means of our sanctifying and cleansing.
2. What kind of means it is.
3. How necessary it is.
In four special respects it may be said to be a means as aforesaid.
1. In that it doth most lively represent and set forth even to the outward senses the inward cleansing of our souls by the blood of Christ, and sanctifying of us by the Spirit of Christ. Apply the use of water [by the washing whereof soul things are made very clean] to the virtue of Christ's blood and efficacy of his Spirit, and the truth hereof will evidently appear. For the better help in this application, read Romans 6:4.
2. In that it doth truly propound and make tender, or offer of the grace of justification and sanctification ot the party baptized. In this respect it is thus described, baptism of repentance for remission of sins, (Luke 3:3) and S. Peter to like purpose saith, Repent and be baptized every one of you for the remission of sins (Acts 2:38).
3. In that it doth really exhibit and seal up to the conscience of him that is baptized the forenamed graces, whereby he is assured that he is made partaker thereof. Thus Abraham received the sign of circumcision as a seal of the righteousness of faith (Rom 4:11). Hence it is that the eunuch and others when they were baptized, went away rejoicing (Acts 8:39, 16:34).
4. In that it is a particular and peculiar pledge to the party baptized, that even he himself is made partaker of the said graces: therefore every one in particular is baptized for himself: yea, though many be at once brought to the front, yet every one by name is baptized. To this purpose saith the Apostle, whosoever are baptized into Christ, have put on Christ (Gal 3:27), whosoever whether Peter, John, Thomas, or any other particular person. Ananias said to Paul in the singular number, Be thou baptized, and wash away thy sins (Acts 22:16).
42. Objections against the efficacy of baptism answered.
1. Object. Many that are baptized receive no such grace at all, they are neither cleansed nor sanctified.
Answ. They are only outwardly washed with water, they are not baptized with the Holy Ghost. The fault is not in that no grace accompanieth that sacrament, but in that they receive not, but reject the grace which appertaineth thereto: what if some believe not? Shall their unbelief make the faith of God without effect? God forbid (Rom 3:3).
2. Object. Many receive the forenamed graces before they are baptized, as Abraham before he was circumcised, and such as were baptized after they believed. How then is baptism a means thereof? (Rom 4:11)
Answ. Their spiritual cleansing is more lively and fully manifested thereby, and they the more assured thereof.
3. Object. Many who long after their baptism, have lived like swine in sin, and so have not been cleansed or sanctified, yet divers years after having been effectually called: what means hath baptism been hereof?
Answ. The use and efficacy of baptism is not as the act thereof, transient, but permanent and perpetual so long as the party baptized liveth. Whensoever a sinner unfeignedly repenteth, and faithfully layeth hold of the promises of God, baptism which is the seal thereof is as powerful and effectual as it could have been when it was first administered. For the efficacy of baptism consisteth in the free offer of grace. So long therefore as God continueth to offer grace, so long may a man's baptism be effectual. On this ground we are but once for all baptized: and as the prophets put the people in mind of their circumcision (Jer 4:4), so the Apostles of their baptism long after it was administered. Yes, they speak of it [though the act were long before past] as if it were in doing, in the time present, baptism saveth (1 Peter 3:21).
43. What kind of means of grace baptism is.
II. Baptism is no physical or natural means of working grace, as if the grace which is sealed up thereby were inherent in the water, or in the Minister's act of sprinkling it [as in medicines, salves, herbs, meats and the like, there is inherent that virtue which proceedeth from the use of them: and being applied, they have their operation, whether a man believe it or no] but it is only a voluntary instrument which Christ useth, as it pleased him, to work what grace, or measure of grace seemeth best to him: so as grace is only assistant to it, not included in it: yet in the right use thereto, Christ by his Spirit worketh that grace which is received by it, in which respect the Minister is said to baptize with water, but Christ with the Holy Ghost and with fire (Matt 3:11).
44. Of the necessity of baptism.
III. A means of working a thing may be said to be necessary in two ways.
1. Absolutely, so as the thing cannot possibly be without it. Thus are the proper causes of a thing absolutely necessary, as in this case, God's covenant, Christ's blood, and the operation of the Spirit, are absolutely necessary for attaining any grace.
2. By consequence, so as according to that course and order which God hath set down, things cannot be without them.
Baptism is not absolutely necessary as a cause: for then should it be equal to God's covenant, Christ's blood, and the work of the Spirit. Yea, then should all that are baptized without any exception be cleansed.
But it is by consequence necessary: and that in a double respect.
1. In regard of God's ordinance.
2. In regard of our need thereof.
1. God having ordained this a sacrament to be used, it is necessary it should be used, if for no other end, yet for manifestation of our obedience. He that carelessly neglecteth, or willfully condemneth any sacrament which God shall enjoin him to use, his soul shall be cut off (Gen 17:4).
2. Great is the need that we have thereof, in regard of our dullness in conceiving things spiritual, and of our weakness in believing things invisible. We are carnal, and earthly: and by things sensible and earthly, do the better conceive things spiritual and heavenly: therefore hath God ordained visible elements to be sacraments of invisible grace. Again we are slow to believe such things as are promised in the word, therefore the more to help and strengthen our faith, God hath added to his covenant in the word, his seal in and by the sacrament: that by two immutable things, [God's covenant and God's seal] in which it is impossible for God to lie, we might have strong consolation. Besides, though in general we do believe the truth of God's word, yet we are doubtful to apply it to ourselves: wherefore for better applying God's covenant to our own soul, God hath added his Sacrament to his word.
45. Of the contrary extremes of Papists and Anabaptists about the necessity and efficacy of baptism.
There are two extremes contrary to the forenamed points about baptism.
One in the excess, which is of Papists that attribute too much thereunto, and make it a plain idol.
Another in the defect, of Anabaptists and Libertines, which derogate too much from it, and make it an idle ceremony.
In two things do Papists exceed: 1. in the necessity, 2. in the efficacy of baptism.
They make it so absolutely necessary, as if any die unbaptized he cannot be saved: which doom they pass against infants, though they be deprived thereof without any fault of their own, yea or of their parents, being stillborn. A merciless sentence without any warrant of God's word: yea against his word and against the order which he hath prescribed. He hath established his covenant, and promised to be the God of the faithful and of their seed: on which ground S. Peter saith, The promise is unto you and unto your children (Acts 2:39), and S. Paul saith, your children are holy (1 Cor 7:14). Shall all these privileges be made void by an inevitable want of baptism? If so, would God have enjoined circumcision [which to the Jews was as baptism is to Christians] to be put off to the eighth day, before which day many infants died? or would Moses have suffered it to be forborne all the time that the Israelites were in the wilderness? If it be said that baptism is more necessary than circumcision, I answer, the Scripture layeth no more necessity upon it. If it were so necessary as they make it, then the virtue of Christ's death were less effectual since he was actually exhibited than before. For before it was effectual for infants without a sacrament, but belike not now. Had the ancient Churches conceived so of the absolute necessity of baptism, they would not have had set times for the administering thereof: nor suffered it to be put off so long as they did. Some Churches appointed it to be administered only at Easter. Some at Easter and Whitsuntide. And though many who gave evidence of their true faith died before they were baptized yet they did not thereupon judge them to be damned. This practice and judgment of the ancients hath made many Papists somewhat to mitigate that absolute necessity, and to say that, In this case, God which hath not bound his grace, in respect of his own freedom, to any sacrament, may and doth accept them as baptized, which either are martyred before they could be baptized, or else depart this life with vow and desire to have that sacrament, but by some remediless necessity could not obtain it. If remediless necessity can help the matter, what necessity so remediless, as for a child to be stillborn.
Again, they add such efficacy to baptism, as it giveth grace of the works itself wherein they equal it to the very blood of Christ; and take away the peculiar work of the Spirit; and the use of faith, repentance, and such like grace. What can there be more in the water of baptism, than was in the blood of such beasts as were offered up for sacrifices? But it is not possible that the blood of bulls and goats should take away sin (Heb 10:4). They themselves attribute no such efficacy to the word preached, and yet they cannot shew where the Holy Ghost hath given more virtue to baptism, than to the word. This text joineth them both together [that he might cleanse it with the washing of water through the word (1 Cor 1:21)]. What can be more said of a means than that which is said of the word? It pleased God by preaching to save them that believe. The Gospel is the power of God to salvation, &c. (Rom 1:16)
On the other side, Anabaptists, and such like Libertines, too lightly esteem this holy and necessary ordinance of God, in that they make it only a badge of our profession, a note of difference betwixt the true and false Church, a sign of mutual fellowship, a bare sign of spiritual grace, a resemblance of mortification, regeneration into Christ, with the like, but no more: These indeed are some of the ends and uses of baptism: But in that they restrain all the efficacy thereof hereunto, they take away the greatest comfort, and truest benefit which the Church reapeth thereby, as may be gathered out of the points noted before (Section 41).
46. Of the inward washing by baptism.
In that with this washing of water, Christ cleanseth his Church, I observe that
Whosoever are fully baptized are cleansed from sin.
Fully that is, powerfully and effectually, as well inwardly by the Spirit, as outwardly by the Minister.
Cleansed, both from the guilt of sin by Christ's blood, and from the power of sin by the work of his Spirit.
To this purpose tend the many emphatical phrases attributed by the Apostles to baptism, as that we are baptized into Jesus Christ, baptized into his death, buried with him by baptism (Rom 6:3,4); that baptism doth save us (1 Peter 3:21); that baptism is the washing of regeneration (Titus 3:5), with the like.
Vain is the rejoicing of many, who boast of their baptism, and think themselves by virtue thereof to be as good Christians as the best, and yet live and lie in their sin, being more besmeared and defiled therewith than they were, when they were first born. John saith, Christ baptiseth with the holy Ghost and with fire (Matt 3:11): the Apostle saith, Christ cleanseth with the washing of water. If that fire of the holy Ghost burn not up the dross of sin in thee, and this water wash not away the filth of sin, thou were never fully baptized. It may be the hand of some Minister hath sprinkled a little water on thy face, but Christ's blood hath not as yet been sprinkled on the soul: all the benefit which thou reapest by thy baptism is, that another day thou shalt dearly answer for the abuse of so honourable an ordinance.
47. Of joining the word with baptism.
The other means of sanctifying and cleansing the Church here expressed, is the Word. This being applied unto baptism, and joined with it, must needs be meant of the promise of Grace sealed up in baptism, which is God's promise of justifying us freely and sanctifying us effectually, plainly made known and truly believed: This means being thus added to this sacrament, we may well infer that
It is necessary that the Word and baptism go together: that where this sacrament is administered, the doctrine thereof be truly, plainly, intelligibly taught, so as the nature, efficacy, end, and use thereof may be made known; and the covenant of God sealed up thereby, believed. So saith Christ, Go teach all nations baptizing them (Matt 28:19). So did the Baptist (Luke 3:3), and the Apostles, they preached the Gospel to them who they baptized (Acts 2:38; 8:12,37; 10:47; 16:15,33).
1. A sacrament without the word is but an idle ceremony: no more than a seal without a covenant: for it is the Word that maketh known the covenant of God.
2. It is the Word which maketh the greatest difference betwixt the sacramental washing of water, and ordinary common washing.
3. By the Word the ordinary creatures which we use are sanctified, much more the holy ordinances of God, whereof baptism is one of the principal.
Quest. Is it not then lawful to administer baptism without a sermon?
Answ. Though it be a very commendable, and honourable manner of administering that sacrament, than to administer it when the word is preached, yet I think not a sermon at that time to be so necessary, as it should be unlawful without one, to administer baptism. For the joining of the Word and sacrament here spoken of is, that they who are baptized, or who present children to be baptized, and answer for them, or are present at the administering of baptism, or live in the places where it useth to be administered, should be instructed in the Gospel, and taught the covenant which baptism sealeth up. Besides, the liturgy and public form prescribed for the administering of baptism both in our Church and other reformed Churches, layeth down the nature, efficacy, end, use, and other like points appertaining to the sacrament, and plainly declareth the covenant of God sealed up thereby: so as in our and other like Churches where such forms are prescribed to be always used, the Word is never separated from baptism, though at the administering of baptism there be no sermon.
The Church of Rome doth directly transgress against the forenamed rule of joining the Word and baptism together. For though they have a public form prescribed, yet it being in an unknown tongue, not understood of the people, not expounded to them, it is all one as if there were no form at all, no Word at all: for that which is not understood is all one as if it were not uttered (1 Cor 14:9).
Much more heinous is their transgression who live under the Gospel, where it is preached plainly to the understanding and capacity of the meanest, and yet are careless in coming to it, or in attending unto it, and so remain as ignorant as if they lived in places where the Word is not preached at all, or in an unknown tongue. Such ignorant persons if they were not baptized are not worthy while they remain so ignorant to be baptized, nor yet to present their children to be baptized, or to be present at the baptism of others. As Ministers that baptize ought to preach the Word, so ought they who are baptized to be instructed in the Word.
48. Of the inference of glorification upon justification and sanctification.
Ephesians 5:27. That he might present it to himself a glorious Church, &c.
The most principal end, in regard of the Church's good, which Christ aimed at when he gave himself for her, is her glorious estate in heaven: this is the end of the forenamed end. For why did Christ give himself for the Church? That he might sanctify it, having cleansed it: why did he cleanse, and sanctify it? That he might present it to himself a glorious Church. Hence note these three points.
1. Justification and sanctification must go before glorification.
2. The end why the Saints are cleansed and sanctified in this world, is that they may be presented glorious to Christ in the world to come.
3. The only means to make us glorious before Christ our spouse is righteousness.
1. All those places of Scripture which set our righteousness in this world before our glory in the world to come [as very many places do] do prove the first point, that Justification and Sanctification must go before Glorification. Among other proofs note especially the order of the several links of that golden chain that reacheth from God's eternal counsel before the world, unto our everlasting glory after this world, Whom he did predestinate them he also called; and whom he called them he also justified; and whom he justified them he also glorified (Rom 8:30).
1. Heaven, the place of our glorification, is an holy City, whereinto no unclean thing shall enter (Rev 21:10,27).
2. In that place the Church is to be married unto Christ, and to be ever with him: she must therefore be pure as he is pure (1 John 3:2,3): for he will not endure the society of a foul filthy spouse.
As we desire assurance of our glorification in heaven, so let us get, and give evidence of our justification and sanctification on earth. The evidence of our justification is a sound and true faith. The evidence of our sanctification is a good and clear conscience.
The forenamed proofs and reasons do also confirm the second point, that The end why the Saints are cleansed and sanctified in this world is, that they may be presented glorious to Christ in the world to come.
It is therefore needful and behoveful, not only in regard of Christ's honour, but also of our own glory and happiness, that here while we live on earth we be sanctified and cleansed. If Christ for our sakes had an eye at our future and everlasting glory, and for that end prepared means to bring us thereunto, ought not we ourselves much rather have an eye thereat, and both avoid all things which may hinder it, and use all means whereby we may be assured of it? Moses had respect unto the recompence of the reward (Heb 11:26). Yea Christ for the joy which was set before him endured the cross, and despised the shame (Heb 12:2).
3. That Righteousness is the only means to make us glorious before Christ our spouse, is evident, that Christ gave himself to work and effect this means for this end. Christ himself by his death, hath consecrated this, and no other means. If there be any other means than that which Christ by offering up himself hath procured, what need Christ to have been offered up? To shew that this is the means to make the Church glorious before Christ, the holy Ghost resembleth the righteousness of the Saints to fine linen, clean, and white (Rev 19:7,8), wherewith the wife of the Lamb is made ready against the day of marriage.
Christ himself loveth righteousness and hateth wickedness (Psa 45:7): they therefore, and none but they that are arrayed with righteousness, are glorious in his eyes.
This I have the rather noted against the conceit of our adversaries, who place all the glory of the Church in outward pomp. Wherefore their Pope whom they make head of the Church, and after a peculiar manner the spouse of Christ, must have his triple crown, his scarlet robes, his throne advanced above kings: Men must be his horses to bear him: and Kings and nobles must be his men to wait on him. Their priests also must be arrayed with glorious capes of the best wrought gold. Their temples must be decked with curious, carved, gilded images. Their host carried about in manner of a triumph. Their people all besprinkled with water. Their superstitious houses must be the fairest building in a kingdom, and have the greatest revenues of a kingdom belonging to them: with the like.
Is this glory fit for Christ's spouse? belike then Christ hath carnal eyes and ears: and is delighted with those things wherewith the world is delighted. The wiser among the heathen did scoff at such base conceits which their people had of their gods. Shall Christians think more basely of Christ, than the heathen of their gods? Too much do most people dote on outward worldly glory: even so much as they neglect true righteousness.
For our parts as we desire to appear before Christ so as he may think us glorious, let us be arrayed with righteousness and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord (Heb 12:14).
49. Of the fruition of Christ's presence in heaven.
Ephesians 5:27. That he might present it to himself a glorious Church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing: but that it should be holy, and without blemish.
Having noted the inference of this verse upon the former: I will now handle it distinctly by itself. In it is contained a description of the glorious estate of the Church in heaven. Of that estate must this description be here meant, for on earth it is not simply without spot or wrinkle: though it be prepared so to be.
This estate is 1. Generally propounded, 2. Particularly exemplified.
In the general proposition is noted, 1. Her condition [she is presented to Christ], 2. Her quality [glorious].
The particular exemplification thereof is
1. Privative, by removing all deformity: noted in two words, Spot, Wrinkle.
2. Positive, by adorning her with beauty: noted also in two words, Holy, Blameless.
The word present is taken from the custom of solemnizing a marriage: first the spouse was wooed, and then set before her husband that he might take her to wife, to be with him. Thus Eve was presented by God to Adam that he might take her for his wife (Gen 2:22): and Esther among other virgins was presented to Ahash-verosh (Esth 2:13). This sheweth that
The Church in heaven shall enjoy the presence of Christ: Christ himself saith expressly to his disciples, I go to prepare a place for you, that where I am, there ye may be also (John 14:2,3). On this ground did the Apostle desire to depart, namely to be with Christ (Phil 1:23), and to be present with the Lord (2 Cor 5:8).
In heaven is the marriage betwixt Christ and the Church solemnized, which here on earth hath been in preparing. God the Father hath given his son unto the Church (John 3:16), and the Church unto his son (John 17:6): yea Christ himself hath purchased the Church unto himself by his blood (Acts 20:28), and promised marriage unto her, and the more to assure the Church of his love he hath bestowed many gifts upon her (Eph 4:8): he hath further sent his Ministers in his name to woe (John 3:29) and beseech the Church to give her consent (2 Cor 5:20), and to prepare her as a pure virgin for himself (2 Cor 11:2): Hereupon the Church hath given her consent, for as a spouse she is subject unto Christ as unto an head (Eph 5:24). These things being so, how can it be thought that Christ will forsake her, and not receive her to be with him forever?
Can the thought of death be terrible to such as know and believe the truth hereof? Will not rather the consideration thereof make them with the Apostle to sigh, and desire to depart, that they may be with the Lord? The highest degree of the Church's happiness consisteth in this fruition of the presence of her spouse: for so he becometh all in all unto her: not by means, as in this world, but immediately by himself: so as there shall need no Minister, no sacrament, no ordinance to set forth Christ unto us: no Governour in family, Church, or Commonwealth, to represent his person, or to keep us in subjection: no light to direct us, no food to sustain us; we shall be so assisted with Christ as we shall need nothing. If those servants were happy that stood continually before Solomon, what are they that always stand not as servants but as a wife in his presence that is infinitely greater than Solomon (Exo 33:23)? If it were a great grace and favour, that Moses saw the backparts of God (1 Cor 13:12), what a grace and favour is it, to behold Christ face to face? For when he doth appear, we shall see him as he is (1 John 3:2). Though now we be absent from the Lord, yet let us uphold ourselves with the expectation and assurance of this, that we shall be presented before Christ.
50. Of the glory of the Church in heaven.
The quality of the Church in heaven is as excellent as may be, and therefore here said to be glorious: all beauty, all comeliness, all grace, whatsoever may make the Church amiable, lovely, or any way to be desired, or admired, is comprised under this word glorious. In this respect the Saints are said to shine, and that as precious stones (Rev 21:11), yea as the firmament (Dan 12:3), as the stars, and as the sun (Matt 13:43): and to be like Christ himself (1 John 3:2): and to appear with him in glory (Col 3:4).
This glory of the Saints extendeth both to soul and body, and whole person.
In regard of their souls they shall be all glorious within (Psa 45:13): for they are Spirits of just men, made perfect (Heb 12:23): perfect knowledge, wisdom, and all manner of purity shall be in them (1 Cor 13:12).
In regard of their bodies, they shall be fashioned like to Christ's glorious body (Phil 3:21): and that in incorruption, immortality, beauty, brightness, grace, favour, agility, strength, and the like. It is therefore truly said, that the Church in the end of the world expecteth that which is before demonstrated in Christ's body.
In regard of their person, as a wife is advanced to the honour and dignity of her husband, so shall they to the honour and dignity of Christ, so far as they are capable of it: for they shall be next unto Christ (Luke 22:30), yea one with him (John 17:21), and so above the most glorious Angels (Heb 1:14).
Much more might be spoken of the glory of the Church: but never can enough be spoken thereof, no not by the tongue of men or Angels: for eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man the things which God hath prepared for them which love him (1 Cor 2:9). When Paul was rapt up into the third heaven, and saw but a glimpse of this glory, he heard unspeakable words, which are not possible for man to utter (2 Cor 12:4). Wherefore when he speaketh of it, he useth such a transcendent kind of phrase, as cannot in any tongue be fully expressed (2 Cor 4:17): we thus as well as we can by one degree of comparison upon another translate it, a far more exceeding and eternal; weight of glory.
Is not this sufficient to uphold us against all the reproach and disgrace which the world layeth upon us, because we are of the Church of Christ? The world hath of old counted her, to whom Christ saith, Hephzibah (that is, my delight in her) and Beulah (that is, married) forsaken and desolate (Isa 62:4), yea as the filth of the world, and the off-scouring of all things (1 Cor 4:13). Among heathen, none so vilely esteemed of as Christians; and amongst Papists, none so as Protestants; and amongst carnal Gospellers, none so as they who endeavor to purify themselves as Christ is pure (1 John 3:3), and to avoid the common sins of the world. When for Christ's sake we are basely accounted of, let us think of this.
51. Of the Church's freedom from all deformity in heaven.
Not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing.
The first point noted by the Apostle in his exemplification of the forenamed glory, is a removing of all deformity. The word translated spot, is taken for a stain on a garment, and a foul speck on a man's face, or other part of the body: or a scar, or other blemish in his flesh by a sore, wound, blow, or the like. The other word (wrinkle) is taken for a crease in the face through old age, for it signifieth a gathering together of the skin by old age: by it is meant any manner of breaking (as we speak) by age, sickness, trouble, pain, or the like. Because there may be also deformities other ways, the Apostle addeth this clause (or any such thing). These things applied to the Church, shew that
No manner of deformity shall cleave to the Church in heaven. There shall be in her no stain or contagion of sin received from others, no scar of any evil humour arising from itself, no wrinkle, no defect of spiritual moisture, no sign of the old man, nor any thing that may any way make it seem deformed, or uncomely in the sight of Christ. Not only great, heinous, capital sins, [which are as botches and boils, and as open, wide sores, gashes and wounds] but all spots and specks, all wrinkles and defects, all manner of blemishes whatsoever within, or without, shall be clean taken away. Sin shall not only be subdued in us, but utterly rooted out of us: no relic, no sign thereof shall be left remaining. In this respect it is said, that God shall wipe away all tears (Rev 7:17, 21:4), that is, shall take away all matter of mourning, sorrow, and grief. Now there is nothing that ministereth matter of more sorrow to the Saints than sin. That remnant of sin which was in the Apostle even after his regeneration, made him thus cry out, O wretched man that I am (Rom 7:24).
Though this be but a privative good, yet it addeth much to the heavenly happiness of the Saints. If it were possible that we should enjoy the rest and glory prepared for the Saints in heaven, and withal there should remain on us the spots and wrinkles of sin, these spots and wrinkles would be as the handwriting which appeared to Belshazzar in the midst of his jollity (Dan 5:5): they would be as gall mixed with wine: they would turn all our joy into heaviness, and take away the sweet relish of all our happiness. The consideration therefore of this privative benefit cannot but breed in the hearts of all such as are members of this Church a longing desire after this perfect purging of them from all deformity.
52. Of the perfect purity of the Church in heaven.
But that it should be holy and without blemish.
The last branch whereby the celestial glory of the Church is set forth, is the perfect purity thereof: the adversative particle [But] sheweth that the holiness here spoken of is no imperfect holiness, such as the sanctification of the Saints is in this world, but an absolute perfect holiness in all the parts and degrees thereof: such as is without spot or wrinkle: without relic, or sign of sin: and therefore by way of explanation is added, without blemish, or blameless: such as man, Angel, nor God himself can find fault withal. This attribute is oft applied to the person and blood of Jesus Christ (Heb 9:14; 1 Peter 1:19), and therefore it must needs set forth perfect purity. Whence we may observe that
The sanctification of the Saints shall be perfect in heaven. They shall not only be justified by having their sins covered to them, nor only have their sanctification truly begun in them, but also in every part, point, and degree thereof absolutely perfected: in which respect they are said to be just men make perfect (Heb 12:23). Adam in his innocency was not more pure than the Saints shall be in heaven: yea they shall far surpass Adam as in the measure, so in the stability and perpetuity thereof.
In our endeavor after holiness let us have an eye to this perfection: and not faint, if we attain not to that measure which we desire. Perfection is reserved for the world to come. Yet know we, that the more holy and blameless we are, the nearer we come to that heavenly estate: the more spots and blemishes of sin we have, the more unlike we are unto it, and the less hope we have of enjoying that heavenly happiness.
All the forenamed several points of the glorious estate of the Church in heaven should ravish our spirits, and even break our hearts with an holy admiration of Christ's goodness, and fill our mouths with praises for the same, and make us sigh, and long after the same, and with all good conscience and diligence use all the means we can to attain thereunto: no labour will be lost herein. Surely, this is either not known, or not believed, or not remembered, or not duly and seriously considered by such as make light account thereof. Let that which hath been but briefly touched be further meditated upon, and let us pray that the eyes of our understanding may be enlightened, that we may know what is the riches of the glorious inheritance of the Saints (Eph 1:18). Were it not for this hope, the Saints were of all the most miserable (1 Cor 15:19); whereas now they are the most happy.
53. Of the application of the things which Christ hath done for the Church, unto husbands.
Ephesians 5:28. So ought men to love their wives, etc.
The first clause of this verse serveth both for an application of the former argument, and also for a transition to another argument.
The particle of relation [So] sheweth that that which hath before been delivered of Christ's love to his Church, ought to be referred and applied to husbands. For as Christ loved his Church, So ought husbands to love their wives.
Quest. Why are these transcendent evidences of Christ's surpassing love to his Church set before husbands? can any such things be expected from husbands to their wives?
Answ. No, not for measure, but for likeness (see Section 27). For in this large declaration of Christ's love, there are two general points to be noted.
1. That the Church in herself was no way worthy of love.
2. That Christ so carried himself towards her that he made her worthy of much love.
This ought to be the mind of husbands to their wives.
1. Though they be no way worthy of love, yet they must love them.
2. They must endeavour with all the wit and wisdom they have, to make them worthy of love. I say endeavour because it is not simply in the husband's power to do the deed. Yet his faithful endeavour shall on his part be accepted for the deed.
Of these points I shall hereafter more fully speak.
54. Of the application of the love which a man beareth to himself, unto an husband.
Ephesians 5:28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.
The forenamed particle [So] hath also relation to another pattern, namely, of a man's self to his body: and so it is a transfixion from one argument to another.
There is some more emphasis here used in setting down an husband's duty, than was before (verse 25).
There it was laid down by way of exhortation, Husbands love your wives.
Here it is laid down with a straighter charge: Husbands ought to love their wives. So as this duty is not a matter arbitrary, left to the husband's will to do it, or leave it undone: there is a necessity laid upon him: he must love his wife. Woe therefore unto him if he do it not.
In setting down this argument taken from a man's self, the Apostle resembleth a man's wife unto his body: wherein he hath relation to verse 23 where he said, the husband is the head of the wife. Whereby he sheweth, that as an husband's place is a motive to his wife, for her to perform her duty: so to himself, for him to perform his duty.
He is her head, therefore she must be subject to him.
She is his body, therefore he must love her.
This example of a man's self is both a reason the more to move husbands to love their wives, and also a rule to teach them how to love them.
The reason is implied under that near union that is betwixt a man and his wife: she is as near to him as his own body: therefore she ought to be as dear to him. The body never dissenteth from itself, nor the soul against itself. So neither should man and wife.
The rule is noted under the manner of a man's loving his own body: as entirely as he loveth his body, so entirely he ought to love his wife.
Of the manner of a man's loving himself, see Treatise 4, Sections 74 and 76.
The more to enforce this comparison, the Apostle addeth, He that loveth his wife, loveth himself (Eph 5:28).
By this clause two things are implied.
1. That a wife is not only as a man's body, namely, his outward flesh, but as his person, his body and soul. She is as his body, because she was taken out of his body (Gen 2:23): and because she is set under him, as his body under his head. She is as himself, by reason of the bond of marriage, which maketh one of two (Matt 19:5,6). In which respect a wife is commonly called a man's second self.
2. That an husband in loving his wife loveth himself: so as the benefit of loving his wife will redound to himself, as well as to his wife.
55. Of the amplification of a man's love of himself.
Ephesians 5:29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh: but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the Church.
The former pattern of a man's self is here further amplified. For first the Apostle proveth, that a man loveth himself: and then he sheweth how he loveth himself.
Two arguments are used to prove the point.
One is taken from the contrary: No man ever yet hated his own flesh. Therefore he loveth it.
The other is taken from the effects of love: To nourish and cherish one's flesh is a fruit of love: But every man nourisheth and cherisheth his flesh. Therefore he loveth it.
This latter argument sheweth the manner of a man's loving himself: and therein a man's love of himself is a rule to teach him how to love his wife.
This indefinite particle [no man] is to be restrained to such as have the understanding and affection of a man in them: as if he had said, no man in his right wits: for furious, frantic, mad, desperate persons will cut their arms, legs, and other parts, mangle their flesh, hang, drown, smother, choke, and stab themselves. Even so they are as men out of their wits, who hate, or any way hurt their wives: yea, it is the part of a mad man to doubt of loving, and doing good to himself.
These two words [to nourish and cherish] comprise under them a careful providing of all things needful for a man's body.
To nourish, is properly to feed.
To cherish is to keep warm.
The former is done by food: the latter by apparel. Under food, and apparel the Apostle compriseth all things needful for this life, where he saith, Having food and raiment, let us therewith be content (1 Tim 6:8).
This applied to an husband, sheweth that he ought to have a provident care for the good of his wife in all things needful for her.
That he may yet further press this point, he returneth again to the example of Christ [even as the Lord the Church]. The Apostle thought that this nail of love had need be fast beaten into the heads and hearts of husbands, and therefore addeth blow to blow to knock it up deep, even to the head: before he confirmed Christ's example with the example of ourselves: here he confirmeth the example of ourselves with the example of Christ again. This he doth for two especial reasons.
1. The more forcibly to urge the point: for two examples add weight one to another: especially this latter which is so far more excellent as we heard out of verse 25, 26 and 27.
2. To give husbands a better direction for their providence towards their wives, whom they must nourish and cherish, not only as their bodies, but as Christ nourisheth and cherisheth his Church, not only with things temporal, but also with things spiritual and eternal.
56. Of man's natural affections to himself.
Ephesians 5:28, 29. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies: he that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh: but nourisheth, and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the Church.
Having briefly shewed the general scope of the 28 and 29 verses, I will proceed to a more distinct handling of them.
They set forth The natural affection of a man to himself.
Two points are here to be noted.
1. The general proposition, that a man is well affected to himself.
2. The particular amplification, and manifestation of that affection.
This is manifested two ways.
1. Negatively, No man hateth his own flesh.
2. Affirmatively, and that in two branches, 1. Nourisheth, 2. Cherisheth it.
Both these are justified by the like affection of Christ to the Church which is his body [Even as the Lord the Church]. In that the Apostle propoundeth the natural affection of a man's self to his body as a motive and pattern to Christians, to love their wives, and also justifieth the same by a like affection of Christ to his Church, I observe that
Natural affection is a thing lawful and commendable: it is an affection which may stand with a good conscience: which God's word is so far from taking away, as it doth establish it. For such as are without natural affection are directly condemned (2 Tim 3:3): and we are commanded to be so kindly affectioned one to another as we are to ourselves (Rom 12:10). Yea the Law in the strict rigour thereof layeth down that natural affection which is in a man to himself as a rule for the love of his neighbour [thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself (Matt 22:39)]. Hence is it that the Prophets (Lev 19:18; Isa 58:7), Apostles (1 Cor 12:26; James 2:8), and Christ himself do oft call upon us to have an eye to that affection which we bear to ourselves. Of this pattern Christ saith, This is the Law, and the Prophets (Matt 7:12), this is the brief sum of them, this is it which they do much urge and press.
1. Natural affection was at first created of God, by him planted in man, so that as soul, body, the powers, and parts of them, are in their substance good things, this affection also in itself is good.
2. There are the same reasons to love ourselves, as our brethren. For we ourselves are made after God's image, redeemed by Christ's blood, members of the same mythical body, keepers of ourselves, to give an account of the good or hurt we do to ourselves, with the like. In the Law, under this word neighbour ourselves are comprised: and every commandment of the second table is to be applied to ourselves.
57. Of natural self-love.
Object. Lovers of themselves are condemned in God's word as 2 Timothy 3:2, Philippians 2:21, 1 Corinthians 10:24 and Romans 15:1.
Answ. There is a double loving of a man's self.
One good and commendable:
The other evil, and damnable.
Good and commendable loving of a man's self is 1. Natural, 2. Spiritual.
That which is natural is in all by the very instinct of nature: and it was at first created, and still is by God's providence preserved in our nature, and that for the preservation of nature. Were there not such a natural love of himself in every one, man would be as careless of himself, as of others, and as loath to take pains for himself, as for others. Wherefore that every one might have care at least of one, even of himself, and so the world be better preserved, God hath reserved in man this natural affection, notwithstanding his corruption by sin. Yea further because every one is not able to look to himself, at least when he is young, sick, old, or any other way impotent, God by his wise providence hath extended this natural affection towards others also as they are nearly linked unto us by the bonds of nature. The next to a man's self are [by blood and bond of nature] children. Admirably much is that which parents do for their children, which they would never do, if there were not a natural affection in them to their children. From children again this affection ariseth towards their parents, that when parents grow old, impotent, or any way unable to help themselves, they might have succour from their children. And because parents and children are not always together, or not able to help one another, or unnatural, God hath yet further extended this natural affection to brethren, cousins, and other kindred. And for a further extent thereof hath instituted marriage betwixt such as are not of the same blood, and by virtue of that bond raised a natural affection not only in husband and wife one to another, but also in all the alliance that is made thereby. Moreover this affection is wrought in neighbours, friends, fellows, and other by like bonds knit together, that the bow of God's providence might have many strings, and if one break, another might hold. In all these kinds, the nearer a man cometh to himself, the more doth this affection shew itself, according to the prover, Near is my coat, but nearer is my skin. God having wrought this natural affection in the several kinds thereof, and there being good ends and uses thereof, it is not to be condemned.
58. Of spiritual self-love.
Spiritual self-love is that which is supernaturally wrought in man by God's Spirit: whereby he is both enlightened to discern what is most excellent, and best for him, and also moved to choose the same: so as this serveth to rectify the former. Hence it cometh to pass that their chiefest care is for their souls, and for the eternal salvation thereof: for the furthering whereof they can be content as need requireth, to beat down their body (1 Cor 9:27), to deny them sometimes their ordinary refreshing by food, rest, and other like means (2 Cor 11:27), yea and to suffer them to be imprisoned, racked, and otherwise tortured, and life itself to be taken from them (Heb 11:36). This men do, and suffer, not for want of natural affection, but by reason of spiritual affection which persuades them that it is good for them it should be so. A man is not therefore to be said not to love the health and safety of his body because he loveth something more. For a covetous man though he love his money, yet he can be content to part with it for bread to nourish his body: so a spiritual man though he love his life, yet he can be content to lose it for his soul's salvation. For he loveth himself sufficiently, who doth his best to enjoy the chiefest and truest good. This spiritual affection extendeth itself as far as natural affection, namely to wives, husbands, children, parents, brethren, cousins, friends, &c. Much is this urged and pressed in the Scriptures as Isaiah 55:1, 2, 3; Matthew 6:19, 20, 33; John 6:27; 1 Timothy 6:11, 19.
59. Of evil self-love.
The self-love which is evil swerveth in the Object, Measure.
1. In the Object, when it is cast upon our corruptions, our lusts, our evil humours: when we affect and love them, and for them pursue whatsoever may satisfy them: as the ambitious, lustful, riotous, gluttonous, and other like persons. This is expressly forbidden, Make not provision for the flesh to fulfill the lusts thereof (Rom 13:14).
2. In the Measure, when our love is wholly and only cast upon ourselves, so seeking our own good, as we regard no man's good but our own: nor care what damage another receiveth, so we may get advantage thereby. This is also forbidden: for it is contrary to the property of true love, which seeketh not her own (Phil 2:21; 1 Cor 13:5; 10:24), namely to the prejudice of another. This hath the title of self-love appropriated to it. It sprang from the corruption of nature, and is daily increased by the instigation of Satan for the destruction of mankind. It manifesteth itself by the many tricks of deceit which most men use in their dealings with others: by making advantage of others' necessities as in the case of usury, of raising corn, and other commodities in time of scarcity, with the like: by men's backwardness to help such as stand in need of their succour: by want of compassion in other men's miseries: and by many other like unkindnesses: all which verify the proverb, Every man for himself.
But by distinguishing the forenamed points we may see that notwithstanding evil self-love be a most detestable vice, yet it is both lawful and commendable to love one's self aright.
60. Of the error of Stoics in condemning all passion.
The dotage of Stoics who would have all natural affection rooted out of man, is contrary to this pattern, and unworthy to find any entertainment among Christians: for what do they aim at, but to root that out of man, which God hath planted in him, and to take away the means which God hath used for the better preservation of man? That wise man whom they frame to themselves is worse than a brute beast: he is a very stock and block. Not only the best and wisest men that ever were in the world, but also Christ himself had those passions and affections in him, which they account unbeseeming a wise man. Their dotage hath long since been hissed out of the schools of philosophers, should it then find place in Christ's Church?
61. Of well using natural affection.
Let us labour to cherish this natural affection in us, and to turn it to the best things, even to such as are not only apparently, but indeed good: and among good things to such as are most excellent, and the most necessary: such as concern our souls, and eternal life. For this end we must pray to have our understandings enlightened [that we may discern things that differ, and approve that which is excellent (Phil 1:10)] and to have our wills and affections sanctified, that we embrace, pursue, and delight in that which we know to be the best. Thus shall our natural affection be turned into a spiritual affection.
Here we see how we may make nature a schoolmaster unto us: for as Christ sendeth us to the fowls of the air, and lilies of the field to learn of them (Matt 6:26,28), so the Apostle here sendeth us to our own natural instinct. We cannot complain that we have no schoolmaster near us [as many in the country whose children for want of one are rudely brought up] ourselves are schoolmasters to ourselves. Wherefore as the Apostle hereby teacheth husbands to love their wives, so let us all more generally learn to love one another: for we are all mutual members of one and the same body (1 Cor 12:12): and our brother or neighbour is our flesh (Isa 58:7).
62. Of man's forbearing to wrong himself.
Ephesians 5:29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh: but nourisheth and cherisheth it.
The first particle [for] sheweth that in this verse an evidence and manifestation of a man's love of himself is given. The first part thereof, which is set down negatively, sheweth that
It is against the common instinct of nature for a man to hate himself. It is noted as an evidence that devils were in the Gadarene, in that he cut himself with stones (Mark 5:5): had not the devils forced him, he would never have done it.
Hatred is contrary to love: it being therefore before proved that every man by nature loveth himself, by necessary consequence it followeth, that no man hateth his flesh: for two contrary effects proceed not from the same cause: no fountain can yield both salt water and fresh (James 3:12).
Object. Many do macerate their bodies with fastings, watchings, labours, travels, and the like: others tear and gash their flesh with whips, knives, swords, yea and with their teeth also: others lay such violent hands upon themselves, as they take away their own lives.
Answ. 1. None of these things are done by the instinct of nature which God hath set in man, but through the corruption of nature which the devil hath caused. Now nature and corruption of nature are two contrary causes: no marvel then that contrary effects come from them.
2. They think they do these things in love to themselves; as superstitious persons to merit salvation, by macerating their body: others to free themselves from ignominy, penury, slavery, torment, or such like evils: so as there is an apparent good that maketh them so to do, and not simply hatred of themselves. They that so do, are either possessed with a devil, or blinded in their mind or bereaved of their wits, or overwhelmed with some passion, so as they know not what they do: they do it not therefore in hatred.
2. Object. Holy and wise men deliberately, and on good advice, have beaten down their bodies (1 Cor 9:27), and yielded their lives to be taken away, not accepting deliverance (Heb 11:35).
Answ. That was far from hatred, and in great love to themselves, as was shewed before (see Section 56).
63. Of unnatural practices against one's self.
The forenamed doctrine discovereth many practices used by sundry men to be against nature, and in that respect most horrible and detestable.
1. The practice of the idolatrous Baalites, who to move their idol to hear them, cut themselves with knives and lances, till the blood gushed out upon them (1 Kings 18:28). Not much unlike to whom are Popish Eremites, Anchorites, monks flagellants, Grandimontenses, sundry sorts of Franciscans, and other friars, whereof some wear shirts of hair-cloth, some shirts of mail next their body, some go bare-foot, some daily whip themselves till blood follow, and some waste their bodies with lying hard, watching, fasting, going on pilgrimage, &c.
2. The practice of gluttons, drunkards, unchaste and voluptuous persons, who to satisfy their corrupt humours, impair their health, pull diseases upon them, and shorten their days.
3. The practice of swaggerers, who by quarrels cause their flesh to be wounded, and their lives taken away. Among these may be reckoned such as bring themselves to great straits, distresses, and dangers for lucre sake: and they who by felony, treason, and the like evil deeds, cast themselves upon the sword of the Magistrate.
4. The practice of them that give the reins to grief, fear, wrath, and other like violent passions, so as thereby they weaken their bodies, and shorten their days.
5. The practice of self-murderers: who herein break the rule of love [as thyself (Matt 22:39)] and end their days in a most horrible sin, depriving themselves of the time, place, and means of repentance: so as, whatsoever fond pretence they make for their sin, little better can be thought of them, than that they thrust their souls headlong into hell, unless the Lord betwixt the act done, and the expiration of their breath, extraordinarily touch their hearts. Religion, nature, sense, and all abhor this fearful act: so as not only those who have been enlightened by God's word, but also the heathen, who had no other than the light of nature, have adjudged it to be a most desperate sin.
64. Of haters of others.
2. By that affection which nature moveth men to bear to their flesh, we may see how nature more prevails with men, than conscience and obedience to God's word, yea than the Spirit: for where nature keepeth all men from hating their own flesh, nothing can keep many husbands from hating their wives, and wives their husbands; nor brothers, cousins, and neighbours [yet these are our own flesh (Isa 58:7)] no nor many of those who profess themselves to be of the mystical body of Christ, from hating one another. What shall we say of these? Is nature of greater power, and more mighty in operation than the Spirit? Surely, such either deceive themselves and others, in pretending to be members of the body of Christ: or else the Spirit is very weak in them, and the flesh beareth a great sway. Let haters of their brethren think of this and be ashamed.
65. Of man's care in providing and using things needful for his body.
The second evidence of that love which a man beareth to himself, is noted in two such branches [nourisheth and cherisheth] as comprise all needful things under them (see Section 55), so as the Apostle implieth thereby, that
Nature teacheth all men to provide such things as are needful for them: needful for life, as food: and needful for health, as apparel. Nature is here propounded as schoolmaster to Christians: this therefore which nature teacheth is a bounden duty. It is much insisted upon by Solomon, who in this respect saith, It is good and comely for one to eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour (Eccl 2:24; 3:13; 5:18; 8:15).
If he be worse than an infidel that provideth not for his own (1 Tim 5:8), what is he that provide not for himself? even worse than a beast: for nature hath taught the brute beasts to nourish and cherish themselves. If any think that it more befitteth beasts, or natural men than Saints, let them tell me which of the Saints at any time guided by God's Spirit, hath wholly neglected himself. To omit all others, it is expressly noted of Christ, that as there was occasion, he slept (Matt 8:24), he ate (Luke 14:1), he rested (John 4:6), and otherwise refreshed himself.
Object. Though he were hungry (John 4:31), and meat prepared for him, yet he refused to eat.
Answ. 1. Forbearing one meal, is no great hindrance of cherishing the body.
2. Extraordinary and weighty occasions may lawfully make a man a little neglect himself: that so he may shew he prefereth God's glory, and his brother's salvation, before the outward nourishing of his body: to which purpose Christ saith, My meat is to do the will of him that sent me (John 4:34): that is, I prefer it before my meat. And S. Paul saith, I will very gladly be spent for your souls (2 Cor 12:15). We must here therefore take heed of the extremes on both hands.
1. Of undue, and overmuch neglecting our bodies, so as the strength of them be wasted, and the health impaired.
2. Of too much caring for it, so as upon no occasion we will lose a meal's meat, or a night's rest. Fasting and watching as occasion requireth, are bounden duties.
But to return to the point of nourishing and cherishing our flesh.
1. For this end hath God provided food, apparel, and all things needful for our weak bodies, that they should be nourished and cherished thereby: not to use them therefore, is to refuse God's providence.
2. By well nourishing and cherishing our bodies, they are the better enabled to do that work and service which God appointeth to be done: but by neglecting them, they are disabled thereto. As this is a motive, so ought it to be an end whereat we aim in nourishing and cherishing our bodies.
66. Of them that neglect to cherish their bodies.
Against this good instinct of nature do many offend.
1. Covetous misers who so dote upon their wealth, and so delight in abundance of goods treasured up, as they afford not themselves things needful to nourish and cherish their bodies. Solomon doth much tax such: of them he saith, that riches are kept for the owners thereof to their hurt (Eccl 2:23; 5:11-14). Daily experience giveth evidence to the truth thereof: for, beside that such men make their riches to be snares (1 Tim 6:9), and hindrances (Mark 10:23), to keep them from eternal life; they make this present life to be very irksome, filling their heads full of much carking care (Eccl 2:23), and keeping them from quiet rest. Many in this case are so besotted, as, though they have abundance, yet they will not in health afford themselves a good meal's meat, nor seemly apparel: nor in sickness, needful physic, no nor fire, and such like common things. Their case is worse than theirs who want: for others will pity and succour such as want, but who will pity and succour such?
2. Such as are too intentive upon their businesses, even the affairs of their lawful callings [for in good things there may be excess] herein many students, preachers, lawyers, tradesmen, farmers, labourers, and others offend, when they afford not seasonable times of refreshing and resting to their bodies, but fast, watch, and toil too much in their calling. They who by such means disable themselves, do make themselves guilty of the neglect of so much good as they might have done, if they had nourished and cherished their bodies. Some are so eager on their business, that they think all the time misspent, which is spent in nourishing and cherishing their bodies; and thereupon wish, that their bodies needed no food, sleep, or other like means of refreshing. These thoughts and desires are foolish and sinful in many respects, as
1. In manifesting a secret discontent and grudging against God's providence, who hath thus disposed our estate for the clearer manifestation of man's weakness, and God's care over him.
2. In taking away occasions of calling upon God, and giving praise unto him. For if we stood not in such need of God's providence, should we so oft pray unto him for his blessing: if by the good means which he affordeth unto us we felt not the sweetness and comfort of his providence, should we be so thankful to him?
3. In taking away the means of mutual love: for if by reason of our weakness we stood not in need of succour and help one from another, what trial would there be of our love?
4. Such as sever these two duties of nature [nourishing and cherishing] and make them an hindrance one to another: some so nourish their bodies, as they cannot cherish them; that is, they spend so much in eating and drinking, as they have nothing to cloth themselves withal. Others to cherish them, as they cannot nourish them; that is, they so prank up themselves with brave apparel above their ability, as they have not competent food for themselves. These fall into two contrary extremes: into the excess in one thing: and into the defect in another.
67. Of contentment in that which is sufficient.
As the Apostle by naming these two [nourish, cherish] sheweth that both of them are needful, so by naming them only, and no more but them, he sheweth that they two are sufficient: whence we learn, that
Having food and raiment, we must be therewith content.
The Apostle in these very words layeth down this doctrine in another place (1 Tim 6:8). The prayer of Agur (Prov 30:8), and the tenour of the fourth petition prove as much (Matt 6:11).
Quest. Is a man then strictly bound to care for no more than food to nourish, and apparel to cherish him?
Answ. So this nourishing and cherishing be extended to that estate wherein God hath set us, to the charge which God hath given us, and to the calling which he hath appointed unto us, we ought to care for no more.
Let us therefore take heed of that excess which ariseth from the corruption of nature, and content ourselves with that competency which nature requireth.
68. Of Christ's forbearing to hate the Church.
Ephesians 6:29. Even as the Lord the Church.
This confirmation of the pattern of a man's self by a like pattern of the Lord, hath relation to both the parts of the manifestation of a man's love to himself: both to the negative and so it sheweth, that
The Lord hateth not his Church.
And to the affirmative, and so it sheweth, that
The Lord nourisheth and cherisheth his Church.
That difference which is made betwixt Esau a type of the world [Esau have I hated] and Jacob a type of the Church [Jacob have I loved (Mal 1:2,3)] sheweth that the Lord is far from hating his Church. The world, not the Church, is the object of God's hatred.
Object. The Church herself (Deut 1:27), and the enemies thereof oft conceive by Christ's dealing with her, that he hateth her (Deut 9:28).
Answ. It is the flesh abiding in them that are of the Church which maketh them so to conceive, not the Spirit: and in the enemies of the Church the flesh altogether reigneth. But the things of God, and his mind and affection, nor can, nor may be judged by carnal eyes, eyes of flesh. The Spirit of God accounteth such things evidences of God's love (Heb 12:6), which flesh judgeth to be tokens of hatred, namely, corrections.
It is not, because there is no matter of hatred in the Church, that Christ hateth it not: for by nature all are of one and the same cursed stock, children of wrath (Eph 2:3): and after our sanctification is begun, the flesh abiding in us, we daily give much occasion of hatred if Christ should take that advantage against us which he might: but it is that near union which Christ hath made betwixt himself and the Church that keepeth him from hating her: he hath made her his spouse, and he will not hate his spouse: all the occasion of hatred that she giveth, he will either wipe away or cover.
Admirable is the comfort which every true member of the catholic Church may reap from hence: for so long as the wrath and hatred of the Lord is turned from us, nothing can make us miserable: we may in this respect rejoice not only in prosperity, but also in all manner of affliction. No calamity can move Christ to hate his Church, but rather the more to pity it, as we do our bodies. Nay, though by sin he be provoked, and see it needful to correct his Church, yet in love, not in hatred, in mercy, not in wrath will he correct it.
What now if all the world hate us? Seeing Christ hateth us not, we need not fear nor care. The subject which is sure of his King's favour, little regardeth the hatred of others. This therefore is to be thought of, both to comfort us under the cross, and to encourage us against the hatred of the world. That none may pervert this comfortable doctrine, let me add two caveats.
1. That men deceive not themselves with a naked name, thinking themselves to be of the Church, when they are only in it, such may Christ hate (Jer 12:8).
2. That being of the Church they wax not insolent, and too much provoke Christ to anger: for though he hate not such, yet in wisdom he may so severely correct them as if he hated them: and make them repent their folly and insolency again and again.
69. Of Christ's nourishing and cherishing his Church.
2. That The Lord nourisheth and cherisheth his Church, is evident by his continual providence over her in all ages. When first he created man, he provided beforehand all things needful to nourish and cherish him (Gen 1:28,29). When he was moved to destroy the earth and all living things thereon, he had care of his Church, and provided an Ark to keep her out of the waters, and stored up in the Ark all things needful for her (Gen 6:14,27). When he purposed to bring a famine on the world, he sent a man beforehand to lay up provision for his Church (Gen 45:7). When his Church was in a barren and dry wilderness, he gave them bread from heaven (Exo 16:15), water out of the rock (Exo 17:6), and kept their raiment from waxing old, and their feet from swelling (Deut 8:4). After this he brought his Church into a land flowing with milk and honey: and so long as it remained faithful he preserved it in that pleasant and plentiful land. Thus he dealt with the Church in her non-age: and thus also hath he dealt with her in her riper age under the Gospel, as experience of all ages may witness. Neither hath he only nourished and cherished her with temporal blessings, but also with all needful spiritual blessings: his word and sacraments, his Spirit and the graces thereof hath he in all ages given her for that purpose: yea with his own flesh and blood hath he fed her (John 6:55), and with his own righteousness hath he clothed her (Isa 61:10).
Learn we of whom we receive all needful things, both spiritual and temporal, for soul and body, that accordingly we may give him the praise of all. And let us not be like the ungrateful Israelites who regarded not the means of spiritual nourishment (Ezek 20:11,12), and ascribed the means of their temporal nourishing and cherishing to their idols (Jer 44:17). In this respect the prophet maketh them worse than the ox, and the ass, two of the most brutish beast that be (Isa 1:3). Oh take we heed that the like be not upbraided to us. The Lord hath not sparingly, but most liberally and bountifully nourished and cherished us in this land, and that both with temporal and spiritual blessings, so as he may justly say, what could have been done more in my vineyard, that I have not done in it? (Isa 5:4)
Learn we also to depend on Christ for all things that we want: we need not fear penury: though we have not that plenty which we could wish, yet we shall have sufficiency. Christ will not suffer his Church to famish for want of food, nor starve for want of clothing, whether temporal for body, or spiritual for soul. He that can and will perform it hath said, I will never leave thee nor forsake thee (Heb 13:5). Lazarus was not forsaken; witness the angels that carried his soul into Abraham's bosom (Luke 16:22). If any of Christ's Church do perish for want of outward means, it is because Christ by that means will advance them to that place where they shall stand in need of nothing: so as he doth not forsake them.
70. Of the union betwixt Christ and the Saints.
Ephesians 5:30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
The reason of the forenamed love of Christ, and fruits thereof to his Church, is here laid down, as both the causal particle [For] and the inference of this verse upon the former do shew. This reason is that near union which is betwixt Christ and his Church, set forth by a metaphor of the members of our body. Whereby he implieth, that though there were no other reason to move an husband to love his wife than the near union which is betwixt them [they being one body (v. 23), one flesh (v. 31), one self (v. 28)] that were enough, for thereby only is Christ moved to love his Church.
The mystery of our spiritual union with Christ is here laid down, and that as fully, and distinctly [though very succinctly] as in any place of Scripture. I will endeavor to open it as plainly as I can.
[We are] The Apostle here changeth both person and number: for before he spake of the Church as of another in the third person, and of one in the singular number: but here he speaketh of the same in the first person including himself, and in the plural number, including all others like himself [elect of God, and Saints by calling] whereby he giveth us to understand what he meaneth by the Church, namely the company of Saints, to which, though he were a preacher of the Gospel, an extraordinary preacher, an Apostle, he associateth and joineth himself: nothing thereby that he was made partaker of the same grace, and saved by the same means that others were. Well might he in this privilege not think much to rank himself, because it is the highest degree of honour that can be, to be a member of the body of Christ: much more than to be a preacher, a prophet, and Apostle, or of any other eminent calling.
The metaphor here used [members of his body] setteth forth the near union which is betwixt Christ and the Saints. Many other metaphors are used in Scripture for the same purpose, as foundation and edifice (1 Peter 2:4-6), vine and branches (John 15:5), husband and wife (2 Cor 11:2), with the like, which are all of them very fit, but none more proper and pertinent to the point than this of a body, the head and members thereof. What nearer union can there be than betwixt the head and members of the same body?
If the Apostle had here stayed, we might have thought that he had here meant no other thing than he meant before, where he styled Christ an head and the Church a body (Eph 1:23; 4:16; 5:23): but in that he addeth [Of his flesh and of his bones] he declareth yet a further mystery.
In the general there is a difference betwixt this phrase [Of his body] and these [Of his flesh; and Of his bones] the former is a note of the genetive case, the two latter are a preposition: for distinction sake the two latter might have been translated, out of his flesh, out of his bones, or from his flesh, from his bones [for so a like phrase is translated before, From whom (Eph 4:16)] but seeing these particles out of, or from are ambiguous, the former translation may stand as the best, so as a difference be made in the sense though there be none in the words.
The former [members of his body] declareth the union itself.
The latter [of his flesh and of his bones] declareth the means of making that union. This latter hath relation to that which Adam said of Eve, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh (Gen 2:23) which is manifest by the next verse which the Apostle taketh out of the same place. It implieth then, that as Eve was made a woman out of Adam's flesh and bones, so the Church is made a Church out of Christ's flesh and bones.
1. Quest. Was the very substance of the Saints, their flesh and bones taken out of Christ, as the substance of Eve was taken out of Adam?
Answ. Not so, if the words be literally taken. For so may Christ rather be said to be of our flesh, and of our bones, because he took our nature, and that from a daughter of Adam: in which respect he is said to be of the seed of David (2 Tim 2:8), and of the Jews, as concerning the flesh (Rom 9:5). Besides, the Apostle expressly saith that This is a great mystery (v. 32). The mystery therefore must be searched out. For this end Christ must be considered as another Adam [and so the holy Ghost styleth him The last Adam, The second man (1 Cor 15:45,47)] that is, a stock, a root that giveth a being to branches sprouting out of him.
2. Quest. What being is that which we receive from Christ?
Answ. Not our natural being [that we have of the parents of our flesh] but a supernatural, and spiritual being, which the Scripture termeth a new birth (Titus 3:5), a new man (Eph 4:24), a new creature (2 Cor 5:17). This spiritual being is not in regard of the substance of our soul, or body, or of any of the powers or parts, faculties or members of them [for all these we have by lineal descent from Adam, and all these have all sorts of men, as well they who are not of the Church, as they who are of it] but in regard of the integrity, goodness, and divine qualities which are in them, even that holiness and righteousness wherewith the Church is endued and adorned. As we are natural men we are of Adam, as we are spiritual men we are of Christ.
3. Quest. Why is mention made of flesh and bones in this spiritual being?
Answ. 1. In allusion to the creation of Eve, that by comparing this with that, this might be the better conceived.
2. In regard of the Lord's Supper, where the flesh of Christ is mystically set before us to be spiritual food unto us. That as before he showed the mystery of one sacrament, baptism (v. 26); here he might shew the mystery of the other sacrament, The Lord's Supper.
3. In relation to Christ's human nature, by virtue whereof we come to be united unto Christ. For the divine nature of Christ is infinite, incomprehensible, incommunicable, and there is no manner of proportion betwixt it and us, so as we could not be united to it immediately. But Christ by taking his human nature into the unity of his divine nature, made himself one with us, and us one with him: so as by his partaking of our mortality, we are made partakers of his immortality.
4. Quest. Are we then united only to his human nature?
Answ. No: we are united to his person, God-Man. For as the divine nature, in and by itself, is incommunicable; so the human nature singly considered, in and by itself, is unprofitable. The Deity is the fountain of all life and grace: the flesh quickeneth not: but that spiritual life which originally and primarily floweth from the Deity, as from a fountain, is by the humanity of Christ, as by a conduit-pipe, conveyed into us.
5. Quest. How can we who are on earth, be united to his human nature, which is contained in the highest heaven?
Answ. This union being supernatural and spiritual, there needeth no local presence for the making of it. That eternal Spirit which is in Christ is conveyed into every of the Saints [as the soul of a man is into every member and part of his body] by virtue whereof they are all made one with Christ, and with one another: by one Spirit we are all baptized into one body, which body is Christ (1 Cor 12:12,13).
This is to be noted against these two errors. The first is this, We are united first to the divine nature of Christ which is everywhere, and by virtue thereof to his human nature.
Answ. 1. The Deity [as we shewed] is immediately incommunicable: so as this cannot be.
2. Our union with Christ is spiritual, not physical or natural, so as this local presence needeth not.
The second error is this,
The human nature of Christ hath all the divine properties in it, so as it is everywhere present, and by reason thereof we are united unto Christ.
Answ. This also is impossible and needless. The properties of a true body cannot possibly admit the incommunicable properties of the Deity: that implieth direct contradiction, which is, that finite should be infinite. Needless also this is, because the union we speak of, is [as we said] spiritual.
6. Quest. What kind of union is this spiritual union?
Answ. A true, real union of our person [bodies and souls] with the person of Christ [God and man]. For as the Holy Ghost did unite in the virgin's womb the divine and human natures of Christ, and made them one person, by reason whereof Christ is of our flesh and of our bones: so the Spirit uniteth that person of Christ with our persons, by reason whereof we are of his flesh, and of his bones. A great difference there is betwixt the kinds of these unions: for the union of Christ's two natures is hypothetical and essential, they make one person: but the union of Christ's person, and ours, is spiritual and mystical: they make one mystical body: yet is there no difference in the reality and truth of these unions: our union with Christ is never a whit the less real and true because it is mystical and spiritual: they who have the same spirit are as truly one, as those parts which have the same soul. The effects which proceed from this union do shew the truth thereof: for that Spirit which sanctified Christ in his mother's womb sanctifieth us also, that which quickened him quickeneth us, that which raised him from death, raiseth us (Rom 8:11; Eph 2:6), that which exalted him exalteth us. The many resemblances which the Scripture useth to set forth this union, do shew the truth thereof: but most lively is it set forth by that resemblance which Christ maketh betwixt it and his union with his Father. I pray [saith he of all his Saints] that they may all be one, as thou Father art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that they may be one, as we are one (John 17:21,22). This note of comparison [as] is not to be taken of the kind, but of the truth of these unions, our union with Christ is as true as Christ's union with his Father.
So true is this union, as not only Jesus himself, but all the Saints which are members of this body together with Jesus the head thereof are called Christ (1 Cor 12:12; Gal 3:16).
This is to be noted against their conceit, who imagine this union to be only in imagination and conceit: or else only in consent of spirit, heart, and will: or at the most, in participation of spiritual graces.
7. Quest. What is the bond whereby this union is made: namely whereby Christ and the Saints are made one?
Answ. There is a double bond, one on Christ's part, even the Spirit of Christ [for hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit (1 John 4:13)] another on the Saints' part, even faith [for Christ dwelleth in our hearts by faith (Eph 3:17)]. The Spirit is conveyed into us when we are dead in sins, wholly flesh, but being in us, it breedeth this blessed instrument of faith whereby we lay hold on Christ, and grow into him as the science into the stock. Thus Christ laying hold on us by his Spirit, and we on him by faith, we come to be incorporated into him, and made one body, as the science and stock one tree.
8. Quest. To what end hath Christ thus truly and nearly united us unto himself?
Answ. Not for any benefit unto himself: but merely for the honour and good of the Church. By this union the honour of Christ is communicated to the Church, as the honour of an husband to his wife, and of an head to the body. Great also is the benefit which the Church reapeth thereby: for by this means is Christ made more fit to do good to the Church, as an head to the body, and the Church is made more capable of receiving good from Christ, as a body from the head, being knit to it by the soul, and by veins, sinews, nerves, arteries, and other like ligaments.
Thus having as plainly as I can by questions and answers laid open this great mystery, I will further note out some of those excellent privileges which by virtue thereof appertain to the Saints, and also some of the principal duties which in regard thereof the Saints are bound unto.
71. Of the privileges appertaining to the Saints even in this life by reason of their union with Christ.
The privileges of the Saints which arise from their union with Christ respect this life, the time of death, and the life to come.
In this life these,
1. A most glorious condition, which is to be a part of Christ, member of his body. All the glory of Adam in Paradise, or of the Angels in heaven is not comparable to this. In this respect the Saints are said to be crowned with glory and honour, and to have all things out under their feet. Compare Psalms 8:4, 5 &c. with Hebrews 2:6, 7 &c. and ye shall find the Apostle apply that to Christ, which the Prophet spake indefinitely of man. Now those two places cannot be better reconciled, than by this union of Christ and Saints: for seeing both make one body, which is Christ, that which is spoken of the body may be applied to the head, and that which is spoken of the head may be applied to the body: for the same honour appertaineth to both. In which respect the Church is more honourable than heaven, angels, and every other creature.
2. The attendance of good Angels, who are sent forth to minister for them who shall be heirs of salvation, because those heirs are of the body of Christ, who is their Lord. These are those horses, and chariots of fire which were round about Elisha (Heb 1:14; 2 Kings 6:17): which are also round about every of God's Saints in all their distresses, though we see them no more than the servant of the man of God saw them, till the Lord opened his eyes. That charge which is given to the Angels over the Son of God to keep him in all his ways, and to bear him in their hands lest he dash his foot against a stone (Psalms 91:11,12), hath relation to this body which is Christ.
3. An honour to make Christ himself perfect: for as the several members make a natural body perfect, so the several Saints, this body which is Christ. In this respect the Church is said to be the fulness of him that filleth all in all (Eph 1:23). Christ filleth all things, and yet the Church maketh him full: which is to be understood of that voluntary condition whereunto Christ subjected himself, to be the head of a body: so as without the parts of the body he is imperfect, as a natural body is maimed and imperfect if it want but the least member thereof. How can we now think but that he will preserve and keep safe all his Saints? Will he restore to us all the parts of our natural body at the general resurrection, and will he lose any of the parts of his own mystical body?
4. A kind of possession of heaven while we are on earth: for that which the head hath a possession of, the body and several members have also a possession of. In this respect it is said, he hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places (Eph 2:6). And, he that believeth on him hath everlasting life: is passed from death unto life (John 5:24). And, he that hath the Son, hath life (1 John 5:12). This is somewhat more than hope: and serveth exceedingly to strengthen our hope, and give us assurance of that heavenly inheritance.
They know not the power of God, nor the virtue of this union, who deny that the Saints have assurance of salvation. For [to follow this metaphor a little] suppose a man were cast into a river, and his head able to lift and keep itself above water, would we not say, that man is safe enough, he is above water. This is the case of this mystical body: it being cast into the sea of this world, Christ the head thereof hath lift, and keeps himself aloft even in heaven. Is there now any fear, any possibility of the drowning of this body, or of any member thereof? If any should be drowned, then either Christ must be drowned, or else that member pulled from Christ; both which are impossible. Thus then by virtue of this union we see how on Christ's safety, ours dependeth: if he be safe, so are we: if we perish, so must he.
In this respect, ye may be secure O flesh and blood: ye have got heaven in Christ: they who deny heaven to you, may also deny Christ to be in heaven.
Learn here how to conceive of the resurrection, ascension and safety of Christ, even as of the resurrection, ascension and safety of an head, in and with whom his body and all his members are raised, exalted, and preserved.
5. A most happy kind of regiment under which the Saints are: even such an one as the members of an head are under. An head ruleth the body not as a cruel lord and tyrant, rigorously, inhumanely, basely, and slavishly, but meekly, gently, with great compassion, and fellow-feeling. Even so doth Christ, his Church, binding up that which is broken, healing that which is maimed, directing that which wandereth, and quickening that which is dull; which privilege is so much the greater because it is proper to the Church. Though he have a golden scepter of grace and favour to hold out to his Church [as Ahash-verosh held out his to Esther (Esth 5:7)] yet he hath also a rod of iron to break the men of this world, and to dash them in pieces like a potter's vessel (Psa 2:9). Though he be gone to prepare a place for his Saints, that where he is they may be also (John 14:3), yet will he make his enemies his footstools (Psa 110:1).
6. An assurance of sufficient supply of all needful things which the Saints want, and of safe protection from all things hurtful. For by reason of this union, Christ our head hath a sense of our want and of our smart. On this ground he said to them which fed and visited his members, Ye fed me, ye visited me (Matt 25:35) and again, to Saul that persecuted his members, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? (Acts 9:4)
Object. How is it then, that the Saints want many things, and oft suffer much smart, and hurt?
Answ. Christ in his wisdom seeth it behoveful that they should want, and feel smart [and that we are to be persuaded of] or else he would not suffer them to want or feel that which they do. Wherefore in all need, in every distress and danger, let us lift up our head to this our head.
7. A right to all that Adam lost. For Christ is the heir of all (Heb 1:2), [the earth is the Lord's and the fulness thereof (Psa 24:1)] yea as mediator and head of the Church is he heir of all: his body therefore hath a right to all. On this ground the Apostle saith, All things are yours (1 Cor 3:21). So as the Saints and only the Saints can with good conscience use the things of this world. They who are not of this body [what right and title soever they have before men] are but usurpers of the things they enjoy and use. They are like to bankrupts, who being not worth one penny, deceitfully borrow of others, and therewith keep a great table, deck and furnish their houses very sumptuously, put themselves, wives and children, into brave apparel, are frolic and riotous: what is like to be the end of such?
8. A right to more than Adam ever had: namely, to Christ himself, and to all that appertaineth unto him: as to the purity of his nature, to the perfection of his obedience, the merit of his blood, the power of his death, the virtue of his resurrection, the efficacy of his ascension, all is ours: even as the understanding, wit, judgment, sight, hearing, and all that is in the head, is the body's: if the Church itself were of itself as pure in nature, as perfection in righteousness, as powerful over death, and evil, and grave, and hell, as able to rise from death, and to ascend into heaven, as Christ, it could receive no greater benefit thereby, than it doth by them in the person of Christ: so truly and properly is Christ himself, and all things appertaining to him, the Churches. What can more be said? what can more be desired? O blessed union! blessed are they that have a part therein!
Quest. How is it then that the Church is so basely and miserably respected in the world?
Answ. The world knoweth us not, because it knoweth not Christ (1 John 3:1). It knoweth not Christ the head of this body: it knoweth not the body which is Christ. Let not us who know both head and body, the near union which is betwixt them, and the privileges which follow thereupon, be daunted, neither with the scoffs or scorns of the world, nor with our own outward weaknesses, wants, and calamities. What would he that hath Christ, have more?
72. Of the privilege of our union with Christ in the time of death.
The privilege which the Saints receive by their union with Christ in the time of death [even all that time that passeth from the departure of the Saints out of this world unto the general resurrection] is admirable: for when body and soul are severed one from another, neither soul nor body are separated from Christ, but both remain united to him: even as, when Christ's body and soul were by death severed one from another, neither his soul, nor his body were separated from the Deity, but both remained united thereunto. This inviolable bond that holdeth the Saints, [yea, even their very bodies as well as their souls] united to Christ in death, is the benefit of a spiritual union. If our union with Christ were corporeal, it could not be so.
Object. Is it possible that the body which is dead should remain united to Christ, when as it receiveth no virtue from him?
Answ. 1. If a member of a natural body may do so, why not a member of the mystical body? That a member of a natural body may do so, is evident by those who have an hand, arm, foot, leg, or any other member taken with a dead palsy: they are sometimes so taken, as those parts receive no manner of sense, or any vigour, or life from head or heart at all: and yet remain true members of that body.
2. The very dead bodies consumed with worms or otherwise, do receive a great present benefit from their union with Christ: for by virtue thereof there is a substance preserved, and they are kept from destruction: there is nothing destroyed in the Saints by death, but that which if it were not destroyed, would make them most miserable, namely sin: that is utterly, totally, finally destroyed in them, and all the concomitances thereof, which are all manner of infirmities: but the rotting of the body, is but as the rotting of corn in the earth, that it may arise a more glorious body (1 Cor 15:36). The metaphor of sleep, attributed to the Saints when they die (1 Thes 4:13), sheweth that their bodies are not utterly destroyed.
Object. The bodes of all men, even of those that are not of this union, are preserved from utter destruction. This therefore is no benefit of our union with Christ.
Answ. Though in the general thing itself, which is a preservation of the substance of the body, the same thing befalleth the Saints and the wicked: yet the means whereby both are preserved, and the end why they are preserved is far different.
1. The Saints are preserved by a secret influence proceeding from Christ, as an head: in which respect they are said to sleep in Jesus, and to be dead in Christ (1 Thes 4:14,16). But the wicked are reserved by an almighty power of Christ, as a terrible Lord and severe Judge.
2. The bodies of the Saints are preserved to enjoy eternal glory together with their souls: but the bodies of the wicked are reserved to be tormented in hell.
In regard of these differences, the grave is as a bed to the Saints (Isa 57:2), for them quietly to sleep therein free from all disturbance till the day of resurrection: but it is a prison to the wicked to hold them fast against the great Day of Assize, that at Doom's day they may be brought to appear at the bar of God's judgment seat, and there receive the sentence of condemnation.
73. Of the privilege of our union with Christ after death.
The privilege which the Saints by virtue of their union with Christ receive after death, far surpasseth all before. It may be drawn to two heads.
1. Their resurrection.
2. Their glory in heaven.
That which was before said of the difference betwixt the preservation of the bodies of the Saints and wicked in death, may be applied to the difference of their resurrection.
Resurrection simply in itself is not the privilege of the Saints, but resurrection of life: to the wicked appertaineth the resurrection of condemnation (John 5:29). The benefit of resurrection ariseth from the glory which followeth thereupon in heaven. That glory hath the Apostle excellently set forth before (v. 27 - Sections 49 and 50).
74. Of the duties which are required of the Saints by virtue of their union with Christ.
The mystery of our union with Christ, as it is a matter of great comfort, and encouragement [which ariseth from the forenamed privileges] so also is it a matter of direction and instigation unto us for the performing of sundry duties, whereof they who desire assurance of the forenamed privileges, and comfort by them, must be careful and conscionable. Some of the most principal of those duties are these.
1. Confidence in Christ (Heb 3:6). Christ being our head, so mighty, so wise, so tender, every way so sufficient an head as he is, we should highly dishonour him, if we should not wholly and only repose ourselves upon him for every good thing, and against every evil.
2. Subjection answerable to his manner of governing us (Matt 6:10). The world is subject to Christ perforce, as he is an absolute and Almighty Lord: but he governing us as an head, we must be subject unto him as members, willingly, and readily. What member will rise up, and rebel against the head? yea, what member is not as ready to obey, as the head to command?
3. A cleansing of ourselves from all filthiness of flesh and spirit (2 Cor 7:1; 1 Cor 6:15). Shall we defile the members of Christ? The sins of the Saints are in this respect the more heinous because that body, even Christ, whereof they are members, is defiled thereby. Wherefore in regard of Christ the head, of other Saints their fellow members, and of themselves, must all that profess themselves to be of this body be watchful over themselves, and cleanse themselves from all filthiness. Otherwise they give just occasion to think that they are not members of this body. If a lion's foot, or bear's paw were held out, and said to be the member of a man, would any believe it? Can we then think that worldlings, drunkards, profane, riotous, unclean persons, and such like limbs of the devil, are members of Christ?
4. A conformity unto the image of Christ in true holiness and righteousness (Eph 4:24). It is not therefore sufficient for the members of Christ to abstain from polluting themselves, for they are created in Christ Jesus unto good works (Eph 2:10). He that abideth in me [saith Christ] and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit (John 15:5).
5. Heavenly affections. If ye be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affections on things above, and not on things on the earth (Col 3:1,2). Where our head is, there also ought our heart to be. Earthly affections come not from that head which is in heaven: nor from that Spirit which proceedeth from him. They who are after the spirit mind the things of the spirit (Rom 8:5).
6. Courage against death: seeing that in death we are Christ's, what cause have we to fear death? Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that, have no more that they can do (Luke 12:4). The ancient worthies would not accept deliverance, that they might obtain a better resurrection (Heb 11:35).
Hitherto of the union itself. The means of effecting it, remain to be handled.
75. Of their regeneration who are members of Christ.
Ephesians 5:30. Of his flesh, and of his bones.
This clause declareth the means whereby we come to be members of Christ, namely by receiving a new being from Christ, which is to be, not of the flesh, and of the bones of Adam, but of the flesh and of the bones of Christ, which being spiritually taken, as hath been expounded before (see Section 70), sheweth that
They who are true members of Christ's body, are truly regenerate. If any be in Christ he is a new creature: these words are so laid down by the Apostle, as they serve both for a demonstration, and an exhortation [he is, or let him be a new creature neither is expressed, but either, or both may be understood]. As many of you as have been baptized into Christ [that is, made members of this body] have put on Christ (Gal 3:27) [that is, have been born again] the first branch noteth out our incorporation into Christ, the latter our regeneration.
This second man, and last Adam Christ Jesus is a quickening spirit (1 Cor 15:45): he diffuseth life and grace into all his members: if his Spirit be in us, it will quicken our mortal bodies (Rom 8:11). If the head of our natural bodies convey sense into all our members: if the root of a tree diffuse sap into all the branches: shall not Christ much more give life to all his members?
This then is a matter of trial, whereby we may prove whether indeed we are of this body or no, and so have a true right to the forenamed privileges. Many boast of this honour that they are members of Christ's body, and yet are not of his flesh and of his bones: they have no other being, than what they received from their parents. These vain professors are like wooden legs, or arms on a man, which may be covered over with hose and sleeves for a time, but shall not be raised at the resurrection with the other parts of the man's body: so neither shall those professors be raised to glory with Christ, though they may be covered over with the hose and sleeves of profession, and thereby seem to be members.
76. Of the author of our regeneration, Christ.
This relative particle [His] twice repeated [of His flesh, and of his bones] sheweth that
Regeneration is of Christ. The Son quickeneth whom he will (John 5:21).
Object. This work is attributed in Scripture to the Father (1 Peter 1:3), to the Spirit (John 3:5), to the Word (James 1:18), and to the Ministers of the word (1 Cor 4:15).
Answ. Christ may very well stand with all these. The three persons in Trinity are all one: one in nature and essence: one in will and consent: one in virtue and power: what the one doth the other doth also. Yet because there is a difference in their manner of working, this work [as other works] is distinctly attributed to each of them.
The Father is [as I may so speak] the beginner of this work. His will it was that his Son should be the head of a body, and that there should members be made fit for that head, and have a new being [of his own will begat he us (James 1:18)] for this end he sent his Son into the world to be made flesh. The Son put in execution the will of his Father: he took flesh upon him, that we might be of his flesh. Thus saith Christ of himself, I came down from heaven to do the will of him that sent me; And this is the Father's will which hath sent me, that of all which he hath given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at the last day (John 6:38,39). The Spirit applieth unto us the virtue and efficacy of the flesh of Christ, and so finisheth this blessed work. It is the Spirit that quickeneth: the flesh profiteth nothing (John 6:63); namely, of itself without the Spirit.
Thus we see that the applying of this work of regeneration unto Christ, excludeth not the work of the Father, or of the holy Ghost therein, but excludeth the work of man: so as it is not of ourselves, nor of our parents, nor of any other man: for we are born not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God (John 1:13): in which respect our new birth is said to be from above (John 3:3).
Object. How is it then attributed to the word, and to the ministry of man?
Answ. As unto instruments which the Lord is pleased to use: Of the word it is said, God hath begotten us with the word (James 1:18): of himself a Minister thus saith the Apostle, In Christ Jesus I have begotten you (1 Cor 4:15): so as God and Christ are joined with these instruments, or else they are no whit powerful and effectual for so great a work: for neither is he that planteth any thing, nor he that watereth: but God that giveth the increase (1 Cor 3:7).
The work of regeneration is a new creation, a divine work, above human strain. It must therefore be wrought by the Lord, or it cannot be wrought at all.
This is to be noted both of those that have not yet assurance of this blessed work wrought in them: and also of those who have assurance thereof.
The former may here learn whither to have recourse for it: namely, to him who came down from heaven for that purpose, and who saith, Him that cometh unto me I will in no wise cast out (John 6:37). In all the means that we use, let us look up unto him, and seek a blessing of him.
The latter must with the tenth leper return back unto Christ, and glorify God (Luke 17:16). Whatsoever the means were, or whosoever the Minister was, the praise and glory of all must be given to him.
77. Of the matter of our regeneration, Christ.
The preposition [Of] twice set down [Of his flesh, and of his bones] being a proper note of the material cause, sheweth that
Christ is not only the author, but the matter also of our new birth. The new spiritual being which the Saints have, cometh out of him. From him all the body having nourishment increaseth with the increase of God (Col 2:19). In this respect we are said to be blessed with all spiritual blessings in Christ (Eph 1:3). The metaphor of a vine (John 15:5), which Christ taketh unto himself, proveth also as much: so do these phrases, My flesh is meat indeed, my blood is drink indeed (John 6:55).
This Christ cometh to be by his incarnation. God in himself is as a bottomless and a closed fountain: from him immediately we can receive nothing. But Christ made flesh is a fountain opened (Zech 13:1): In him all fulness dwelleth (Col 1:19). And of him have all we received, even grace for grace (John 1:16).
Behold here the benefit of Christ's incarnation: by his taking part of our mortal flesh, are we made partakers of his spiritual flesh, namely, of that spiritual life and grace which cometh from him, who was made flesh, to convey the same into us. To strengthen our faith the more firmly herein, the Lord hath instituted the holy communion of his body and blood. With what conscience, reverence, and confidence, ought this blessed sacrament to be celebrated?
By this doctrine we may further learn how to seek every thing at God's hands which we desire to obtain (John 16:23), and how to offer that sacrifice of praise unto God (Heb 13:15, Col 3:17), which we would have to be accepted; namely in and through Jesus Christ, by whom only we have all that communion which we have with God. Well therefore doth the Church conclude all her forms of prayers and praises with this, or such a like clause, through Jesus Christ our Lord.
78. Of the excellency of regeneration.
The particular matter of our regeneration [the flesh and bones of Christ] here expressed, sheweth that
Regeneration is a most excellent work. The excellency hereof will the better appear, if we compare it with the great and glorious work of our creation, and shew how far it surpasseth it: wherein I will hold close to this metaphor, and touch no other differences than it doth point out unto us.
1. In our creation Christ was only a worker: but he is the very matter of our regeneration, we are of his flesh.
2. The relation that then was betwixt Christ and man, was Creator, Creature, but here Head, Body. We are members of his body.
The bond is now much nearer.
3. The being which then we had, was from Adam: But the being which now we have is from Christ, Of His flesh.
4. That being was but natural. This is spiritual: for that which is born of the spirit, is spirit (John 3:6).
5. Then our being was different from Christ's: but now it is the very same with Christ's, Of his flesh.
6. Then might man clean fall from that estate wherein he was created [as he did] and yet Christ remain as he was. Now it cannot be so. For if any of the Saints now fall away, either Christ must fall with them, or they must be pulled from Christ, and so Christ remain a maimed body.
Behold the riches of God's mercy. One might think it sufficient, and more than man could ever have been thankful enough for, that God at first created man after his own image in a most happy estate. From which when we wittingly and willfully fell, God might justly have left us, as he did the evil Angels. But he hath not only restored us again to that former estate, but advanced us to a far more excellent and glorious estate: wherein his goodness appeareth to be as his greatness, infinite, incomprehensible. Who can sufficiently set it forth? For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him (Psa 103:11).
79. Of the ancient law of marriage.
Ephesians 5:31. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife: and they two shall be one flesh.
The same points which were before laid down, concerning the near union of man and wife, and of Christ and the Church, are here further confirmed by the ancient law of marriage: which the Apostle doth the rather mention, because it followeth upon that text, whereunto he alluded in the former verse. For when Moses had alleged these words of Adam concerning Eve, This is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh, he addeth this Law, Therefore shall a man leave his father (Gen 2:23,24), &c. In this place these words have both a literal and mystical sense. A literal of man and wife. A mystical of Christ and the Church. The main thing which the Apostle aimeth at, is to shew how nearly man and wife are linked together: that thereby they may the rather be moved to perform those mutual and several duties which they owe each to other. But because he propounded to husbands and wives the examples of Christ and the Church, as patterns and motives to them, to do their duty, he applieth that which was first spoken of man and wife, unto Christ and his Church, to shew that there being so fit a resemblance betwixt these two couples, the pattern propounded is the more pertinent to the purpose, and the reason enforced from thence the more forcible. Because the opening of the literal sense will give great light to the mystery, I will first handle this text according to the meaning of the letter.
The first clause [for this cause] implieth a necessary connexion with that which went before. The near union of man and wife, as well as of Christ and his Church, was before noted. A wife was said to be as the body of a man (v. 28), yea as himself. Adam called her his flesh and bones (Gen 2:23). Hereupon both Moses and Paul infer, Therefore, or, For this cause shall a man leave father. Because man and wife are so near by God's institution, they must also be most dear each to other in their mutual affection.
The man [meaning an husband] is here in particular mentioned, because at the first making of this Law the woman was brought to him to see how he would like her: and having cast his affection on her, he was to be bound hereby to continue that good liking towards her: as also because of the preeminency which man hath above his wife. Yet is not the man only tied hereby, but the wife also: the nature and rule of relation requireth as much: if a man must inseparably cleave to his wife, the wife must answerably cleave to her husband.
These words [shall leave father and mother] are neither generally to be taken of all duties, as if no duty were to be performed to parents by children after they are married: nor simply, as if indeed parents were utterly to be forsaken: but they are meant,
1. Of that daily service which children under their parents' government perform unto them, seeking to please them in all things. When children are married, then their daily attendance must be upon their wives, or husbands, taking care how to please them (1 Cor 7:33,34).
2. Of erecting a new family: for which end their parents' house must be left, and the husband and wife must dwell each with other.
3. Of the difference to be put betwixt parents, and wife or husband. So as if by any inevitable occasion it should so fall out, that a man must leave his parent, or his wife [as in case both parent and wife were both giving up the Ghost, and in places so far remote, as the husband could not possibly be with both, yet both instantly desired his company] by this Law he must leave his parent, and cleave to his wife.
Hereby then the bond of marriage is declared to be the most inviolable bond that can be. For all men know, that the bond betwixt parent and child is a firm and inviolable bond: but the bond betwixt husband and wife is more firm and inviolable.
To set forth the firmness of the marriage bond he addeth this emphatical phrase, shall be joined, [or as the word properly, according to the natural notation thereof signifieth, shall be glued] to his wife. Things well glued together are as fast, firm, and close as if they were one entire piece. Yea we observe by experience that a table will oft times cleave in the whole wood, before it will part asunder where it is glued: so as an husband ought to be as firm to his wife as to himself: and she to him.
Fitly doth this agree with that which followeth [they two shall be one flesh]. Our English cannot well express the Greek in good sense word for word [which is thus, they two shall be into, or in one flesh] the meaning is, They which were two before marriage, by the bond of marriage are brought into one flesh, to be even as one flesh: as nearly united, as the parts of the same body, and the same flesh. This unity is not in regard of carnal copulation [for if they be married they are one flesh, though they never know one another] nor in regard of procreation, because one child cometh from them both [for though they never have child, yet are they one flesh] but in regard of God's institution, who hath set it down for a Law, and as another nature, that man and wife should be so near one to another. Their consent in marriage [by virtue of God's institution] maketh them to be one flesh.
Well doth our English note the emphasis of the original in this particle They [they two] which sheweth that the bond of marriage knitteth only two together: one man, and one woman, and no more.
This Law setteth forth the union betwixt man and wife.
Therein three things are noted concerning the state of marriage.
1. The preeminency of it [a man shall leave father and mother].
2. The firmness of it [and be joined to his wife].
3. The nearness of it [they two shall be one flesh].
80. Of preferring husband or wife before parents.
The first point sheweth, that
A wife, or an husband must be preferred before parents. The examples of Leah and Rachel (Gen 31:14), yea and of Michal (1 Sam 19:11), are commendable in this respect.
1. The bond of marriage is more ancient, more firm, more near. There was husband and wife before there was parent and child: and there is a time when parents and children may depart one from another, and that while both live: but no time, wherein man and wife may part asunder till death part them. And children though they come from the flesh of their parents, yet are made two [so as of one are two] but husbands and wives though they were two before, yet are made one [so as of two is one].
What wrong then do such parents unto their children, as keep them, even after they are married, so strait under subjection, as they cannot freely perform such duty as they ought to their husband, or their wife? This is more than a parent's authority reacheth unto. Yet many think that their children owe as much service to them after they are married as before: which is directly against this Law.
Greater is the wrong, and more sinful is the practice of such as keep their children from their husbands, or from their wives. The match [say they] falleth out much worse than we looked for. But this should have been looked to more carefully beforehand. After marriage it is too late to seek such a redress.
On the other side, there be many children who so respect their parents, as they neglect their husband or their wife. Some husbands will bestow what they can on their parents, and keep their wives very bare, suffering them to want necessaries; not caring how they vex and grieve them so they please their parents. Some wives also will privily purloin from their husbands to bestow on their parents.
Others can never tarry out of their parents' houses, but as oft as they can, go thither. The ancient Romans, to shew how unmeet this was, had a custom to cover the bride's face with a yellow veil, and so soon as she was out of her father's house to turn her about and about, and so to carry her to the house of her husband, that she might not know the way to her father's house again. All those pretenses of love to parents are more preposterous than pious: and natural affection beareth more sway in such, than true religion. Their pretence of piety to parents is no just excuse for that injury they do to husband and wife.
81. Of the firmness of the matrimonial bond.
The second point concerning the firmness of the marriage knot in these words [shall be joined to his wife] affordeth two doctrines.
1. Man and wife must associate themselves together by continual cohabitation: for this end they leave their parent's family, and erect a new family (see Treatise 2, Part 2, Section 14).
2. Man and wife are joined together by an inviolable bond. It must never be cut asunder till death cut it. Body and soul must be severed one from another before husband and wife (see Treatise 2, Part 2, Section 2).
Be careful therefore to preserve this indissoluble knot: and so live together, as with comfort you may live together, because you may not part.
82. Of two only to be joined together in marriage.
The third point concerning the nearness of man and wife, in these words [they two shall be one flesh] affordeth two other doctrines.
1. Marriage can be but betwixt two, one man, and one woman: for it is impossible that more than two should so nearly, and firmly be joined together, as man and wife are. Every word almost in this Law proveth this doctrine. For it saith a man, not men: to a wife, not to wives: to his wife, not to another's wife: two, not more than two: they two, not any two: one flesh, not many fleshes.
Object. This particle [two] is not in the Law as Moses recordeth it (Gen 2:24).
Answ. It is there necessarily implied, for at that time there were but two in the world: God then speaking of them, meaneth but two. The same Spirit that guided Moses, guided also the Evangelists (Matt 19:5), and the Apostles (1 Cor 6:16): so as by their inserting of this particle [two] it is certain that it was intended by Moses: as the particle [only] which Christ putteth into this text, him only shalt thou serve (Deut 6:13; Matt 4:10).
Quest. Why did God at first make but one man, and one woman?
Answ. The prophet answereth, that he might seek a godly seed (Mal 2:15).
If therefore there be more than two, it is an adulterous seed which proceedeth from thence.
83. Of polygamy and bigamy.
Can polygamy [the having of many wives] or bigamy [the having of two wives at once] have any good warrant against such an express Law? Are not both of them against the first institution of marriage, so as we may say, from the beginning it was not so (Matt 19:8)? Yea also and against other particular laws (Deut 17:17; Lev 18:18)? Lamech one of Cain's cursed stock was the first that we read of to have presumed against that ancient law (Gen 4:19).
Object. Afterwards many Patriarchs, and other Saints took that liberty unto themselves.
Answ. It was their sin, and a great blemish in them. The common error of the time, and their unsatiable desire of increase made them fall into it. Many inconveniences followed thereupon: neither can it be thought but that much mischief must needs follow upon having more wives than one: for whereas God at first made a wife to be as an help unto man (Gen 2:18), two, or more wives cannot but be a great grief and vexation unto him by reason of that emulation that is betwixt them (Gen 16:5). Through Hagar's means was Sarah stirred against Abraham, and Abraham grieved at Sarah's words (Gen 21:11). Though Leah and Rachel were sisters, yet great were their emulations: the like whereof is noted of Peninnah and many others.
Considering the heinousness of this sin, our laws have justly made it felony for a man to have more wives than one, or a woman more husbands.
84. Of the near conjunction of man and wife together.
2. The nearest of all other are husband and wife one to another. Every clause in the forenamed Law proveth as much.
1. Parents must be left for wife: who nearer than parent and child? if man and wife be near than the nearest, then they are the nearest of all.
2. A man is glued to his wife. This metaphor setteth forth the nearness of a thing as well as the firmness of it: for things glued together are as one entire thing.
3. Man and wife are one flesh: many of one are made two, but no two so nearly and truly made one as man and wife.
As God hath limited a propinquity, and unity of things, so are they to be accounted: but God hath thus nearly knit man and wife together, and made them one flesh. Those whom God hath joined together, saith Christ of man and wife (Matt 19:6): in which respect matrimonial conjunction is called the covenant of God (Prov 2:17): so as this covenant cannot be released by any, no not by the mutual consent of man and wife [Those whom God hath joined together, let no man put asunder] yet may many other covenants made betwixt party and party, be released and disannulled by mutual consent of both parties.
1. This sheweth that the transgressions of man and wife one against another are of all the most heinous, more than of friend, fellow, brother, child, parent or any other. Who would not cry fie upon that child that hates his parent, or fie upon that parent that hates his child? The heathen and savages would not think them worthy of human society. What then may be thought of the man that hateth his wife, or the wife that hateth her husband? Apply this to all other transgressions: and well note how the Lord is a witness thereof (Mal 2:14).
2. This also sheweth how monstrous a thing it is to sow any seeds of discord, and their debate betwixt man and wife. The devil's instruments they are therein, and a diabolical spirit is in them. For Satan most laboureth to unloose those knots which the Lord knitteth most firmly. Children of several venters, and several friends of each party, are much faulty herein. Cursed be they all before the Lord (1 Sam 16:19).
3. This near conjunction betwixt man and wife is a great motive to stir them both up, cheerfully to perform all the duties which God requireth of either of them. For thereby they do duty, and shew kindness to their own flesh. No man may hide himself from his own flesh at large: that is, no man may neglect any duty of mercy, or justice to his neighbour who is of the same stock that he is: shall then an husband or wife hide themselves from one another who in the nearest respect that possibly can be are one flesh? not because they come from one flesh, but because they come into one flesh.
Hitherto of the literal sense of this verse.
The mystical followeth.
85. Of the matrimonial conjunction of Christ and the Church.
The forenamed ancient marriage law is here applied mystically to Christ and the Church, as is evident by the next verse, where the Apostle having reference to this verse saith, This is a great mystery. There is then a mystery contained in it. But of what, or of whom is that mystery? The Apostle himself maketh answer, in these words: I speak concerning Christ and the Church.
The mystery in general is this,
Christ and the Church are to one another an husband and wife.
The particulars of this mystery are these.
The matrimonial conjunction betwixt Christ and the Church is a most preeminent, firm, near conjunction.
First of the general.
The many espousal, and matrimonial titles, which in Scripture are given to Christ and the Church in mutual relation of one to another, evidently shew that they are joined together by the honourable, inseparable and inviolable bond of marriage: He is styled a bridegroom, she a bride (John 3:29): he well beloved, she love (Cant 1:13,15): he an husband, she a wife (2 Cor 11:2): he an head, she the body (Eph 5:23): both one flesh.
2. All things requisite to join man and wife together, do fitly concur betwixt Christ and the Church.
1. They are persons fit to be joined. Though Christ be God, yet for this end he became man (John 17:19): and though the Church were impure, yet for this end is she cleansed and sanctified.
2. They have their parent's consent: for God is the common father of both (John 20:17). And God hath given Christ to the Church (Rom 8:32), and the Church to Christ (John 6:39).
3. They have given their mutual consent each to other (Cant 2:16).
4. He beareth an husband-like affection to her, and she is willing to yield a wife-like subjection to him (Eph 5:23,24).
5. He hath given her many favours and gifts as pledges of his love (Eph 4:8): and she in testimony of her faithfulness was under the Law circumcised, and is under the Gospel baptized: and doth bind herself with all the sacred bonds and covenants which God to that purpose hath sanctified.
6. He hath prepared places of habitation for them both together (John 14:3), and she earnestly desireth to be with him (Rev 22:17,20).
Behold another evidence of Christ's admirable love to the Church, and of the near union betwixt Christ and her. The former was that she was his body. This, that she is his wife: well might the Church say as Abigail did, Behold, let thine handmaid be a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my Lord (1 Sam 25:41): and as the prodigal child, make me as one of thine hired servants (Luke 15:19): or as the Baptist, I am not worthy to stoop down to unloose thy shoe-latchets (Mark 1:7). What a favour then is it to be made his spouse, his wife, his Queen. Great was the favour which Ahash-verosh shewed to Esther when he made her his wife: he was a great Monarch, reigning from India to Ethiopia over 127 provinces: but Esther was a poor orphan and captive: yet was not this favour comparable to Christ's: for there was no such disparity and inequality betwixt Ahash-verosh and Esther, as betwixt Christ and the Church: neither is Esther's advancement to be compared with the Church's: and yet there was some cause in Esther to move Ahash-verosh to do what he did, for she was very beautiful, and lovely, and worthy to be loved: but in the Church when Christ first cast his love on her, there was no such thing (see Sections 33 and 34). No pattern of love can be given any way comparable to this.
Let the Church therefore, and all that profess themselves to be of the Church, take such notice hereof, as they may endeavor to carry themselves worthy of this honour and advancement: not to wax proud and insolent thereupon, but to despise all vain and worldly toys: to answer love with love, as the Church is set forth in Solomon's song; to be subject to her husband, to reverence and obey him, and to perform all duties appertaining to such a wife: seeking by all good means to maintain the honour of her place. The Church is made a pattern of duty to all wives: if she should fail, greater inconvenience would follow from thence, than from Vashti's disobedience (Esth 1:16).
This is the rather to be regarded because it is not only a matter of instruction but of trial also, shewing both what they which are of the Church ought to do, and also what indeed they will do (see Section 24). Wherefore no profane person that lightly esteemeth the Lord Jesus, no idolater that casteth his love on other husbands, no swearer or blasphemer that dishonoureth the great Name of Jesus, none that any way are rebellious against him, none that hate, scorn, scoff, or hurt any of his members, can have any comfort in this advancement of the Church, because they have no part therein, nor right thereunto.
But great is that comfort which the true Saints may receive therein. For by virtue of this matrimonial bond,
1. Christ is made a yoke-fellow with his Church, and her companion. Under all the burdens which are laid upon her, he putteth his shoulder to make it the more easy: yea, the great burdens of God's wrath, the curse of the Law, and sin the cause thereof, hath he so taken on him, as he hath clean freed his Church from them, because they would else have crushed her down to hell.
2. Christ is as her champion to answer all challenges sent unto her, as her advocate to plead and answer all the complaints that shall be made against her, as her surety to discharge all her debts: the Church being covert-baron under Christ, he is as herself, all in all for her, and to her.
3. All his honours, goods, privileges are hers: she hath a right to them, and her part in them, she is a co-heir with him (Rom 8:17), a Queen because he a King (Psa 45:9) and all glorious, as was noted (v. 27).
4. He will assuredly perform all the offices of an husband, as to love her, bear with her, provide for her, with the like. Able he is to do all, for he is omnipotent: willing also he must needs be, because willingly he hath taken upon him this place: he hath made himself a pattern to other husbands: will he not then do that himself which he requireth of others?
If ever any wife might receive comfort in a match, the Church may receive comfort in this match.
The benefit of this match will yet more lively appear by a particular consideration of the three forenamed properties of this matrimonial bond, the preeminency, firmness, and nearness thereof.
86. Of Christ's leaving his Father and mother for his spouse.
I. The preeminency of the matrimonial bond betwixt Christ and the Church herein appeareth, that
Christ left his Father and his mother for his spouse the Church. As Christ is God, God is his Father; as man, the virgin Mary was his mother. Now the leaving of his Father must be taken only by way of resemblance, in that he came from the place of his Father's habitation, to the place where his spouse was. The Scripture saith, that he was in the bosom of his Father (John 1:18): by him, as one brought up with him, his daily delight, rejoicing always before him (Prov 8:30): yet descended he into the lowest parts of the earth where his spouse was (Eph 4:9). He came out from the Father, and came into the world (John 16:28).
But truly and properly did he prefer his spouse before his mother. For when he was instructing his spouse, and his mother came to interrupt him, he said to his mother, who is my mother? and to his spouse, behold my mother (Mark 3:33,34).
Of the same mind must the Church, and all that are of the Church be unto Christ: she must forget her own people, and father's house (Psa 45:10). Seeing Christ hath gone before us, and given us so good an example, what an high point of ingratitude would it be for us, to prefer father, mother, or any other before Christ our husband? Note what he saith in this case, He that loveth father or mother more than me, is not worthy of me (Matt 10:37). And again, If any come unto me, and hate not his father and mother, he cannot be mine (Luke 14:26). To hate here, is to be so far from preferring father and mother before Christ, as rather than not to love Christ, to hate father and mother. Or, so entirely to love Christ above all, as our love of parents in comparison thereof to be an hatred. Thus Levi said unto his father and mother, I have not seen him: for they observed the word, and kept the covenant of Christ (Deut 33:9).
This then is our duty, that we suffer not any natural affection and dotage on our parents to swallow up that love we owe to Christ, as Pharaoh's ill-favoured and lean-fleshed kine eat up the seven well-favoured and fat kine (Gen 41:4). How much less should any love of this world, of the profits, promotions, or pleasures of this world, draw away our hearts from Christ; should we not rather say and do as the Apostles did, Behold, we have forsaken all and followed Christ? (Matt 19:27)
87. Of the indissoluble union betwixt Christ and the Church.
II. The firmness of that bond whereby Christ and the Church are said to be glued together, is greater and more inviolable than that whereby man and wife are joined together: Death parteth man and wife: but death cannot make a diremption betwixt Christ and the Church: so as we may well from this metaphor infer, that Christ and the Church are inseparably knit together. I will betroth thee unto me for ever (Hosea 2:19), saith Christ unto the Church. The covenant which Christ maketh with his Church, is an everlasting covenant. The mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed, before his kindness shall depart from the Church (Isa 54:10; 61:8).
The stedfastness and unchangeableness of his will, is the only cause thereof. Whom he loveth, he loveth unto the end. His gifts and calling are without repentance (John 13:1). He is not like the hard hearted Jews, who upon every slight occasion would put away their wives. The Lord hateth putting away (Mal 2:16). Though therefore the Church, through her weakness, do depart from him, and play the harlot, yet return again to me (Jer 3:1), saith the Lord.
Learn we by this pattern to cleave close unto the Lord, which is a duty most due to Christ who cleaveth so close to us, and therefore oft expressed in the Scripture (Deut 10:20; 13:4; Acts 11:23).
Three virtues there are which are of special use to this purpose, faith, hope, love.
Faith is the hand whereby we lay fast hold on Christ, and as it were knit him to ourselves, as he by his Spirit knitteth us to himself. This maketh us rest and repose ourselves on him for all needful things: and not to leave him for any thing.
Hope is the anchor, which holdeth us fast against all the storms of Satan, so as they can never drive us out of our harbour, which is the Lord Jesus Christ.
Love is the glue and solder which maketh us one with Christ: for it is the property of love to unite those that love one another in one. Jonathan's soul was knit with the soul of David. For why? Jonathan loved him as his own soul (1 Sam 18:1). He that loveth is well pleased with him whom he loveth, and seeketh also to please him, that they may mutually delight one in another. Were these three virtues well rooted in us, we would say, Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, &c. (Rom 8:35).
88. Of the equal privilege of all the Saints.
III. Concerning the phrase, whereby the nearness of man and wife is set forth [they two shall be one flesh] it may be demanded how this can be applied to Christ and the Saints, who are more than two?
Answ. Christ by one Spirit knitteth us all into one body, and so maketh all jointly considered together one spouse (1 Cor 12:13). The multitude of Saints doth no more imply many wives, than the multitude of members which the natural body of a wife hath. This point then teacheth us, that
In the mystical marriage betwixt Christ and the Church, all and every of the Saints have an equal privilege. Some are not concubines, some wives, nor some more loved, or preferred to another, but all one wife. All are one in Christ Jesus (Gal 3:18).
Neither the Father that gave them all, nor the Son who took them all, saw any thing in one more than in another; their mere grace moved them to do what they did. Well may every one apply all the forenamed privileges unto themselves: and not one emulate another.
This affordeth instruction to the more eminent in the Church, that like proud dames they insult not over others, as if they were their handmaids: and consolation to the meaner sort, that they may uphold themselves, and possess their souls with patience, and not envy, or grieve the outward prosperity and privileges of others. In the greatest privilege they are equal to the greatest.
This is of the parties couple to Christ. For these words [they two] shew that all the Saints are but one: Christ is the other of the two. The next words [are one flesh] shew how near those Saints are to Christ.
89. Of the near union betwixt Christ and the Church.
The main point here to be noted is, that
Christ and the Church are most nearly linked together. What can be nearer, than that two should come into one flesh?
This is somewhat more than to be of Christ's flesh. That shews we are as it were cut out of Christ: this shews that we are again knit to him. That was a preparation unto this: this is as the consummation and perfection of all. (See Section 70) Many metaphors are used to set forth the near union betwixt Christ and his Church, but this surpasseth them all. As here we and Christ are said to be one flesh, so in another place, one spirit (1 Cor 6:17; 12:12). Well therefore might the name and title Christ be given to this spouse of Christ.
It was noted on a like ground to this, that of all other persons the transgression of a wife against an husband is most heinous (see Section 84). What then are the transgressions of the Church against Christ? As we are much more bound unto Christ for the privileges we receive from him as an head and husband, and so our Saviour having made with us an everlasting covenant of marriage, then for those we received from him as our Creator, Lord and Master: so are the rebellions now committed against him more monstrous. To Adam that broke the first covenant whereby like a rebellious child and servant he sinned against his Father and Master, mercy and pardon was given: but to such as now break the bond of this everlasting covenant, and make a total and final desertion, utterly renouncing this husband, or by their adultery cause him to give them a bill of divorce, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins; but a certain fearful looking for of judgment, and fiery indignation which shall devour the adversaries (Heb 10:27). This is to be noted, to make us the more circumspect over our ways, resisting sin in the beginning, and looking diligently lest any man fall from the grace of God (Heb 12:15); and giving no place at all unto the devil (Eph 4:17). Satan will most endeavour to dissolute the nearest bonds that God maketh. This then being the nearest of all, we ought to be the most careful in preserving it.
90. Of the mystery of the union of Christ and the Church.
Ephesians 5:32. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the Church.
This verse is a conclusion of that excellent digression which the Apostle hath made concerning the near union of Christ and the Church.
In it two points are to be noted.
1. A pathetical exclamation [This is a great mystery].
2. A particular application of the forenamed Law [but I speak concerning Christ and the Church].
Here first note that
The union betwixt Christ and the Church is a great mystery.
The Apostle could not have said more of it than to call it a mystery, a great mystery (Eph 6:19).
A mystery is a divine secret.
A secret it is in two respects.
1. Because it is not known.
2. Because it is unsearchable: the depth of it cannot be fathomed.
It is a Divine secret, for two other respects.
1. Because it could not have been opened but by divine revelation.
2. Because when it is opened it cannot be conceived but by the illumination of the Spirit. That Spirit which openeth and revealeth the mystery, must also open the eyes of our understanding to discern aright of it.
It is further said to be a great mystery.
1. Simply in itself, because the matter thereof is deep, difficult, weighty, and of great moment.
2. Comparatively in relation to other mysteries: no mystery revealed in God's Word comparable to it.
Let us not presume to measure it with the line of our own reason. It being a great mystery it is above our capacity: yet because it is revealed we must believe it, as we do the mysteries of the Trinity, of Christ's eternal generation, of the personal union of his two natures, of the proceeding of the Holy Ghost, with the like; because the Word hath revealed them, though we cannot fully see the reason of them. Herein lieth a main difference betwixt our estate in this world and in the world to come: here we must believe what we know but in part: there we shall perfectly know whatsoever is to be believed. Preachers can but in part make known this mystery, and hearers can but in part conceive it, let us therefore wait for perfect understanding of it, till all things be perfected in Christ: but in the meantime believe without doubting or wavering, that which is revealed of it.
In our meditation of this mystery, let us conceive no carnal, no earthly thing of it, because it is a mystery: it is altogether spiritual and heavenly. From the natural union of our head and body, and from the matrimonial union of man and wife, we may and ought to take occasion by way of resemblance, to help our understanding in the union of Christ and his Church: for this end are these resemblances used, and by this means may our understanding be much helped, as by the outward elements and rites which are used in the sacraments: but if because of these comparisons we draw this which is only and wholly spiritual, to any carnal matter, we shall make that to be a thick mist, and dark cloud, which is given for a light.
The dotage of our adversaries is here plainly discovered. They make our union with Christ merely carnal. For they conceit it to consist in a corporeal commixtion of Christ's flesh with ours, by our eating his flesh with the teeth of our bodies, and drinking his blood down our throats, and digesting both in our stomachs as our bodily food, that so it may turn into our substance (John 6:52). Thus they shew themselves like the dull-headed Capernaitans, and like ignorant Nicodemus (John 3:4). There is a great deal of gross absurdity, but no great mystery in that conceit.
91. Of the Pope's usurping to be spouse of the Church.
The Apostle's application of this mystery to Christ and the Church, discovereth two gross errors of the Papists.
One, that they make the Pope a spouse of the Church. With what face can any apply that to the Pope and the Church, which the Apostle so expressly saith is meant of Christ and the Church? yea, what arrogant presumption is it, to attribute that to mortal sinful man, which is proper to the eternal and holy Son of God? Is not this to confer Christ's prerogatives upon himself, and so make himself plain Antichrist? Who gave the Church to the Pope, or the Pope to the Church? When did she give her consent? [I speak of the true catholic Church of Christ.] What hath he done for her? or rather what hath he not done against her? The distinction of Imperial and Ministerial spouse, cannot here serve the turn (see Section 17). As the metaphor of an head, so much less the metaphor of a spouse will admit a ministerial spouse. As he is an adulterer that taketh upon him to be a ministerial husband, so is she an adulteress that yieldeth herself to such an one. The Apostle saith, I have espoused you to One husband (2 Cor 11:2).
92. Of the false sacrament of marriage.
The other error is, that marriage is a sacrament: the main ground whereof they have taken from this text, which ground by the Apostle's application of this mystery to Christ and the Church, is as plainly removed, as if the Apostle had purposely ordered his style, to prevent this erroneous collection: as if he had said, That none may mistake this mystery, and apply it to a matrimonial conjunction of man and woman together, know that I mean no such thing: the mystery which I speak of, is concerning Christ and the Church. I marvel how they dare misapply that which is so plainly expressed. Though the Apostle had not so clearly shewed his mind and meaning, yet the very thing itself would lead us so to judge of it. For, that which in Christ and the Church is a great mystery, in man and wife is but a small matter. The vulgar Latin translation first led them into this error, for it translateth the word mystery, a sacrament. But a translation is no sufficient ground to prove a doctrine. Besides the word sacrament used by that translator, hath as large an extent as mystery: if they should make every thing which he translateth sacrament, a proper sacrament of the Church, there would be many more sacraments than the Papists themselves do make.
1. As for this supposed sacrament, no Papist could ever shew when or where God ordained it to be a sacrament. Nay, they agree not among themselves about the time, how long it hath been a sacrament. Some of them hold, that ever since the first institution of marriage in Paradise, it hath been a sacrament. But the greater number of Papists hold it to be a sacrament of the New Testament under the Gospel, because their Tridentine Council hath so decreed it. Where we may note how the greater number of them, when two absurdities are questioned, are ready to fall into the worst. Under the Law the nonage of the Church needed, and had more sacraments than under the Gospel: yet that which was in use as much under the Law as under the Gospel, and had then as much to make it a sacrament as now, was then none, yet now is one.
2. As they cannot shew where it was ordained for a sacrament, so neither can they shew what is the sacramental sign thereof. Some make carnal copulation to be it. But there may be a true marriage, though the parties married never know each other.
Others make the parents' giving to be the sign. But they hold that that is a true marriage, which is done without parents' consent.
Others the priest's blessing. Yet they hold the marriage of infidels and heretics who have no priests, to be a true marriage.
Others, the consent of the parties themselves. Thus shall a party administer a sacrament to himself.
Others, other things. Thus they wanting the light of God's word, one strayeth in one by-path, another in another, and none of them hit upon the right.
3. A like difference there is about the form of this sacrament.
4. If other positions delivered by them concerning matrimony be noted, a man would think that they should be far from making it a sacrament. They prefer virginity before it. Yea, they account it a kind of pollution. They hold it unlawful for priests, monks, nuns, and such like holy orders [as they esteem them] to marry: so as there is a sacrament, whereof their holy ones may not partake. The order of priesthood is a sacrament [in their account] yet that order keepeth from marriage, so as one sacrament fighteth against another. Yea, infidels may be partakers of a sacrament, and so their holy and precious things shall be denied to their holy ones, and cast unto swine. Thus we see a rotten building erected upon a sandy foundation: a false sacrament established upon a false application of this text. Can it then stand?
93. Of the sum of husbands' and wives' duties.
Ephesians 5:33. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself: and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
The Apostle having made a large digression about the mutual relation betwixt Christ and the Church, whom he propounded as patterns to husbands and wives, he now returneth to the main point intended, namely to the duties of husbands and wives: and so much doth the first particle imply [Nevertheless] as if he had thus said, Though I have a little digressed into the mystery of the union of Christ and the Church, yet nevertheless do ye, O husbands and wives, call to mind that which I principally aimed at, even your duties.
This verse then containeth a conclusion of the Apostle's discourse, concerning the duties of husbands and wives.
Two points are especially noted therein.
1. A declaration of their several and distinct duties.
2. A direction to apply their own proper duties each of them to themselves.
Their distinct duties are noted in two words, love, fear.
These two, as they are distinct duties in themselves, so are they also common conditions which must be annexed to all other duties, Love as sugar to sweeten the duties of authority, which appertain to an husband. Fear as salt to season all the duties of subjection which appertain to a wife. The Apostle therefore hath set them down as two marks for husbands and wives to aim at in every thing wherein they have to deal one with the other.
Of these I will more distinctly speak in the treatises of the particular duties of husbands and wives.
94. Of applying the Word to ourselves.
The direction for a particular application of their own proper duties to either of them is here especially to be noted. In this direction two things are to be observed.
1. That every particular person apply to himself that which by a Minister is indefinitely delivered to all. Every one of you in particular, saith the Apostle: which is as much as if he had thus more largely expressed his mind, I have laid down such general duties as all husbands and wives without exception of any of what rank or degree soever they be are bound unto; which though by name I have not severally delivered to every one, one by one, but generally to you all, yet do every one of you apply those things to yourselves in particular.
2. That every one apply his own peculiar duty unto himself. Love being peculiar to an husband, to him he saith, Let him love his wife: and reverence being peculiar to a wife, to her he saith, let the wife see that she reverence her husband.
The direction in every of those several epistles which were sent to the seven Churches of Asia, [in these words, He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith to the Churches (Rev 2:7)] doth teach every member in any of those Churches to apply to himself that which was delivered to the whole Church: so doth a like exhortation which Christ with an exclamation made to the people whom he taught in parables (Luke 8:8): and this declaration of the extent of Christ's counsel, what I say to you, I say to all (Mark 13:37). To this purpose many precepts given to whole Churches, and to all sorts of people are set down in the singular number as given to one, as, Awake Thou that sleepest (Eph 5:14). Thou standest by faith: be not thou high minded &c. (Rom 11:20).
The life and power of God's word consisteth in this particular application thereof unto ourselves. This is to mix faith with hearing: faith, I say, whereby we do not only believe the truth of God's word in general, but also believe it to be a truth concerning ourselves in particular: and thus will every precept thereof be a good instruction and direction to us to guide us in the way of righteousness: every promise therein will be a great encouragement, and consolation to us to uphold us, and to make us hold on: and every judgment threatened therein will be a curb, and bridle to hold us in, and to keep us from those sins against which the judgments are threatened. But otherwise, if we bring not the word home to our own souls, it will be as a word spoken into the air (1 Cor 14:9), vanishing away without any profit to us. Nothing maketh the Word less profitable, than the putting of it off from ourselves to others, thinking that it concerns others more than ourselves.
That we may make the better use of this doctrine, let us observe both what are general duties belonging to all Christians, and apply them as particular to ourselves: and also what duties appertain to such persons as are of our place, calling, and condition, and more especially apply them to ourselves: let all manner of husbands, and all manner of wives of what rank or degree soever they be that shall read the duties hereafter following, know that they are spoken to them in particular. Let Kings and Queens, Lords and Ladies, Ministers and their wives, rich men and their wives, poor men and their wives, old men and their wives, young men and their wives, all of all sorts take them as spoken to them in particular. It is not honour, wealth, learning, or any other excellency, nor means of place, poverty, want of learning, or any other like thing that can exempt an husband from loving his wife, or a wife from reverencing her husband. He that saith every one, excepteth not any one. Therefore every one in particular do ye so. The like application may be made to all parents and children, masters and servants, concerning their duties.
95. Of every one's looking to his own duty especially.
In the forenamed application an eye must be had rather to the duty which we owe, and ought to be performed by us to others, than to that which is due to us, and others ought to perform us: for the Apostle saith not to the husband, see that thy wife reverence thee, but see that thou love her: so to the wife.
For this purpose the Holy Ghost presseth particular duties upon those particular persons who ought to perform them: as subjection on wives: love on husbands: and so in others. This therefore is especially to be considered of thee, how thou mayest shew thyself blameless. I deny not but that one ought to provoke another, and one to help another in what they can to perform their duty, especially superiours who have charge over others, but the most principal care of every one ought to be for himself, and greatest conscience to be made of performing his own duty.
1. It is more acceptable before God, and more commendable before men to do duty, than to exact duty. As in matters of free charity, so also of bounden duty, It is more blessed to give, than to receive (Acts 10:35). In particular it is better for an husband to be a good husband, than to have a good wife: so for a wife. To have others fail in duty to us may be an heavy cross, for us to fail in our duty to others is a fearful curse.
2. Every one is to give an account of his own particular duty (Rom 14:12). That which the Prophet speaketh of father and son, may be applied to husband and wife, and to all other sorts of people, If a father do that which is lawful and right, he is just, he shall surely live: if he beget a son that doth not so, he shall surely die, his blood shall be upon him. Again, if a father do that which is not good, he shall die in his iniquity: but if his son do that which is lawful and right he shall surely live. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself: and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself. That this shall be so betwixt husband and wife, may be gathered out of these words, Two shall be in one bed, the one shall be taken, the other left (Luke 17:34).
Let this be noted against the common vain apologies which are made for neglect of duty, which is this, Duty is not performed to me, why shall I do duty? when my husband doth his duty, I will do mine, saith the wife. And I mine, saith the husband, when my wife doth hers. What if he never do his duty, and so be damned, wilt thou never do thine? This looking for of duty at others hands, makes us the more careless of our own.
Do you therefore O husbands look especially to your own duties, do you love your wives: and you O wives look you to yours especially, do you reverence your husbands. For this end, let husbands read those duties most diligently which concern husbands, and wives those, which concern wives. Let not the husband say of the wife's duties, there are good lessons for my wife, and neglect his own: nor the wife say the like of husbands' duties, and not regard her own. This is it that maketh the subjection of many wives very harsh and irksome to them, because their husbands that urge and press them thereto shew little, or no love to them at all: and this is it that maketh many husbands very backwards in shewing love, because their wives which expect much love, shew little or no reverence to their husbands. Wherefore Let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself: and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
96. Of the meaning of the first verse of the sixth chapter.
From those particular duties which concern husbands and wives the Apostle proceedeth to lay down such as concern children and parents. As before he laid down wives' duties before husbands, so here he beginneth with children's [who are inferiour to their parents] and that for the same reasons which were rendered before (see Section 10).
Besides children are the fruits of matrimonial conjunction, therefore fitly placed next unto man and wife.
That which concerneth children is laid down in the sixth chapter of Ephesians, verses 1, 2, and 3. The meaning whereof we will distinctly open.
Ephesians 6:1. Children obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
The first word [children] is in the original as proper a word as could be used, for according to the notation of it, it signifieth such as are begotten and born. Answerable is the other word [parents] which signifieth such as beget and bring forth children. Yet are they not so strictly to be taken as if none but such as begat and brought forth, or such as are begotten and brought forth of them were meant: for under the title parents, he includeth all such as are in the place of natural parents, as grandfathers and grandmothers, fathers in law and mothers in law, foster-fathers and foster-mothers, guardians, tutors, and such like governours: and under the title children he compriseth grandchildren, sons and daughters in law, wards, pupils, and such like. For there is an honour and subjection due by all who are in place of children, to all such as are in place of parents, though in a different kind, as we shall after shew (see Treatise 5, Sections 56 and 57). This word children which in the original is of the neuter gender, doth further include both sexes, males and females, sons and daughters: so as either of them are as carefully to apply the duties here set forth to themselves as if in particular both kinds had been expressed.
He expresseth parents in the plural number, to shew that he meaneth here also both sexes father and mother, as the Law expresseth both: and addeth this relative particle your, as by way of restraint, to shew that every child is not bound to every parent, so by way of extent to shew that whatsoever the estate of parents be, honourable or mean, rich or poor, learned or unearned, &c. their own children must not be ashamed of them, but yield all bounden duty to them: if they be parents to children, they must be honoured by children.
The word [obey] under which all duties of children are comprised, according to the Greek notation, signifieth with an humble submission to hearken, that is, to attend and give heed to the commandments, reproofs, directions, and exhortations which are given to them, and that with such a reverend respect of the parties who deliver them, as they make themselves conformable thereto.
A duty proper to inferiours, and implieth both reverence and obedience: the verb noteth out obedience; the preposition, reverence.
Under this word [obey] the Apostle comprehendeth all those duties which throughout the Scripture are required of children: as is manifest by his own exemplification thereof in the second verse by the word honour which the Law useth: so as this word [obey] is to be taken in as large an extent as that word [honour].
Quest. Why is obedience put for all the rest?
Answ. 1. Because it is the hardest of all the rest, and that which children are loathest to perform: they who willingly yield to this, will stick at no duty.
2. Because it is the surest evidence of that honour which a child oweth to his parent: and so of performing the fifth commandment.
3. Because children are bound to their parents: the duties which they perform are not of courtesy, but necessity. Their parents have power to command, and exact them.
The clause added [in the Lord] is in effect the same which was used before [as unto the Lord] and it noteth forth a limitation, direction, and instigation: a limitation shewing that children's obedience to their parents is to be restrained to the obedience which they owe to Christ, and may not go beyond the limits thereof: a direction shewing that in obeying their parents, they must have an eye to Christ, and so obey them as Christ may approve thereof: an instigation shewing that parents bear the image of Christ, and in that respect children must the rather obey their parents.
The last clause of this verse [for this is right] is an express reason to enforce the forenamed point of obedience: and it is drawn from equity: and sheweth that it is a point agreeable to all law: yea that in way of recompence it is due: and if children be not obedient to parents they do that which is most unjust, they defraud their parents of their right.
The former phrase [in the Lord] implying one reason, this plainly noteth out another, as the first particle [for] declareth.
97. Of the meaning of the second verse.
Ephesians 6:2. Honour thy father and mother [which is the first commandment with promise].
The very words of the fifth commandment are here alleged by the Apostle as a confirmation of the forenamed reason, that, it is just and right to obey parents because God in the moral Law enjoineth as much. The Law is more general than the Apostle's precept: for the Law compriseth under it all those duties which all kind of inferiours owe to their superiours, whether they be in family, church, or Commonwealth: but the Apostle's precept is given only to one kind of inferiours in the family: yet the argument is very sound and good from a general to a particular, thus, All inferiours must honour their superiours, therefore children their parents.
By adding the express words of the Law the Apostle sheweth that the subjection which he required of children is no yoke which he of his own head put on their necks: but that which the moral Law hath put on them: so as this may be noted as a third reason, namely God's express charge in his moral Law.
If I should handle this Law according to the full extent thereof, I should wander too far from the Apostle's scope. I will therefore open it no further than it may concern the point in hand, viz, the duty of children.
Honour compriseth here all those duties which children in any respect owe to their parents. It implieth both an inward reverend estimation, and also an outward dutiful submission. Yea it implieth also recompence and maintenance.
Honour in relation to parents, is used for two reasons especially.
1. To shew that parents bear God's image, for honour is properly due to God alone: to the creature it is due, only as it standeth in God's room, and carrieth his image.
2. To shew, that it is an honour to parents to have dutiful children: even as it is a dishonour to them to have disobedient children.
Both father and mother are expressly mentioned, to take away all pretence from children of neglecting either of them: for through the corruption of nature we are prone to seek after many shifts to exempt us from our bounden duty; and if not in whole, yet in as great a part as we can. Some might think if they honour their father, who is their mother's head, they have done what the Law requireth: others may think they have done as much, if they honour their mother who is the weaker vessel: but the Law expressing father and mother, condemneth him that neglecteth either of them. Yet to shew that if opposition should arise betwixt them, and by reason thereof both could not be obeyed together, the father commanding what the mother forbiddeth, the father is to be preferred, [especially if it be not against the Lord] the father is set in the first place.
These words following [which is the first commandment with promise] are fitly included in a parentheses, because they are not the words of the Law, but inferred by the Apostle as a reason to enforce the Law, and so make a fourth reason.
Quest. In what respect is this commandment called the first with promise?
Answ. 1. The word here used by the Apostle properly signifieth an affirmative precept, as our English word [commandment] doth. Now then of the affirmative precepts it is the first with promise.
2. The Scripture oft appropriateth the Law to the second table, as where he saith he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law (Rom 13:8), and so in other places. Now this is the first commandment of the second table.
3. It is generally true of all the commandments: for among the ten it is the first with promise.
Object. The second commandment hath a promise annexed to it.
Answ. 1. That which is annexed to the second commandment, is not expressly a promise, but rather a declaration of God's justice, in taking vengeance of transgressors, and of his mercy in rewarding observers of the Law: yet I deny not but that a promise by consequence is implied: but here it is expressed.
2. The promise there implied is only a general promise made to observers of the whole Law, and therefore he useth the plural number, commandments: but here is a particular promise made to them that keep this commandment in particular.
2. Quest. Why is it then said the first, when no other commandments with promise follow?
Answ. This particle [first] hath not always reference to some other following, but is oft simply taken, to shew that none was before it: so is the word first-born used in the Law (Exo 13:2) and so Christ is called the first-born Son of Mary (Matt 1:25).
The word promise sheweth, that this fourth reason includeth some benefit redounding to those children themselves that honour their parents: the benefit is expressly mentioned in the next verse, which we will afterwards distinctly consider.
98. Of aiming at our own, in seeking the good of others.
Here in general we may note, that
It is not unlawful to aim at our own good and benefit in doing the duties which God requireth at our hands to others: for that which God himself propoundeth and setteth before us, we may seek and aim at. Many like promises there be in Scripture, and many approved prayers grounded on those promises whereby the truth of the doctrine is confirmed unto us. Hezekiah maketh the good service he had done to God and his Church, a ground to obtain longer life (Isa 38:2,3): so others.
For God layeth no duty on any man, but therein he aimeth at the good of him who performeth the duty as well as of him to whom the duty is performed. Whereby he would shew that his commandments are no straight yokes and heavy burdens, but means of procuring their good who fulfill them.
How highly doth this commend the good respect that God beareth to all the sons of men: seeking their good in every place wherein he setteth them, either of authority, or subjection?
How ought this to stir us up willingly and cheerfully to observe the laws which God commandeth us, and perform the services he requireth of us, seeing thereby we procure our own good?
How fully may this satisfy, and even stop the mouths of all such as are discontent with their places, and mutter against that subjection which God enjoineth to them?
What a good direction and resolution may this be to many, who being moved in conscience to seek the good of others, doubt whether therein they may aim at their own good or no? To make this case clear by an instance, which may serve instead of many. A Minister faithful in his place, and very painful, and in that respect of a good conscience, but withal of a tender and weak conscience, doubteth whether thereby he may seek maintenance to himself, fearing that so he seeketh himself, and not simply the edification of God's Church. But by the forenamed doctrine we see that both may be aimed at: for God commandeth the one, and promiseth the other. As we have one eye on God's commandment for direction, so we may have another on his promise for encouragement.
Yet because through the corruption of our nature, we are too prone to seek ourselves, some cautions are in this point carefully to be observed.
1. That we seek not our own good by any transgression, for it is promised unto obedience.
2. That we do not so wholly seek ourselves and our own good, as we neglect others: for God having joined both together, no man may put them asunder.
3. That we aim at our own good, as a reward following upon the duty which God commandeth, and so be as willing to do the duty, as desirous of the reward.
4. That our own benefit be not the only, no nor the chiefest thing we aim at in doing our duty, but rather come as a motive to add an edge, and to sharpen other motives of greater moment. And thus much the order which the Apostle observeth in setting down his reasons, noteth unto us: for the three former have respect to God, and to that good conscience which children ought to carry towards him: the first pointeth at God's image which parents carry [in the Lord] the second setteth forth that right which God hath prescribed to children: the third declareth God's charge: this fourth only, which is the last, hath respect to the profit and benefit of children themselves.
99. Of preferring honesty before commodity.
From the forenamed order we may further gather, that
Equity and good conscience ought more to move us to do our duty than our own profit, and the benefit that thereby redoundeth to us. If there should come such an opposition betwixt these that they could not both stand together, but that for doing that which is right, and which God hath commanded, our prosperity must be hindered and life shortened, we should so stand to that which is right and commanded of God, as prosperity, life and all be let go. To this purpose tend all the exhortations in Scripture, to forsake goods, lands, life, and everything else for righteousness sake. So clear is this point, that the heathen discerned it by the glimpse of that light of nature which they had: for they could say, that that which is honest and right, is to be preferred before that which is commodious and profitable.
There is no comparison betwixt honesty and commodity, right and profit. The one is absolutely necessary for attaining to eternal salvation, the other giveth but a little quiet and contentment in this world: nay, if profit be without right, it can give no true contentment or quiet at all.
Unworthy therefore they are of the name of Christians, who so wholly and only aim at their outward profit and prosperity, as they regard not what is right, and what God hath commanded. If by obeying God, and doing that which is right they may reap some benefit to themselves they can be content to yield thereunto: but if not, farewell all right, farewell all God's commandments. Though they think every thing that is profitable, be it right or wrong, to be good, yet God's word accounteth nothing good but that which is honest: such therefore can look for no blessing from the Lord.
100. Of the meaning of the third verse.
Ephesians 6:3. That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
The promise mentioned before in general, is here particularly set down. The first words [that it may be well with thee] are not in the Hebrew text there where the Law is first recorded (Exo 20:12), and thereupon not set in that usual form of the Ten Commandments, which is in use among us: but yet in another place where the Law is repeated, they are set down (Deut 5:16): and the Greek translation, commonly called the Septuagint [which (as is probable) the Church in the Apostle's time used] hath expressly noted it in both places. Now this part of the promise [that it may be well with thee] is prefixed as an amplification of the other part concerning long life, which is the most principal thing intended, as appeareth in that it only is mentioned where the Law is first recorded. It sheweth that the long life which God promiseth, shall not be a life of woe and misery, [for then were it no blessing, but the longer life lasted, the worse it would be] but a life full of comfort and happiness: therefore Moses setteth this former clause in the latter place after long life thus [that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee] to shew that the well being here spoken of, is an amplification of the benefit of long life.
Whereas the Apostle setteth down the place where the benefit of this promise is to be enjoyed in a most large phrase, thus [on earth] the Law bringeth it to a more narrow compass thus [in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee] meaning the land of Canaan which was given of God as a peculiar inheritance to the Jews: so that the promise [as the Law setteth it down in peculiar to the Jews] implieth long life, and prosperity in their own inheritance: for long life to the Jews was counted no life out of their own country. But the Apostle writing to all nations, leaveth out that description of Canaan, and retaineth only the general substance in this word [on earth] which he setteth down to shew that even outward prosperity, and a long life in this world is here promised.
101. Of prosperity: how far forth it may be a blessing.
For further clearing of this text, and for better application thereof, I will resolve sundry questions arising out of it, and gather such profitable instructions as it affordeth.
The promise consisteth of two branches.
The first branch [that it may be well with thee] is very ample and large: all good things, all manner of blessings whatsoever, spiritual and temporal, belonging to soul and body, concerning this life, and the life to come, make to a man's well-being. Whence may first be demanded,
1. Quest. What may be the extent of this phrase in this place?
Answ. It may generally be extended to all manner of good things. For Godliness hath promise of the life that now is, and of that that is to come (1 Tim 4:8). But [as I take it] temporal prosperity is here principally intended: and that for these reasons.
1. It is joined with long life, which is a temporal blessing.
2. That last word [our earth] may be referred to this branch of well-being, as well as to the other of long life.
3. In the Law [ from whence this clause is taken] it is expressly set down thus, that it may go well with thee in the land, &c. (Deut 5:26).
2. Quest. Is then outward temporal prosperity [as honour, health, peace, liberty, goods, &c.] a token of God's love and favour?
Answ. Yea: in itself it is a blessing, and fruit of God's love: as appeareth by these reasons.
1. As at first it was made and ordained of God, it is a good thing.
2. It tendeth to man's good, if it be rightly used.
3. It was bestowed on man before he had offended.
4. It is promised of God as a reward to them that fear him and keep his commandments (Lev 26:4; Deut 28:1).
5. The Saints have prayed for it, and have been thankful for it (Gen 28:20; 32:10,11).
6. The contrary was first inflicted as a punishment of sin, and is oft threatened as a token of God's wrath, and so hath also been inflicted on transgressors (Lev 26:15; Deut 28:16).
102. Of prosperity bestowed on the wicked, how it proves a curse.
3. Quest. Why then is it bestowed upon the wicked, even such as are haters of God, and are hated of him? And why are God's friends such as are loved of him, and love him again, deprived thereof? This sore scruple made David stumble, and moved other prophets to complain (Psa 73:13; Jer 12:1; Hab 1:3). But the answer is ready.
Answ. Outward prosperity is of that nature, as it may turn to the good or hurt of him that enjoineth it. And herein is God's admirable and unsearchable wisdom seen, in that he is able to turn blessings into curses, and curses into blessings. He can work by contraries.
4. Quest. How is prosperity a curse to the wicked?
Answ. By mere consequence, through their abuse of it. God gives it to them to shew the riches of his mercy: and that all may taste thereof, he doth good to the evil and the good (Matt 5:45). Besides, he thus trieth if by any means they may be brought to repentance (Rom 2:4): which gift because they have not, their prosperity proveth to be a means to make them the more inexcusable, and the more to increase their just condemnation. For the more God's blessings abound towards them, the more they abuse them, adding to all their other sins, that most odious sin of ingratitude, which maketh up the heap of all. And in these respects I may say of the prosperity of the wicked, as the prophet of their King, God gives it in his anger, and takes it away in his wrath. For by their abuse thereof, it proveth Satan's bait to allure them, his snare to catch them, and his hook to drown them in perdition and destruction (1 Tim 6:9). In a word therefore, the wicked are fed in a fair pasture like oxen appointed to the slaughter: they are exalted on high, as on a ladder or scaffold, like thieves and traitors, to be brought down with shame and destruction, as Pharaoh's baker was lift up (Gen 40:19).
103. How both having, and wanting prosperity is a blessing to the Saints.
5. Quest. How is the enjoining, or wanting of prosperity a blessing to the righteous?
Answ. God in wisdom knowing what is best for them accordingly deals with them, he bestoweth prosperity on them so far as he seeth it will turn unto their good: and denieth it to them so far as he seeth it will turn to their hurt. Whensoever therefore God bestoweth any temporal blessing of his Saints, it is a token of his favour: and whensoever he deny any, the very denial is also a fruit of his favour. Herein is it verified that All things work together for good to them that love God (Rom 8:28), so as, if they abound, it shall go well with them: if they want, it shall go well with them: if they be in high place, it shall go well with them: if in mean place, it shall go well with them: if they be at liberty, if in prison: if they be in health, if sick: in what estate soever, it shall go well with them.
6. Quest. How is it then that Saints are oft brought to such extremities that they are forced to complain that it is very ill with them?
Answ. There is flesh and blood in them, by reason of the weakness whereof they are forced to complain: but the present apprehension of weak flesh, is not sufficient to impeach the truth of God's promise: they consider not in their present extremity what is God's mind, what his manner of dealing with them, how needful it is that so they should be dealt withal, what end and issue the Lord will give: in truth it is better with them than they wot of. Some weighty reasons there be which move God to bring them to that extremity wherein they are, and those respecting his own glory (John 9:3; 2 Cor 12:9), or the edification of others (Eph 3:1), or their own good, as curing some dangerous disease (Psa 119:67), manifesting the grace of God bestowed upon them (John 1:12), drawing them nearer to God, making them long the more for heaven (2 Cor 5:2), with the like.
104. Of long life; how far forth it is a blessing.
Concerning the second branch of God's promise [long life] other questions are to be resolved.
1. Quest. Is long life a blessing?
Answ. Yea, else would not God here and in other places have promised it as a reward, nor have bestowed it on his Saints.
The reasons to prove it to be a blessing may be drawn to three head. 1. God's glory, 2. the good of the Church where they live, 3. their own good.
1. God's glory is much advanced by the long life of the Saints: for the longer they live the more they do themselves observe God's wonderful works, and the more they do make them known and declare them to others. But in the grave all is forgotten (Psa 6:5; Isa 38:18).
2. God's Church is greatly edified thereby: in which respect the Apostle saith, to abide in the flesh is more needful for you (Phil 1:24). In the Saints that is true which Elihu saith should be, namely that days speak, and multitude of years teach wisdom (Job 32:7). The longer the Saints live, the more good they do: but after death they do none: when the night cometh no man can work (John 9:4): upon which ground the Apostle exhorteth to do good while we have time (Gal 6:10).
3. The Saints by long living purchase to themselves great honour, and dignity among God's people, and a strong stedfast confidence in God. Men regard a good old servant: much more will God. Two strong props have old Saints to establish them, and make them bold: one is a remembrance of God's former favours, whereby their hope of eternal life is made more sure unto them: another is a kind of present expectation of the accomplishment of God's promises which they have long waited for.
By this it appears that this particular promise is no light matter, of small moment: but a strong motive to stir up children to obedience.
105. Of long life providing a curse to the wicked.
2. Quest. Why then is long life given to many wicked ones? and why are many Saints cut off?
Answ. Long life is of the same kind that prosperity is: it may be turned to a curse, as well as prove a blessing.
The wicked by living long on earth make their sins grow to the full [as is implied of the Amorite (Gen 15:16)] they make their name to stink the more on earth, as a carrion the longer it remaineth above ground the more it stinketh: and they cause the greater torment in hell to be inflicted upon them: for as sin is increased, so shall that torment be increased (Rom 2:5).
The righteous have their days shortened for their good, when they are shortened, and that in these, and such like respects
1. That they may be taken from the evil to come (1 Kings 14:13; Isa 17:1).
2. That they might be made an example to others (1 Kings 13:14).
3. That by a temporal death eternal condemnation might be avoided (1 Cor 11:32).
4. That their chiefest and greatest reward might be hastened (Gen 5:24; Heb 11:5).
106. Of limiting the promises of temporal blessings.
Thus we see there may be just cause to alter, as the former branch of this promise, prosperity, so the latter branch of it, long life, and yet no wrong thereby redound to the righteous, nor benefit to the wicked.
3. Quest. Is not the truth of the promise impeached thereby?
Answ. No whit at all. For first all promises of temporal blessings are limited with such a condition as this, if the performance of it may stand with God's honour, and the good of the party to whom it is made. 2. God doth never simply deprive his Saints of that which is promised, but only instead of it giveth a better: as in taking away wealth, he giveth the more store of grace: in restraining liberty of body, he giveth freedom of conscience: with affliction he giveth patience: by taking away this temporal life, he giveth eternal life. God herein dealeth, as if one who having promised so much iron, should instead thereof give as much silver: or for silver give gold: and so for one pound give the worth of hundreds or thousands.
107. Of appropriating prosperity and long life to the obedience which children yield to their parents.
4. Quest. Why is long life and prosperity appropriated to this kind of righteousness?
Answ. It is not so appropriated to this, as if it appertained to no other: for it is elsewhere in general promised to the observers of the whole Law, and to other particular branches thereof beside this (Deut 6:2): yet in these and such like particular respects is it applied to the obedience of children (Psa 34:12-14).
1. Because obedience to parents is one of the surest evidences of our conformity to the whole Law: in that thereby we shew our respect of God's image, and lay a good foundation for the performing of all duty to man.
2. Because a child's performing of his duty to his parents is under God an especial means that they do well, and live long [for as rebellious children make their parents with grief to come the sooner to their graves, so dutiful children make them to continue the longer in prosperity] the Lord in recompence promiseth to such a child prosperity and long life.
3. Because parents are an especial means to procure the welfare and long life of their children, partly by their provident care, as Naomi said to Ruth, shall I not seek rest for thee that it may be well with thee (Ruth 3:1)? and partly by their instant prayer: for the faithful prayer of parents is of great force with God for dutiful children: whence hath risen the custom of children's asking their parents' blessing, and of parents' blessing their children. In this respect the Law thus setteth forth the blessing of the fifth commandment, they shall prolong thy days.
4. Because disobedience to parents bringeth much mischief on children's heads, and oft shorteneth their days, and that many ways.
1. In that parents are oft provoked by their children's disobedience to disinherit them, at least to allow them the less portion, so as hereby it goeth not so well with them: yea some are provoked to bring their rebellious children to the Magistrate, who by God's Law was to cut them off, so as thereby their life is shortened (Deut 21:21).
2. In that parents are provoked to complain unto God of their children's disobedience, and God thereby moved both to lay heavy judgments upon such children in their life time, and also to shorten their days: for parents' complaint doth make a loud cry in God's ears. It is said that God by cutting off Abimelech with an untimely death rendered the wickedness which he did to his father (Judg 9:56).
3. In that, when parents are too indulgent over their children, God doth punish the sin both of parent and child, by shortening the child's days. Instance the examples of Hophni and Phinehas (1 Sam 2:34), Absalom (2 Sam 18:14), and Adonijah (1 Kings 2:25).
4. In that disobedience to parents, is a sin that seldom goeth alone: for an undutiful child is commonly a very lewd person many other ways. Considering the proneness of our nature to all sin, it cannot be avoided but that they who in the beginning shake off the yoke of government, should run headlong into all riot, looseness, and licentiousness: thus then sin being added unto sin, it must needs bring mischief upon mischief, till at length life be cut off.
Wherefore in that these mischiefs are avoided by performing due obedience to parents, it may well be said that it shall be well with obedient children, and they shall live long.
108. Of God's ordering his favours so as they may appear to be true blessings.
The particular branches of God's promise having been distinctly opened, we will consider them jointly together, for they do exceedingly amplify one another: prosperity sweetens long life and makes it acceptable: otherwise to live long, namely in misery and wretchedness, is very irksome and grievous. Again, long life added to prosperity maketh it so much the greater blessing. For a good thing the longer it continueth the better it is. If prosperity were but as a flower, soon gone, the very thought of the vanity thereof would much diminish the joy and comfort of it. But both of them joined together, do shew that this is no small blessing which is promised.
From the connexion of them both together, I observe that
God so ordereth his favours as they appear to be true blessings, tending indeed to the good of those upon whom he bestoweth them. Thus when God gave Abraham a son, he established his covenant with him (Gen 17:19), that this gift might be a true blessing.
The like I might instance in all the children of promise, as Samson, Solomon, John Baptist, &c. So in other favours. When God added fifteen years to Hezekiah's life, he also promised him deliverance form his enemies, and peace, and truth all his days (Isa 38:5,6; 39:8). And when God gave David a kingdom, he gave him great victories and long life, and established his kingdom to his posterity (2 Sam 7:9): so also dealt he with Solomon. But not to insist on any more particulars, excellently is this doctrine confirmed in the 28th Psalm.
Thus God will shew that in love he bestoweth even the temporal blessings which he giveth to his Saints, that accordingly they may esteem them, and that their hearts may be the more enlarged both to admire his goodness, and to be thankful for the same.
This use we must make of those things which the Lord is pleased to bestow upon us, as of long life, good health, honour, peace, plenty, liberty, and all prosperity: we must receive and use them as God bestoweth them, namely as tokens of his favour: and thereby be the more stirred up to perform the duties he requireth of us, and not abuse them to his dishonour and our own hurt: but rather so as he may have honour, and we profit thereby.
109. Of God's high account of dutiful children.
More particularly by this promise we may learn what high esteem, and great account God maketh of dutiful children, and of that obedience which they perform to their parents: which ought so much the more to provoke children to all obedience, if at least they have any care of God's favour, and of the tokens of his love. O consider this all ye that have parents to honour: consider how careful, how earnest God is every way by all means to draw you to obedience: he contents not himself to urge the equity of the point, the place of your parent, the charge that himself hath given, but most presseth your own profit: and that not only in hope for the time to come, but even in present fruition for this life: and that because we through our childishness are most affected with things sensible and present: dealing with us as a tender father who provideth not only a good calling, and a fair inheritance for his child, but giveth him also plums, pears, and such things as for the present he is delighted withal, the more to allure them.
110. Of children's doing good to themselves by honouring their parents.
Children may further learn out of this promise, that in performing their duty they do good not only to their parents, but also to themselves: they procure their own welfare and long life. What egregious fools then are disobedient children: they regard neither God, their parents, nor themselves, but deprive themselves of their eternal happiness, hinder their welfare, and shorten their days. Fitly hereupon I may apply to undutiful children these words of the psalmist, Mark the obedient child, for the end of him is peace: but the rebellious shall be destroyed: he shall be cut off (Psa 37:37,38): and these of the wise man, I know that it shall be well with the dutiful child, but it shall not be well with the disobedient, he shall not prolong his days (Eccl 8:12,13), and these of the prophet, Say ye to the obedient child, it shall be well with him he shall eat the fruit of his doings, but woe to the transgressor, it shall be ill with him (Isa 3:10,11).
111. Of parents doing good to their children by keeping them under obedience.
Out of this promise parents may learn how to do good for their children, how to provide for their welfare, and long to preserve their life on earth [a thing whereunto most parents are naturally given, and whereof they are much desirous] namely by teaching children their duty, by keeping them under obedience: thus have they God's promise to assure them, that it shall go well with their children, and that they shall live long. When parents are upon their death-beds they may rest more securely upon this promise than upon great store of treasure laid up for them, and great revenues reserved for them. Many parents neglect themselves: they moil and toil, they cark and care, they pinch and spare, to leave their children store of wealth, thinking thereby to do good to their children, when as withal they too much cocker their children, give the reins unto them, and care not how little duty they perform. God's curse will lie upon all the store that is laid up for such children, as a fire to consume it all. Doth not daily experience verify the truth hereof? The judgments which are laid on some such children, do evidently manifest God's just indignation against all. Let not rich men therefore think they have left their children well enough if they leave them a large portion, but rather if they have observed them to be obedient children: and if poor men's children be such, let them not fear but that it shall go well with them.
It is said, that a good trade is better than house and land, but by virtue of this promise we may say that obedience in a child is better than trade and all: this is the trade of a child's way which parents should teach children (Prov 22:6). Wherefore as parents are desirous of their children's good, so they ought to be wise in procuring it, which is by teaching them this trade of obedience: and so they shall bring much comfort to themselves while they live, and good to their children after them.
112. Of the perpetuity of the substance of such things as in their circumstances respecting the Jews are vanished.
In laying down this particular promise, the Apostle instead of the limitation thereof unto the Jews in these words [in the land which the Lord thy God shall give thee] putteth a general word, which extendeth it to all nations, namely this [in the earth] whence I gather that
The substance of those things which in some circumstances were after a peculiar manner restrained to the Jews, remaineth in force to all Christians. The substance of this promise was, that it should go well with obedient children, while here on earth they lived, and in this welfare they should long live. The circumstance was, that in Canaan they should enjoy that blessing. Though Christians live not in Canaan, which is the circumstance, yet well it shall go with them, and long they shall live, which is the substance. Thus though the circumstance of God's covenant with Abraham [which was circumcision] be abolished, yet the substance [which is, to be our God, and the God of our seed] remaineth. This might further be exemplified in many hundred instances: for the substance of all the Jewish sacrifices, and sacraments, both ordinary, and extraordinary, of their Sabbaths, of their fasts, of their feasts, and the like, remain, though the circumstances, as shadows, be vanished away. Hence is it, that many promises made to them, are applied by the Apostles to Christians, as this, I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee (Heb 13:5): and in general it is said, The promise is to you and to your children, and to all that are afar off (Acts 2:39).
Hereby we may learn what use to make of the Old Testament, even of those promises and privileges which in some particular respects were appropriated to the Jews: namely, by observing the substance, and distinguishing it from the circumstance; thus shall we find that to be true which the Apostle speaketh of all the things which were written afore time, namely, that they were written for our learning (Rom 15:4). In this respect the same Apostle saith of the things recorded of Abraham, they were not written for his sake alone (Rom 4:23): and again of the things recorded of the Israelites, they are written for our admonition (1 Cor 10:11). By this we may learn how to apply the preface to the Ten Commandments, which mentioneth the deliverance of Israel out of the bondage of Egypt.
Pray therefore for the spirit of illumination to discern betwixt substance and circumstance, in reading the Old Testament especially.
113. Of the determined period of man's life.
Having declared such orthodoxal points as this text affordeth, I will further note out two heretical positions, which our adversaries thence raise. One is of those, that to the dishonour of him whom God raised up to be a worthy instrument in dispelling the mist of popery, which had much darkened the light of the Gospel, call themselves Lutherans: the other of Papists.
The former is this, God hath not determined the set period of man's days, but it is in man's power to lengthen or shorten them: for if it were otherwise, say they, this and such like promises of long life were to no purpose, nor yet the contrary threatenings of shortening man's days.
For full answer hereunto, I will first shew, that the position itself is directly contrary to the current of Scripture, and then discover the unsoundness of their consequence.
Touching the determined period of man's days, thus speaketh the Scripture: Is there not an appointed time to man on earth? are not his days also as the days of an hireling (Job 7:1)? Note with what emphasis the point is set forth; even so, as if it were a point so clear, as none could doubt of it. Note also two metaphors here used, which do much clear the point: one taken from soldiers, the other from hired servants. That of soldiers is implied in the meaning of the original word translated appointed times, but properly signifieth him that hath his time appointed for warfare, or the time itself so appointed: the other expressed. Now we know that these times are appointed to an hour: so is the time of man's life. In this respect Job saith again, all the days of my appointed time will I wait, &c. (Job 14:14) where he useth the same word that before in the same sense. To this purpose are these, and such like phrases frequently used in Scripture, determined days, number of days, hour, &c. (Job 14:5; Eccl 2:3; John 7:30). Did not the prophet expressly declare to Hezekiah that he should live just 15 years after his sickness (Isa 38:5)? He could not have told it, if the Lord had not before set that period. Christ saith, our hairs are numbered (Matt 10:30), are not much more our days? Again he saith, who can add one cubit to his stature (Matt 6:27)? Can then any add to his days? So evident is this point, that the heathen noted it.
Touching their consequence [if a man's time be determined all the promises of long life are to no purpose] I answer, that God who hath set down the just time and period of man's life, hath also set down the means of attaining to that period. Now the time he hath kept secret to himself, the means he hath revealed to us. In regard of us therefore who know not the time appointed of the Lord, it may be said that by using such and such means we prolong our days, or by doing such and such things we shorten them. Now because these means only shew them to be long, or short, God's decree remaineth firm and stable, and is not altered thereby: yet this work of lengthening or shortening is attributed to us, because we do what lieth in us thereto, and that freely without any compulsion. For God's decree though it cause a necessity in the event, yet it imposeth no constraint on the will of man, but leaveth it as free [in regard of the manner of working] as if there were no decree at all. And herein God's admirable wisdom is manifested, that notwithstanding his determined purpose of matters, man hath no ground of excuse to say he was forced to this or that.
The knowledge of this determined period of man's life is of great use: for it teacheth us,
1. Wholly to submit ourselves to God: and to be prepared either soon to depart out of this world, or long to live in it, as God shall dispose of our time: nor desiring longer to live than God hath appointed: nor grieving to live so long as he hath appointed.
2. Not to fear the threats of any man, thereby to be drawn from God (Deut 3:17,18).
3. To do God's work while we have time, &c. (John 9:4).
114. Of reward promised to obedience, that it implieth no merit.
The other heresy which Papists gather from this text, is this, Man's obedience is meritorious.
Answ. The reward here promised is no matter of wages and due dessert, but of mere grace and favour.
Of this error I have elsewhere more largely spoken (see Treatise 2, Part 4, Section 7).
115. Of the connexion of parents' duty with children's.
Ephesians 6:4. And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
The Apostle having urged children to perform their duties to their parents, he turneth his speech to parents, saying, And ye fathers, &c. That copulative particle And, joining an exhortation to parents, for performing their duties to the forenamed exhortation made to children, giveth us to understand, that
Parents are as well bound to duty as children. Their duties indeed be different, yet [notwithstanding their superiority and authority over their children] they are bound to duty. All the directions and exhortations throughout the Scripture given unto parents, concerning their duty, and all the threatenings denounced, and judgments executed on parents for neglect of their duty, are pregnant proofs of this point.
Though parents be over their children, and by them cannot be commanded, yet they are under God: and he it is who hath enjoined them their duty: so as they are bound thereunto, as they will answer it to their Father in heaven.
The authority which parents have, is not so much for their own advancement, as for the better governing of their children, which being so, their very government is a duty.
Object. In the moral Law the duty of children only is expressed.
Answ. Parents' duty [as many others' duties] is by just and necessary consequence implied, which is equivalent, and as much bindeth, as if it were expressed. It is thus implied. They who have honour, must carry themselves worthy of honour. Now the way to carry themselves worthy of honour, is to be careful in doing duty to them that honour them. This is so equal, as it needed not to be expressed.
Wherefore let Ministers follow this pattern of the Apostle, and carry an even hand towards all of all sorts: let them not be partial in laying all the burden of duty on children's necks, and none on parents: holding in children very straightly but leaving parents to their own will. Parents are flesh and blood as well as children, and as prone to transgress in their place, as children in theirs. Yea, Ministers ought of the two to be more earnest in urging parents to perform their duty, because they are under no such power and authority as children are. Fear of parents' authority keepeth children much in awe. There is no such thing to keep parents in awe. They will be more ready therefore to take the greater liberty, if by fear of God, and by a good conscience, they be not kept in compass.
Now ye [O parents] as you look for honour, carry yourselves worthy of honour: as ye look for duty from your children, perform duty to them. Know that another day, even you shall be called to an account before the highest Judge: your authority will then be no pretence to excuse, but an evidence to aggravate your fault. For you being elder in years, and more eminent in place, of more experience, and having a charge over your children, ought to be a light to shew them the way, and example to allure them, that they seeing you careful and conscionable in performing your duty, may be the more provoked to perform theirs, or at least made ashamed of their neglect of duty. But if you be careless of your duty, how can ye expect duty at their hands? nay if by your ill example they have been made negligent, their blood shall be required at your hands.
116. Of the extent of these words, fathers, children.
Though the word [fathers] be here used, which properly setteth forth natural parents, and of natural parents the male kind, yet [as in many other places] it is to be taken in a larger extent: even in as large as this word [children] was before, that so there may be a just and equal relation betwixt children and parents: wherefore both sexes of natural parents are comprised under it, even mother as well as father: and they also who are in place of parents, whether by marriage as all sorts of fathers and mothers in law, or by appointment, as all they who of right have the custody and charge of children, as guardians, tutors, and other like governours: and so it is every way answerable to the word [parents] used in the first verse: and the word [children] is also here to be taken in the same extent, as it was there.
117. Of parents provoking children.
The next phrase [provoke to wrath] is the exposition of one Greek word, which being a compound word, cannot by one English word be fully expressed: the best and nearest that I can think of is [exasperate]. The word signifieth an extremity in the use of authority: even too much austerity and severity, whereby children are provoked to wrath: which because it is a fault, it is here expressly forbidden [provoking not, &c.]. In this word there is a trope: the effect is put for the cause. The Apostle's meaning is, that parents should take such heed of their carriage toward their children, as they give them no occasion to be stirred up to wrath. Under this word then are forbidden all such things, as may kindle wrath in children, as too much austerity in carriage, sourness in countenance, threatening and reviling in words, too hard handling, too severe correction, too much restraint of liberty, too small allowance of things needful, with the like. Parents being flesh and blood are subject in this kind to abuse their authority: yea, even they who fall into the other extreme of too much indulgency and cockering of their children, are very prone to fall also into this extreme: as many who for the most part too much suffer their children without due restraining and correction to run into all riot, will sometimes on a sudden, like lions, fly upon them, and after their own pleasure correct them (Heb 12:10), and so exceedingly provoke their children. Such as are most cockering, are most prone to provoke to wrath: for, 1. Such least know how to keep a mean: one will sooner leap out of one extreme into another, than go from an extreme to the mean. 2. The children of such are soonest provoked.
Quest. Is it a thing lawful and justifiable in children to be provoked to wrath by their parents?
Answ. No (see Treatise 5, Sections 31 and 41). This prohibition intendeth no such thing: the Apostle hath here to do with parents: and instructeth them how to prevent such mischiefs as their children through their weakness may fall into. So as here only he sheweth what is unlawful for parents, not what is lawful for children. Hence then by the way I observe that
Parents must be so watchful over their carriage, as thereby they make not their children to sin.
If they do, they make their own sin the more heinous, and also they pull down upon their own pates a far more heavy vengeance, even the vengeance of their own sin, and the vengeance of their child's sin. For every parent is made a watchmen over his child. If a watchman do not what he can to hinder the sin of such as are under his charge, he pulls their blood on his own neck (Eze 3:18). What do they then that being watchmen, minister occasion of sin to them that are under their charge?
118. Of parents seeking the good of their children.
That parents by avoiding the rock of provoking, fall not into the gulf of cockering, the Apostle addeth a But, which is as a stop unto them, and teacheth them that
It is not sufficient for parents to prevent such mischiefs as children may fall into, but they must also seek their good. All the precepts in Scripture charging parents to seek their children's good, prove the point. Herein lieth a main difference betwixt the affection which parents and strangers ought to bear toward children, and the duty which one and the other owe to them. Mere strangers ought not to provoke them: but parents ought moreover every way to seek their good.
The main good which parents ought especially to seek after in the behalf of their children, is noted out in these words: Bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
The word translated [bring up] properly signifieth to feed or nourish with all needful things; it is the same that is used before in the 5th chapter and 29th verse, and there translated nourisheth. Not unfitly might the proper signification of the word be here kept, as the best Latin translation, the French, and others have kept.
This word joined with the others that follow, may seem at first sight to be here placed only to make up the sense, as if he had thus said, nurture your child in the ways of God. But if the scope of the Apostle, and signification of the word be well weighed, we shall find that it further implieth a general duty, which nature itself teacheth parents, even this, that
Parents ought to provide all needful things for their children: even such things as tend to the nourishing of their bodies, and preserving of their health and life: for this phrase [to translate it word for word] nourish them in discipline, or in instruction, is a concise speech, implying as much as if he had said, nourish and nurture them, or feed and instruct them. But the Apostle hath thus nearly and concisely joined them together, to shew that Nurture and instruction is as needful and profitable, as food and apparel.
119. Of parents nurturing their children.
The word translated nurture, signifieth as well correction as instruction: as Hebrews 12:7 - If ye endure chastening: and 2 Timothy 3:16. The Scripture is profitable for instruction in righteousness. Both senses will here stand, and our English word [as well as the Greek] will bear both: for to nurture children, is as well to correct them, as to instruct them. Very fitly is this advice in this large acceptation inferred upon the former prohibition: for lest parents should thereupon take occasion to lay the reins upon their children's necks, and let them run whither they list, the Apostle hereby teacheth, that
Parents, as they may not be too austere, so neither too remiss. They must not provoke their children to wrath, yet they must keep them under discipline. The word translated nurture, according to the Greek notation thereof doth further set forth the mean betwixt the two forenamed extremes: for it noteth out such a discipline as befitteth a lad or a young child: so as the thing itself, discipline, by instruction and correction keepeth from one extreme of remissness: the kind or manner of discipline being such as befitteth a child, keepeth from the other extreme of rigour and cruelty. Extremes on either side are dangerous and pernicious, and that to parent and child. For remissness will make children careless of all duty to God and parent: rigour will make them desperate. But virtue and safety consisteth in the mean betwixt both.
120. Of parents fixing precepts in their children's minds.
The word [admonition] according to the notation thereof, hath a particular relation to the mind, and pointeth out an informing and instructing of it. It is taken either for the action of admonishing, [as Titus 3:10, reject an heretic after the first and second admonition] or for the thing admonished, in which latter sense most do here take it: yet would I not have the former clean excluded, for according to the full meaning of the word, I take thus much to be intended.
As parents deliver good precepts and principles to their children, so they must be careful, by forcible and frequent admonitions, to fix and settle them in the mind of their children. The Law expresseth as much by another metaphor which it useth, in a direction which it giveth to parents, saying, thou shalt whet or sharpen God's Laws upon thy children. That is, thou shalt teach them diligently unto them.
The more pains is taken in this kind, the less labour will be lost. That which at first is little heeded, by much urging and pressing will for ever be held, as a nail that at one blow scarce entereth, with many blows is knocked up to the head.
121. Of adding information to discipline.
The addition of the word admonition unto nurture, is not [as some take it] a mere explication of the same point, but also a declaration of a further duty, which is this:
As parents by discipline keep their children under, so by information they must direct them in the right way. Solomon doth both deliver the point, and also add a good reason to enforce it: for saith he, Train up a child in the way that he should go; there is the duty: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Prov 22:6): there is the reason. Keeping a child under by good discipline, may make him dutiful while the father is over him: but well informing his understanding and judgment, is a means to uphold him in the right way so long as he liveth.
122. Of parents teaching their children the fear of God.
The last word [of the Lord] intimateth the best duty that a parent can do for his child. Admonition of the Lord declareth such principles as a parent hath received from the Lord, and learned out of God's word: such as may teach a child to fear the Lord, such as tend to true piety and relation: whence further I observe, that
Parents must especially teach their children their duty to God. Come children [saith the psalmist] hearken unto me, I will teach you the fear of the Lord. Of this particular more largely hereafter (see Treatise 6, Section 34).
123. Of the subjection which believing servants owe.
Because there is yet another order in the family besides those which have been noted before, namely the order of masters and servants, the Apostle prescribeth also unto them their duty.
As he began with wives and children, in the two former orders, so here he beginneth with servants who are the inferiours, for the same reasons before rendered (see Section 10).
The apostle is somewhat copious in laying forth the duties of servants, and in urging them to perform their duty; and that for two especial reasons: one in respect of those, whose masters were infidels: another in respect of those, whose masters were Saints.
1. Many servants there were in those days wherein the Gospel was first preached to the Gentiles, that by the preaching thereof were converted, whose masters embraced not the Gospel: whereupon those servants began to conceit that they being Christians, ought not to be subject to their masters that were infidels.
2. Other servants there were whose masters believed the Gospel as well as they: now because the Gospel taught, that there is neither bond nor free, but all are one in Christ Jesus: they thought that they ought not to be subject to their master who was their brother in Christ.
These two preposterous and presumptuous conceits doth the Apostle intimate, and expressly meet with in another place (1 Tim 6:12,). And because they had taken too deep rooting in the minds of many servants, the Apostle here in this place laboureth the more earnestly to root them out, and that by a thorough pressing upon their conscience that subjection wherein they are bound to their masters, as masters, whatsoever their disposition were. Hereof more afterwards (see Treatise 7, Sections 2 and 3).
Here by the way, note three points.
1. The Gospel doth not free inferiours from that subjection to men whereunto by the moral Law they are bound.
2. Men are ready to turn the grace of God into liberty.
3. As errors begin to sprout up in the Church, Ministers must be careful to root them out.
124. Of the meaning of the fifth verse.
Ephesians 6:5. Servants be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ.
This title [servants] is a general title, which may be applied to all such as by any outward civil bond, or right, owe their service to another: of what sex soever the persons themselves be: or of what kind soever their servitude is: whether more servile or liberal.
Servile, as being born servants, or sold for servants, or taken in war, or ransomed; For of old they were called servants, who being taken in war, were saved from death.
Liberal, as being by voluntary contract made servants, whether at will, as some serving-men, journey-men, and labourers; or for a certain term of years, as prentices, clerks, and such like. Wherefore whatsoever the birth, parentage, estate, or former condition of any have been; being
Servants they must be subject, and do the duty of servants: the Apostle's indefinite title [servants] admitteth no exception of any.
The other title [masters] hath as large an extent comprising under it both sexes, masters and mistresses: and of these all sort, great and mean, rich and poor, strong and weak, faithful and infidels, true professors and profane; superstitious, idolatrous, heretical persons, or the like: so as
No condition or disposition of the master exempteth a servant from performing duty to him.
Among other degrees and differences, most especially let it be noted that both sexes, mistresses as well as masters, are here meant, that so the duties which are enjoined to be performed to masters may answerably be performed to mistresses [so far as they are common to both] and that both by maid-servants, and also by men-servants that are under mistresses. In families mistresses are as ordinary as masters, and therefore I thought good to give an especial item of this.
Under this word [obey] are comprised all those duties which servants owe to their masters: it is the same word that was before used in the first verse: and it hath as large an extent here being applied to servants, as it had there being applied to children: It sheweth that
The rule of servants [as servants] is the will of their master.
This clause [according to the flesh] is by some referred to the action of obedience, as if it were added by the Apostle to shew what kind of obedience servants owe to their masters, namely a civil, corporal obedience in temporal things, opposed to that spiritual obedience which is due to God alone.
Though distinction may be made betwixt that service which is due to God, and that which is due to man, yet this application of this phrase in this place may give occasion to servants to think that if they perform outward service to their masters all is well, they owe no inward fear, or honour, which is an error that the Apostle doth here mainly oppose against.
But because this clause [according to the flesh] is immediately joined to masters, I refer it to the person to whom obedience is to be given, and so take it as a description of them, as if he had said, to fleshly or bodily masters.
The Apostle thus describeth masters for these reasons.
1. For distinction: to shew he means such masters as are of the same mould that servants are: so distinguishing them from God who is a spirit: thus doth the Apostle distinguish betwixt fathers of our flesh, and father of spirits (Heb 12:9).
2. For prevention: lest servants might say, our masters are flesh and blood as we are, why then should we be subject to them? To meet with that conceit, the Apostle expressly saith that obedience is due to masters after the flesh.
3. For mitigation of their servitude: for their masters being flesh, they have no power but over the bodies of their servants: their spirits are free from them: in which respect the Apostle calleth Christian servants the Lord's freemen (1 Cor 7:22).
4. For consolation against their present condition, which is but for a time, because their masters are flesh: whatsoever is according to the flesh is of no long continuance, but hath his date.
5. For direction: to shew in what things especially that obedience which properly belongeth to a master consisteth: namely in civil, outward things: for every one must be served according to his nature. As God being spirit, must in spirit be served: so man being flesh must in flesh be served. Now this service in the flesh is not opposed to sincere and upright service, but to spiritual. Thus by consequence that may be intended, which some would have principally to be meant.
Object. Masters may command spiritual things, namely to worship God, and after such and such a manner.
Answ. Of his own head he cannot command such things: there must be an higher warrant for the doing of them than the commandment of man.
A main point here intended is this, that
Masters are not to be lightly respected because they be after the flesh: that is, weak, frail, of short continuance, of the same nature that servants are.
Lest upon the forenamed description of masters, servants should take to themselves too much heart, the Apostle annexeth this clause [with fear and trembling, &c.] which hath relation to the manner of their obedience. No slavish fear is here meant, as if servants should live in continual dread, or tremble at the sight of their masters: a servant by the tyranny of some master may be brought so to do: but to do so is no Christian duty: that which the Apostle here requireth is a duty belonging to all Christian servants towards all sorts of masters, even the mildest that be. It is therefore an awful respect of the authority of a master, and a dutiful reverence to his person which is here required: and it is opposed to sauciness, malepertness, boldness, stoutness, answering again, murmuring and muttering against their masters, and other like vices. To shew how foul those faults be, and what great respect servants ought to bear to their masters, these two words [fear, and trembling] are joined together: which in effect declare one and the same thing: but yet for explication sake they may be distinguished. For fear signifieth a reverend respect of one: it is that which in the former chapter was required of wives: though the thing in general which is required of wives and servants is the same, yet the particular manner and measure of a servant's fear is far different.
Trembling is more proper to servants: it is a dread of punishment: and it is required of servants, not as if they should do all things simply for fear of punishment, but because God hath put a staff into a master's hands, servants must tremble at that power their masters have, and fear to provoke them to strike. To this purpose saith the Apostle to subjects in regard of the power which a Magistrate hath, be afraid, for he beareth not the sword in vain (Rom 13:3,4).
Hence learn that
The authority of a master ought to strike a servant's heart with dread.
The dread which servants ought to have of their master's power and authority maketh many to care for no more than to avoid their master's displeasure: wherefore the Apostle addeth a further degree of a servant's subjection, namely that it be in singleness of heart, that is, honest, entire, upright: for this is opposed to hypocrisy, dissimulation, and fraud: yea of Your heart, not anothers': another in the simplicity of his heart may think you do a thing better than you do, by a charitable construction of every thing, but if in singleness of your own heart you do it, it will in truth be as it appeareth to be. So as
All the services which servants perform to their masters must be done in truth and uprightness.
The Apostle gives this direction to Christians who have to do not only with masters according to the flesh [who only see the outward appearance] but also with the master of spirits who looketh on the heart (1 Sam 16:7): and therefore also he added this clause, as unto Christ: teaching servants thereby that
Servants in their obedience to their masters, must approve themselves to Jesus Christ as well as to their masters after the flesh.
The phrase [as unto Christ] implieth as much as that [in the Lord] whereof we spake before (see Section 96).
125. Of the meaning of the sixth verse.
Ephesians 6:6. Not with eye-service, as men-pleasers, but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart.
This and the verse following are added as a further explication of the last clause of the former verse. It should seem that servants, howsoever they might in some measure perform the main duty of obedience, yet failed exceedingly in the manner of performing it. Because masters were but men, masters according to the flesh, who neither had power over the heart, nor could discern the disposition thereof, servants thought they had well done their duty, if they had outwardly performed what their master required: now to root out this bitter weed, and to reform this corrupt conceit, the Apostle is more large in clearing the point of sincere and upright service: therefore, the more fully to express his mind and meaning, first he layeth down the vice contrary to the foresaid sincerity [for contraries laid together do much set forth one another] and then returneth more distinctly to declare the virtue. Whence note
Those points are most to be urged upon people, wherein they most fail.
The vice here noted to be contrary to sincere service is termed eye-service. Our English word doth properly and fitly answer the original, both in the notation, and in the true sense and meaning of it. It implieth a mere outward service only to satisfy the eye of man:
And that is twofold, hypocritical, parasitical.
Hypocritical service is that which is merely in shew: when that is pretended to be done which indeed is not done; as if a servant should come from his master's work all in a sweat, as if he had taken extraordinary pains therein, whereas he hath done nothing at all, but otherwise made himself to sweat, or only made a shew of sweat.
Parasitical service is that which is indeed done, but in presence of the master: such servants are they who will be very diligent and faithful in doing such things as their masters see, or shall come to their notice: but otherwise behind their master's back, and in things which they hope shall never come to his knowledge, they will be as negligent, and unfaithful as if they were no servants. Yet to satisfy their masters, and to sooth them, they will do any thing though never so unlawful.
From this vice thus discovered note, that
God requireth more than that which may satisfy man's eye. God's eye is a piercing eye, and can see much foulness, where to man's eye all things seem very fair: so as they much deceive themselves who think all is well because no man can say to them, black is thine eye.
Those that content themselves with doing eye-service the Apostle here termeth men-pleasers: which title he giveth unto them for two especial reasons.
1. To shew the ground of eye-service: which is because all their care is to please their master, who is a man: for well they know that man can see but the outward shew, or that which is done before his face.
2. To shew the heinousness of that sin: for it is tainted with atheism, in that the man guilty thereof hath no respect to God: but preferreth his master before God: he careth not to please God so he please his master: for this is the emphasis of that word [men-pleasers]. It is spoken in opposition to God, as the Apostle implieth in another place, saying, If I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ (Gal 1:10).
Object. How can it be so heinous a sin to be men-pleasers, when the Apostle adviseth servants to please their masters in all things (Titus 2:9)?
1. Answ. The advice there given is not simply to please, but to please well, as the original word properly signifieth, and the King's translators have fitly turned it.
2. Answ. That general particle [all things] must be restrained to the duties of a servant, and to all the parts of obedience, which he there mentioneth in the words immediately going before. Servants therefore must please their masters in all things that their masters have power to require at their hands, and they are bound to do. Men-pleasing, here spoken of, is opposed to pleasing of God. Pleasing of men there mentioned is subordinate to our pleasing of God: here to please men is to sooth them up in every thing good or evil: there to please them is conscionably to obey them in every lawful thing. Here is condemned a seeking to please men in the first place, and that only, and wholly in every thing, whereas we ought first to seek God's approbation, then the testimony of a good conscience, and after these a pleasing of men, but in, for, and under, God. Hence then observe that
A servant must not wholly give himself to sooth and please his master: for so may he in many things highly displease Almighty God.
To avoid the two forenamed sins, eye-service, and men-pleasing, the Apostle giveth an excellent direction in these words, as the servants of Christ doing the will of God from the heart, where we may observe servants of Christ to be opposed to men-pleasers, and doing God's will from the heart to eye-service.
Servants of Christ are they who know that their masters are in Christ's place, bear his image, have their authority from him, and are under him: so as in serving their masters they serve Christ: and so far as they may serve both together, they will: but if they prove contrary masters, and thereupon one of necessity must be left, then they will cleave unto the highest master, which is Christ: and in this respect they are called the Lord's freemen (1 Cor 7:22). Thus we see how a servant may be no servant, if he do all things for the Lord.
From this opposition betwixt men-pleasers and servants of Christ, note that
They who in all things give themselves to please men are no servants of Christ.
That we may the better know who are servants of Christ, the Apostle addeth a description of them in these words [doing the will of God from the heart]. Christ's will is God's will: for as Christ is God, the Father's will and his is all one: as he is man he wholly ordereth his will by his Father's, he seeketh not his own will, but the will of the Father that sent him (John 5:30).
This description of a servant of Christ the Apostle addeth partly as a direction to servants to teach them how in serving their masters, they may be servants of Christ, [namely, in having an eye to God's word, whereby his will is revealed both for the matter and manner of all things which they do] and partly as a motive to persuade them to be content with their place, and cheerfully to do their duty, because so is the will of God.
God's will is that which must direct and settle every one in the things which they do: for God's will is the rule of that which is right. Every thing is very right which he willeth: and nothing is right that swerveth from his will.
To put a difference betwixt Christ and other masters, and to shew that he looketh not [as man doth] upon the outward appearance, but beholdeth the heart, the Apostle annexeth this clause [from the heart]. And it declareth that
A good thing must be well done. To do that which is God's will, commented by his word, is for substance a good thing: to do it from the heart, is the right manner of doing it: That which being good is done after a right manner, is well done.
126. Of the meaning of the seventh verse.
Ephesians 6:7. With good will doing service as to the Lord and not to men.
In this verse the Apostle doth yet again inculcate the forenamed point concerning servants' manner of obeying their masters, and their care therein to approve themselves to their highest master: whence observe that
Masters needful and weighty are again and again to be pressed. This is a needful point, because servants exceedingly fail therein: and a weighty point it is, because all the comfort and benefit of service consisteth in God's approbation. But the former point is not here merely and barely repeated, but so set down as other good directions are afforded to servants for their manner of obedience.
1. To serve with good will, is somewhat more than with singleness of heart. For it further implieth
1. A readiness and cheerfulness in doing a thing; a doing it with a good mind, as the notation of the Greek word sheweth.
2. A desire and endeavour that their masters may reap profit and benefit by their service: whereby they shew that they bear a good will, and good mind to their masters.
In setting down servants' duties, the Apostle useth another word than before in the fifth verse, namely this [doing service] whereby he sheweth that a servant's place and duty is of more abject and inferiour kind than the place and duty of a child or a wife: the former word [obey] was common to all: this word [doing service] is proper to servants: and the very title of a servant, is derived from thence. Hence note that
Though wives and children be inferiour as well as servants, yet may not servants look for such privileges as they have. Another manner of subjection must be performed by servants.
The clause annexed [as to the Lord] is in effect the same with that in the fifth verse [as to Christ] for by the Lord he here meaneth the Lord Christ. But it is added to meet with a secret objection. For if servants should say, You require us to serve our masters with good will, but what if they be hard-hearted and regard not our good will, but pervert our good mind? The Apostle giveth them this answer, Look not so much to men and their reward, as to God and his reward: serve men in and for the Lord, even as if you served God: so shall not your service be in vain. The inference of the eighth verse upon this, sheweth that this is it which the Apostle here intendeth. Learn therefore that
As eye is to be cast upon God even in those duties which we perform to men: and that both for approbation and reward from God.
The negative clause which followeth in these words [and not to men] is not simply to be taken [for then would it thwart the main scope of the Apostle in this place] but comparatively in relation to God, and that in two respects.
1. That service be not done only to men.
2. That service be not done to men in and for themselves. Service must be done to God as well as men: yea In that service which we do to men, we must serve God. Men must be served for the Lord's sake, because the Lord hath commanded it, because they bear the Lord's image, and stand in his stead: in the Lord, and under the Lord.
From this large declaration of the manner of doing service to masters note the difference betwixt such servants as are servants of men, and such as are servants of Christ.
1. They do all to the eye. These all from the heart.
2. They seek to please men. These do the will of God.
3. They do their service discontentedly. These cheerfully.
4. They do all upon self-love. These with good will.
127. Of the meaning of the eighth verse.
Ephesians 6:8. Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doth, the same shall he receive of the Lord whether he be bond or free.
Great is the ingratitude of many masters: they will exact all the service that a poor servant possibly can do, but slenderly recompence his pains: yea, it may be, very evilly reward the same, not affording competent food, clothing, lodging, but frowns, checks, and blows. Now to uphold servants in such straits, and to encourage them to do their duty whether their masters regard it or no, the Apostle in this verse laboureth to raise up their minds to God: and to shew unto them that he regardeth them, and will sufficiently reward them, so as
Servants' labour shall not be in vain in the Lord. To press this encouragement the more upon them, he setteth it down as a thing granted by all, so clear as none of them can be ignorant thereof [knowing] as if he had said, ye all well enough know that what I now say is most true: hence note that
God's respect of faithful servants is so well known, as none that have any understanding can be ignorant thereof.
The Apostle's argument is drawn from the general to a particular, and the generality is noted in the thing done [whatsoever] and in the person that doth it [any man]. But because the generality of the thing might be too far stretched, he addeth this limitation [good] and because the generality of the person might be too much restrained, he addeth this explication [whether bond or free]. This distinction is used because in those days many servants were bond-men and bond-women. Now the Apostle's argument may thus be framed: Every one of what estate and degree soever he be, shall be rewarded of God for every good thing he doth, be it great or small. Therefore every servant shall be rewarded of God for every good service.
The recompence promised is set forth under a concise speech [the same shall he receive] meaning that he shall receive a reward for the same: that phrase hath relation to the crop which an husbandman receiveth of the corn he sowed, which is of the same kind he sowed: the seed being wheat, the crop is of wheat (1 Cor 15:38): the seed being plentifully sowed, the crop will be plentiful (2 Cor 9:6): to the same purpose saith this Apostle in another place, whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap (Gal 6:7). Now to apply this, servants that by their faithful service bring honour and glory to God, shall again receive honour and glory. If they ask of whom they shall receive it, the Apostle expressly answereth, Of the Lord: for it is the Lord that said, Them that honour me will I honour (1 Sam 2:30). God will not forget them, though their masters may.
From this verse thus opened, I gather these particular observations, concerning servants.
1. Servants may and ought to apply unto themselves general promises made to Christians. Otherwise this general argument of the Apostle is to little purpose in this place.
2. A Christian may be a bond-slave: for the Apostle directeth this encouragement to Christians, among whom he presupposeth some to be slaves, opposing them to free-men, who also were servants.
3. Faithful service performed to men is a good thing: for the good things which servants especially do is in their service.
4. As God accepteth not men because they are free, so neither rejecteth he them because they are bond. It is not the person, but the work that he regardeth.
5. The faithful service of servants is as good seed sown: it will bring forth a good crop. The metaphor here intimated implieth as much.
6. God is honoured by the faithful service of servants: this is intimated by the application of God's reward to them, for God honoureth none but them which honour him.
128. Of the connexion of masters' duties with servants'.
Ephesians 6:9. And ye masters do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your master also is in heaven: neither is there respect of persons with him.
A like doctrine was noted from the connexion of parents' duties with children's: there you may see this general further amplified (see Section 115).
To the duties of servants the Apostle adjoineth the duties of masters, saying, And ye masters: whence learn that
Masters are as well bound to duty as servants.
1. God's Law requireth as much: for it expressly enjoineth many duties to masters [as in the eighth treatise following we shall see].
2. So doth also the law of nature which hath tied master and servant together by a mutual and reciprocal bond, of doing good, as well as of receiving good.
3. The law of nations requireth also as much: For in all nations wherever there was any good government, and where wise, and good laws were made, particular laws of the duties of masters have been made.
4. The law of equity doth so also. One good deserveth another good: therefore the Apostle saith to masters, give unto your servants that which is just and equal (Col 4:1).
Now let masters take notice hereof: and know that God the great Lord of all hath made this relation betwixt master and servant, and hath set each of them in their several and distinct places for the mutual good of one another, so as servants are no more for the good of masters, than masters are for the good of servants. Wherefore, as they look for duty, let them perform duty: if servants fail in their duty, let masters see if they themselves be not the cause thereof, by failing in theirs. Their authority will be no excuse before Christ, but a means to aggravate their fault, and increase their condemnation: for the greater the talent is, the more diligence is expected, and the straiter account shall be exacted.
129. Of the meaning of this phrase, Do the same things.
These two titles [masters, servants] are so taken here as they were before in the fifth verse (see Section 124).
All the duties of masters are comprised under this phrase, do the same things: which at first sight may seem to be somewhat strange: for may some say, The things which servants must do are these, to fear, to obey, to do service, with the like, and are masters to do the same things?
Answ. 1. These words are not to be referred to those particular duties which are proper to servants, but to those general rules of equity which are common to masters as well as servants; namely, that in their several places, with singleness of heart, as unto Christ, not with eye-service as men-pleasers, but as the servants of Christ they do the will of God from the heart.
2. Those words may be referred to the eighth verse, the verse going immediately before, which layeth down a general rule for all men in their several places to do the good things of their places. Now then as servants must have an eye to their places to do the good things thereof, so masters must do the same things: that is, they must have an eye to their places, to do the good things thereof.
3. Those words may be taken without reference to any former words, and expounded of a mutual, reciprocal, and proportionable duty that ought to pass betwixt master and servant: not in the particulars, as if the same duties were to be performed by each of them, for that were to overthrow the order and degrees which God hath set betwixt master and servant, to cross God's ordinance, and infer contradiction: but in general, that duties are to be performed of each to other: in which respect the Apostle said before of all sorts (see Section 3), superiours, and inferiours, Submit yourselves one to another. And thus by this phrase the doctrine before mentioned is confirmed, that Masters are as well bound to duty as servants.
None of these answers thwart another, but all of them may well be admitted, and all of them well stand together. They all imply a common equity betwixt masters and servants, but no equality: mutual duties, but diverse and distinct duties, appertaining to their several places. Compare with this text, that which the Apostle himself hath more plainly and fully noted (Col 4:1) and we shall observe him to expound his own meaning, for that which here he implieth under this phrase [the same things] that he expresseth there under these two words, just, equal: whereof we shall hereafter more distinctly speak (see Treatise 8, Sections 20 and 44).
Purposely doth the Apostle enfold masters' duties under this general phrase [the same things] to prevent a secret objection raised from the eminency and superiority of masters above servants, which maketh them think, that servants are only for the use of masters, and that masters are no way tied to their servants. But if in the general masters must do the same things, then they are for their servants' good, as well as servants' for theirs.
130. Of masters forbearing threatening.
The Apostle in these words [forbearing threatening] doth not simply forbid all manner of threatening, but only prescribe a moderation thereof: and so much have the King's translators well expressed in the margin against this text. Threatening is a duty which, as occasion serveth, masters ought to use, and that to prevent blows. But men in authority are naturally prone to insult over their inferiours, and to think that they cannot shew their authority but by austerity: for which reason the Apostle dehorteth husbands from bitterness (Col 3:19), and parents from provoking their children to wrath (Eph 6:4). Besides, the Gentiles and heathen thought that they had an absolute power over servants, and that of life and death (see Treatise 8, Section 14): whereupon the Roman Emperors made laws to restrain that rigour: for they would use their servants like beasts. Now that Christian masters should not be of the same mind, the Apostle exhorteth them to forbear threatening. Hence note that
Authority must be moderated and kept in compass: else will it be like a swelling river without banks and walls.
Threatening is here put for all manner of rigour, whether in heart, look, words, or actions: for it is usual in Scripture to put one instance for all of the same kind.
Forbearing, implieth a restraint of all manner of excess, as
1. In time and continuance: when there is nothing but continual threatening upon every small and light occasion.
2. In measure; when threatening is too fierce, and violent, so as it maketh the heart to swell again, and as it were fire to come out of the eyes, and thunder out of the mouth, and the body to shake in every part thereof.
3. In execution; when every vengeance once threatened shall surely be put in execution, though the party that caused the threatening be never so sorry for his fault, and humble himself, and promise amendment, and give good hope thereof. Woe were it with us the servants of the high God, if he should so deal with us.
Here note that men may exceed in doing a bounden duty: and so turn a needful virtue into an hurtful vice: great respect therefore must be had to the manner of doing good and lawful things.
Yet further for the extent of this prohibition, we are to know that under the vice forbidden the contrary virtues are commanded, as mildness, gentleness, patience, long suffering, with the like.
131. Of masters' subjection to a greater master.
The latter part of this verse containeth a reason to enforce the directions in the former part. The reason in sum layeth down that subjection wherein masters are under God. A point whereof none of them could be ignorant, and therefore he thus setteth it down, knowing: for,
All men know that there is an higher than the highest on earth. The light of nature revealeth as much, no pagan, much less Christian, can be ignorant thereof. In that speaking to masters he telleth them that they have a master, thereby he giveth them to understand, that
They which are in authority, are also under authority: masters have a master. For God is Lord of Lords, Master of Masters (1 Tim 6:15). In this respect saith Joseph a great Governour, am not I under God (Gen 50:19).
These two little particles [even you, or you also] add some emphasis: having reference to servants, as if he had said, as well your master, as your servant's master. Some Greek copies, for more perspicuity, thus read it [both your and their master] the sense is all one which way soever we read it: It sheweth that in relation to God,
Masters and servants are in the same subjection, and under a like command. There is one master, even Christ: and all men whosoever are brethren, fellow-servants.
132. Of God's being in heaven.
That great Master, under whom all masters on earth are, is here said to be in heaven, the more to commend and set forth his dignity and authority: and to make masters to stand in the more awe of him: To like purpose David having set forth God sitting in the heavens, inferreth this exhortation unto the great commanders on earth, Be wise now therefore, O ye Kings, be instructed, ye judges of the earth: Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling (Psa 2:4,10,11).
Object. This placing of God in heaven, maketh such as fear not God the more insolent and secure: for they will be ready to think and say, How doth God know? can he judge through the dark cloud? thick clouds are a covering to him that he seeth not, and he walketh in the circuit of heaven (Job 22:13,14)?
Answ. 1. The Apostle wrote to Christian masters, who thought better of God than such atheists did.
2. The placing of God in heaven doth not bound him within the compass thereof: for the heaven, and the heaven of heavens cannot contain him (1 Kings 8:27). He filleth heaven and earth (Jer 23:23). Though heaven be his throne, yet the earth also is his footstool (Matt 5:34,35). But because the Lord doth most manifest his glory in heaven, and from heaven, therefore by an excellency is he said to be in heaven: and that in three especial respects.
1. To shew that there is no proportion betwixt him and earthly masters, be they never so great. For as the heaven is higher than the earth, so is God more excellent, yea infinitely more excellent than any man. Who is like unto the Lord our God who dwelleth on high (Psa 113:5)? There is no such difference betwixt masters and servants on earth.
2. To shew that he hath his eyes continually on all his servants: he seeth every thing that they do, as one placed above others seeth all that are under him. From heaven doth the Lord behold the earth (Psa 102:19). The Lord looketh from heaven, he beholdeth all the sons of men (Psa 33:13). The eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good (Prov 15:3). So as this phrase noteth the clean contrary to that which was before objected by wicked atheists.
3. To shew that he is Almighty: able both to recompence his faithful servants [whereupon David saith, Unto thee lift I up mine eyes, O thou that dwellest in the heavens (Psa 123:1)] and also to execute vengeance on those that are unfaithful to God, and cruel to their servants [whereupon saith Solomon, if thou seest oppression &c. marvel not: for he that is higher than the highest regardeth (Eccl 5:8)].
From this place of God [in heaven] we learn these lessons.
1. The eye of faith is needful to behold God withal, for heaven is too high for any bodily eye to pierce into. But by faith did Moses see him who is invisible (Heb 11:27).
2. Though masters had none on earth above them, yet is there one higher than they. There is a master in heaven.
3. They who cannot be heard on earth, have yet one to appeal unto. There is a master in heaven.
4. The command under which earthly masters are, is far greater than that which they have: for their commander is in heaven.
133. Of God's having no respect of persons.
The Apostle further addeth of God the great master of all, that with him there is no respect of persons. The Hebrew word used to set forth this point signifieth a face: so doth also the Greek word here translated person: it signifieth both face and person. Now we know that the face of a man is outward, and that which of all other parts maketh him most amiable in another's eye. It is opposed to that which is inward, even the heart: in which respect it is said that the Lord seeth not as man seeth, for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart (1 Sam 16:7). Here by a face or person is put for every outward quality, state, or condition which maketh one to be preferred before another in man's approbation, as beauty, comeliness, stature, wealth, honour, authority, and the like. Now in that God receiveth not, or respecteth not persons, it sheweth that God preferreth not any one before another for any the forenamed outward respects, or any other like to them. Elihu plainly expoundeth this phrase in these words, he accepteth not the person of princes, nor regardeth the rich more than the poor (Job 34:19). The phrase is taken from them that sit in thrones of judgment, where their eyes should be blinded, that they may not see the face or person of those that are brought before them: but only hear the cause.
This properly is here noted of God, to meet with a vain conceit of many masters, who though they know that God is their master as well as their servant's master, yet think that God will not call them so straitly to account, but will suffer and tolerate them, because they are of a higher rank, and in a better condition than servants: But by this phrase the Apostle sheweth that
To God all are alike: he putteth no difference betwixt any. He will shew favour to the meanest, as well as to the greatest: he will take vengeance of the greatest as well as of the meanest.
Many good lessons may be learned from hence: as among other, these,
1. The poorest and meanest that be may have as free access to God as the wealthiest and greatest: and their suit shall be as soon received.
2. The great ones on earth, have as great cause to fear the revenging hand of God for any sin, as mean ones.
3. It becometh magistrates and all in authority to carry themselves impartially towards all that are under them: for they are in God's room. Respect of persons is the cause of all that injustice and wrong which Magistrates do.
4. It becometh Ministers to be faithful in all God's house, and with an even hand to sow the seed of God's word, and to keep themselves pure from the blood of all men: for they are God's stewards and ambassadors; and therefore they must have no respect of persons.
The Second Treatise Part 1
Of Husband and Wife, who are so to be accounted
1. Of those who may seek to be married.
Having in the former treatise laid down the foundation of all domestical duties, by expounding the words of the Apostle, I purpose now distinctly to lay them forth in order: beginning with the first and chiefest couple in the family, Man and Wife.
Here we are first to speak of the persons who are to be accounted true and lawful husband and wife: and then of the duties which they owe each to otehr.
So as this Treatise consisteth of two parts.
1. The first declareth, who are man and wife.
2. The second noteth out those common mutual duties which they owe one to another. First of the first.
Husband and wife are they who are rightly joined together by the bond of marriage. Whereby two are made on flesh (see Treatise 7, Sections 82 and 84).
For the better clearing of this point, we will consider both the parties that may be so nearly joined together, and also the manner how they are rightly joined in so firm an unity.
About the parties we are to search,
1. Who may seek a mate for marriage.
2. What kind of mate is to be taken.
1. All they who are able without inevitable danger to their yoke fellow to perform the essential duties of marriage, may be married.
Out of this proposition arise three questions to be discussed.
1. Who are to be accounted able?
2. What danger is inevitable?
3. Whether marriage be free for all but such?
2. Of ripeness of years in them that are to be married.
1. They are to be accounted able who have past the flower of their age, and are not by defect of nature, or any other occasion made impotent.
1. Ripeness of years is absolutely necessary for consummating a just and lawful marriage: wherefore as God at first made Adam of full age, so when he sought out a wife for him, he made her of full age too: he made her a woman, not a child (Gen 2:22). Where the Apostle adviseth parents to take care for the marriage of their children, he putteth in this proviso, if they pass the flower of their age (1 Cor 7:36). Childhood is counted the flower of age. While the flower of the plant sprouteth, the seed is green, unfit to be sown.
Quest. How long lasteth the flower of age?
Answ. The civil law, and common law also, set down twelve years for the flower of a female's age, and fourteen, of a male's; which is the least: for before those years they can have no need of marriage, nor yet are well fit for marriage, so as if they forbear some years longer, it will be much better for the parties themselves that marry, for the children which they bring forth, for the family whereof they are the head, and for the Commonwealth whereof they are members. Note the ages of the Kings of Israel and Judah when they were first married, and we shall find few of them to be under twenty, and those few, not above one or two years under: and yet of all sorts of people the Kings did use to marry the soonest, that so they might have heirs betimes.
Object. Solomon was but a child when he came to the crown (1 Chron 22:5; 29:1), and yet he had then a child of a year old at least (2 Chron 12:13).
Answ. He was said to be a child not simply, but comparatively,
in relation to his other brothers which were elder than he (1 Kings 2:22), and in regard of that great work he was to undertake (1 Kings 3:7). In the time of his reign he is said to be old (1 Kings 11:4): which could not be if he had been in years a child when he began to reign: for he reigned but forty years.2. Object. Ahaz was but twenty years old when he began to reign, and reigned but fifteen years, and yet when he died Hezekiah his son was five and twenty years old, by which computation Ahaz had a child when he was but eleven, or twelve years old at most (2 Chron 28:1; 29:1).
1. Answ. Some say that this was extraordinary, and render this reason, Ahaz so young a father as Elizabeth an old mother, should have hoped in Emmanuel of a virgin.
2. Answ. The beginning of that reign when Ahaz was but twenty years old, is to be referred to Jotham his father; for Ahaz was twenty years old when he [namely Jotham] began to reign: as Jehoiachin was eight years old, when he [namely his father Jehoiachim] began to reign (2 Chron 28:1; 29:1): for Jehoiachin was eighteen, when he himself began to reign (2 Kings 24:8).
Object. Jotham was but twenty and five years old when he began to reign (2 Chron 27:1), how then could Ahaz his son at that time be twenty?
Answ. Jotham was five and twenty years old when his father Uzziah was struck with leprosy, from which time he reigned as King even in his father's life time (2 Chron 26:21). But after his father was dead, the kingdom was established to him alone after a more solemn manner; in which respect it is said that then he began to reign: and then was his son Ahaz twenty years old, Jotham himself being about forty.
Contrary to the forenamed fitness of age is the practice of such parents, or other friends of children, as make matches for them in their childhood, and move them to consent, and so cause them to be married: such marriages are mock-marriages, and mere nullities. For children cannot know what appertaineth to marriage, much less can they perform that which is required of married persons: their consent therefore is justly accounted no consent, unless they do ratify it after they come to years.
3. Of impotent persons that ought not to seek after marriage.
2. They are to be accounted impotent and in that respect unable to perform the essential duties of marriage, who [to use the Scripture phrase] were born eunuchs from their mother's womb (Matt 19:12): or by any accidental occasion are so made: as they who are defective, or closed in their secret parts: or taken with an incurable palsy: or possessed with frigidity, or any other such like impediment.
These ought not to seek after marriage: for by those signs of impotency God sheweth that he calleth them to live single.
Contrary to this manifestation of God's will do they sin, who conceal their impotency and join themselves in marriage, whereby they frustrate one main end of marriage, which is procreation of children; and do that wrong to the party whom they marry, as sufficient satisfaction can never be made.
4. Of barrenness, that it hindereth not marriage.
Quest. Are such as are barren to be ranked among those impotent persons?
Answ. No, there is great difference betwixt impotency and barrenness.
1. Impotency may by outward sensible signs be known and discerned, barrenness cannot: it is not discerned but by want of child-bearing.
2. Impotent persons cannot yield due benevolence: but such as are barren may.
3. Impotency is incurable: but barrenness is not simply so. Many after they have been a long while barren have become fruitful: and that not only by an extraordinary work of God above the course of nature [as Sarah (Gen 18:11) and Elizabeth (Luke 1:7), with whom by reason of age it ceased to be after the manner of women] but also by such a blessing as might stand with the course of nature, being obtained by prayer [as Rebekah (Gen 25:21) and Hannah (1 Sam 1:5,20)] whereof daily experience giveth good evidence: for many after 10, 15, 20, and more years barrenness have brought forth children.
On these grounds many Saints, who have been barren, have married, and their practice therein not disallowed, nor their marriage dissolved. For though procreation of children be one end of marriage, yet it is not the only end: and so inviolable is the marriage bond, that though it be made for children's sake, yet for want of children it may not be broken.
5. Of that inevitable danger which hindereth marriage.
3. They who are infected with such contagious diseases, as diffuse themselves into those who have society with them, and infect them also, ought not to seek after marriage: for that cannot but turn to the danger of the party with whom they marry. It was for mutual good one of another that God ordained the law of marriage (Gen 2:18); to use it to the hurt and danger of one another, is against the main end of the first institution.
The law of shutting up a leper from all society with men proveth as much (2 Chron 26:21); for if lepers might not have mutual society with any man, much less might they have matrimonial society with a wife or an husband.
By contagious diseases not only both the parties which company together will be infected, but also their issue: whereby their disease which otherwise might die with themselves, is propogated to their posterity. A like restraint may be applied to such foul and loathsome diseases, as make the company and society of that person, who is infected therewith, irksome, and odious to their companion.
Contrary to the end and use of marriage do they sin, who conceal such diseases, and to join themselves in marriage, to the unanswerable prejudice of the party whom they marry.
6. Of the lawfulness of marriage to all sorts of persons.
Where there is no such just impediment as hath been before mentioned, it is lawful for all sorts of people of what calling or condition soever to marry. For Marriage is honourable in all, or among all, namely in, or among all sorts of people (Heb 13:4): whereupon it is accounted a doctrine of devils to forbid to marry (1 Tim 4:1,3). For it is a doctrine contrary to God's word, and a doctrine that causeth much inward burning, and outward pollution, and so maketh their bodies, which should be temples of the Holy Ghost, to be sties of the devils.
The disease, for the redressing whereof marriage is sanctified, is a common disease which hath infected all sorts of people: why then shall not the remedy be as common?
In this case the Apostle saith indefinitely of all, without exception of any, to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And again, If they cannot contain let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn (1 Cor 7:2,9).
Object. There be eunuchs which have made themselves eunuchs [that is, have abstained from marriage and lived in a single life continently] for the kingdom of heaven's sake (Matt 19:12).
Answ. That is spoken of some particular persons to whom the gift of continency was given: not of any distinct conditions, and callings, as if all and every one of this or that calling had so done or were able so to do: whereupon Christ addeth this clause, He that is able to receive it, let him receive it (Matt 19:12), and the Apostle to the same purpose saith,
every one hath his proper gift of God (1 Cor 7:7).Contrary to this necessary and warrantable liberty, is the impure and tyrannical restraint of the Church of Rome, whereby all that enter into any of their holy orders, are kept from marriage.
Do they not herein tempt God by putting a yoke upon men's necks, which neither our fathers nor we are able to bear? (Acts 15:10) No such restraint was ever enjoined by God's word to any of those holy functions which he ordained: for under the Law it was lawful for high Priests, ordinary Priests, all sorts of Levites, and extraordinary Prophets, to marry: and under the Gospel, for Apostles, Bishops, Deacons, and all Ministers of the word. Fearful have been the effects of this diabolical doctrine: as fornication, adultery, incest, sodomy, buggery, and what not? Many wives put from their husbands, because their husbands were Ministers, and many Ministers put from their calling because they had wives: many children by this means basely borne, and among them many in their infancy cruelly murdered. Six thousand heads of infants were found in the ponds of a religious house. How many more thousands have been from time to time cast into other ponds, or buried in gardens, or other places, or other ways conveyed out of sight? Devillish must that doctrine needs be, which hath such devillish effects. Well did he wish, that wished that all they who cannot contain, would take heed how they do rashly profess perfection, and vow virginity.
7. Of the things which are absolutely necessary to make a person fit for marriage.
They who have power to marry must be careful in choosing an help meet for them: for this was God's care when first he instituted marriage (Gen 2:18). To make an help meet for marriage, some things are absolutely necessary for the very essence or being of marriage; others, necessary for the comfort and happiness of marriage.
In regard of the former sort, there must be chosen,
1. One of the same kind or nature: for among all the creatures which were made, there was not found an help meet for man (Gen 2:20): therefore God out of his bone and flesh made a woman of his own nature and kind.
Contrary to this is the detestable sin of buggery with beasts, expressly forbidden by the law (Lev 18:23). A sin more than beastly: for the brute beasts content themselves with their own kind: Monstrous is it in the kind thereof: and a cause of abominable monsters. Contrary also is that copulation which witches have with devils: then which none more unnatural, none more prodigious and odious.
2. One of the contrary sex: the male must choose a female: the female a male. Thus God having made Adam a male, made Eve a female, and joined them in marriage. A conjunction of these different sexes is only fit for increase of mankind, and other marriage duties.
Contrary are those unnatural commixtures of parties of the same sex: which the Apostle reckoneth up as judgments inflicted on the heathen, because they changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped, and served the creature more then the Creator (Rom 1:25,26).
3. One beyond those degrees of consanguinity and affinitiy which are forbidden by the Law of God: these degrees are expressed by Moses (Lev 18:6,7 &c.) and explained in a table of the degrees of consanguinity and affinity within which none may marry, appointed to be hung up in every Church.
Contrary is incest, a sin not only forbidden by God's word, but so horrible even to the heathen as [to use the Apostle's words, (1 Cor 5:1)] it is not so much as named among the Gentiles. Excellently is that censure verified by the heathen orators pathetical exclamation against one Saffia who married her son in law, in these words: O incredible wickedness of a woman, not heard of in any age but this! O unbridled and untamed lust! O singular boldness! Not to fear the power of God and same of men! &c. Lust, impudency, madness, overcame shame, fear and reason.
What may we now think of the dispensations which the Pope giveth for incestuous marriage, allowed unto great Princes even by the Tridentine council? doth he not herein shew himself to be that man of sin, who opposeth and exalteth himself above all that is called God?
4. One that is free: nor married, nor betrothed to another: the law of marriage noteth, thus much in this clause, They two shall be one flesh (Matt 19:5). And in that the law inflicteth the same punishment upon the person which being betrothed commiteth uncleanness (Deut 22:22-24), that it doth upon a married person, it is evident that it is unlawful to marry one betrothed to another, as well as one married to another. So firm is a contract, as the Law calleth a betrothed maid, a wife: and a betrothed maid might not be put away without a bill of divorce.
Contrary is bigamy, and polygamy, whereof before (see Treatise 1, Section 83): unto which head may be referred marriages with such as have been expoused to others before. These are utterly unlawful.
8. Of the lawfulness of other marriages after one of the married couple is dead.
1. Quest. Are they who have buried their husband or wife so free as they may marry again?
Answ. Yea, as free as they who were never before married. The Law doth not only permit a widow to marry again: but if her husband died before he had any children, it commanded the next kinsman that was living and free to marry her, that he might raise up seed to his brother deceased (Deut 25:5,9): which if he refused to do, a penalty of ignominy was inflicted on him: the widow rejected was to loose his shoe from his foot, and to spit in his face in the presence of the Elders. The Apostle expressly saith that a woman, when her husband is dead, is at liberty to be married (1 Cor 7:3.9) yea speaking of young widows he further saith, I will that they marry (1 Tim 5:14). This liberty which the Prophet of God, and Apostle of Christ grant to a wife, can by no shew of reason be denied to an husband: for the bond of marriage giveth them a like power over another's body (1 Cor 7:4), and knitteth one as inviolably as the other (Matt 19:6). Husbands therefore as well as wives have used this liberty, as Abraham (Gen 25:1).
The Apostle that giveth this liberty, rendereth a reason thereof, taken from the limitation of that time wherein married persons have power one over another, and that is the time of this life only: For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband, so long as he liveth: but if the husband be dead she is loosed, &c. On this ground all the reasons which warrrant or move such as never were married (see Section 24), to marry, may be applied to them that by death have their yoke-fellow taken from them.2. Quest. May this liberty be extended any further than to a second marriage?
Answ. We find no restraint from a third, or fourth, or more marriages, if by the divine providence so many wives, or husbands one after another be taken away while there is need for the surviving party to use the benefit of marriage. The woman of Samaria that had five husbands one after another, is not blamed for being married to so many, but for living with one [after the other were dead] that was not her husband (John 4:18). Neither did the Lord condemn that woman which was said to have seven husbands one after another (Matt 22:25, &c.).
Contrary is the opinion of Montanists, and Cataphryges, ancient heretics that accounted those marriages which the survivor made after the death of a yoke-fellow, to be adulterous: with which heresy Tertullian an ancient and learned father was so far infected, as he wrote a treatise in defence thereof. It seemeth by their arguments that one main ground of their error was a misinterpretation of those Scriptures which forbid men to have two wives at once, and women to have two husbands at once, as, Two shall be one flesh (Gen 2:24). A Bishop and a Deacon must be the husband of one wife (1 Tim 2:10). Let a widow be taken that hath been the wife of one husband (1 Tim 5:9). These are indeed express texts against such digamists, and polygamists as have been described before (see Treatise 1, Section 83): but they make no more against second or other after-marriages one mate being dead, than against first marriages. Into the roll of these heretics may they be put, who deny such after marriages to any kind of Ministers. So do our adversaries: they exclude such as are married again after one wife is dead from such functions of inferiour orders, as they admit those who are but once married unto. They allege many of those Scriptures which Montanists do (as 1 Tim 2:2,10 and 5:9) which sheweth that they are infected with the same heresy, though they pretend to renounce it.
9. Of equality in years betwixt husband and wife.
That matrimonial society may prove comfortable, it is requisite that there should be some equality betwixt the parties that are married in Age, Estate, Condition, Piety.
1. For Age, as the party that seeketh a mate must be of ripe years, fit to give consent, and able to perform marriage duties, so the mate which is taken must be somewhat answerable in age: if one young, both young: if one of middle age, both so: if one grown to years, the other also. It is noted of Zachary and Elizabeth, that both were well striken in years (Luke 1:7). If both were old together, then both also were young together. Equality in years maketh married persons more fit for procreation of children, for a mutual performance of marriage duties each to other, and for making their company and society every way more happy.
This equality is not over strictly to be taken, as if the married couple were to be just of the same age, but only for some answerableness in years: which may be though there be a disparity of five or ten, or somewhat more years: especially if the excess of years be on the husband's part: for besides that according to the ordinary course of nature a man's strength and vigour lasteth longer than a woman's, it is very meet that the husband should be somewhat elder than his wife, because he is an head, a governour, a protector of his wife. The Scripture noteth many husbands to be elder than their wives [as Abraham was ten years elder than Sarah (Gen 17:17); and if we narrowly mark the circumstances of the histories of Isaac and Jacob, and their wives, we shall find that the husbands were elder than their wives]. To my remembrance an approved example of an husband younger than his wife cannot be given out of Scripture.
Contrary to this equality in years, is the practice of many men and women, who being aged, to satisfy their lust, or for some other by-respect, marry such as are but in the flower of their age, wherein they do many times much fail of their expectation: for those young ones finding the society of aged folks to be burdensome, and irksome unto them, soon begin to loath the same, and thereby cause more grief and vexation, than ever they did give comfort and contentment.
On the other side, others there be who in the prime and strength of their age, for wealth, honour, or such like respects, marry those that with age begin to be decrepit, and unfit to be married, hoping that they will not long live, but that with a little trouble they shall purchase much dignity or riches, and after a while be free again. But God oft meeteth with such in their kind, by prolonging the life of those aged persons, and so making the burden to be much more grievous and tedious than was imagined, and by taking away those young ones sooner than they looked for, whereby it cometh to pass that all their hopes perish. The heathen observed inequality in years to be occasions of many mischiefs, and thereupon prescribed rules against it.
10. Of equality in estate and conditon betwixt those that are to be married together.
2. Some equality in outward estate and wealth is also befitting the parties that are to be married together, lest the disparity therein [espeically if it be over-great] make the one insult over the other more than is meet: for if a man of great wealth be married to a poor woman, he will think to make her as his maid-servant, and expect that she should carry herself towards him so as beseemeth not a yoke-fellow, and a bedfellow: so as such an one may rather be said to be brought unto bondage, than marriage. And if a rich woman marry a poor man, she will look to be the master, and to rule him: so as the order which God hath established will be clean perverted: and the honour of marriage laid in the dust. For where no order is, there can be no honour.
3. The like may be said of outward condition, that therein also there be some equality: that Princes, nobles, and gentlemen, marry such as are of their own rank: and the meaner sort such as are of their degree. Note what sort of wives Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob married, and it will appear that they had respect to this parity. Disparity in condition as well as in estate, is a means to make men and women swell and insult above that which is meet: yea and to twit one another in the teeth with their former estate and condition.
Contrary on the one side are the practices of such as affect to marry above their own estate and degree: thinking by such marriages to advance themselves. This is the only thing which many seek after in seeking wives and husbands; whereby it cometh to pass that they oft meet with the worst matches, and make their marriage a kind of bondage unto them. Great portions make many women proud, dainty, lavish, idle, and careless; a man were much better, even for help of his outward estate, to marry a prudent, sober, thrifty, careful, diligent wife, though with a small portion, than such an one. A proud back, a dainty tooth, and a lavish hand will soon consume a great portion; but a wise woman buildeth her house (Prov 14:1): and a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband (Prov 12:4). Many wives also that are married to very rich husbands, are more stinted and pinched in their allowance, than such as are married to men of meaner estate. It is not the means which a man hath, but his mind and disposition that maketh him free and bountiful to his wife.
Contrary are the marriages which men of great authority and ability make with mean women, yea their own maids many times, and those of the lowest rank, their kitchen-maids. And which women of noble blood, and great estate, make with their serving-men. Do they not herein betray much baseness of mind, and violence of lusts?
If it be said that such marriages are not simply unlawful, the rule of the civil law giveth a good answer, Always in marriages not only what is lawful, but what is honest and meet, is to be considered.
11. Of equality in piety and religion betwixt those that are to be married together.
4. The parity which is of greatest consequence betwixt parties to be married, is in piety. In which respect it is meet that as a Christian be married to a Christian, so one that in truth feareth God, to one of the same mind and disposition, as it is noted of Zachary and Elizabeth, they were both righteous before God, &c (Luke 1:6). A worthy couple: one worthy of another: being both alike in such excellent qualities, they could not but reap each from other much comfort, and profit every way.
This is one of the most principle points that are comprised under that proviso given by the Holy Ghost in choosing a yoke-fellow, in these words, In the Lord (1 Cor 7:39).
There is no such means to increase love, preserve peace, provoke unto all duty, make helpful one to another in all things, and at all times, as this parity. Hereby shall they be made both able to do more good one to another, and capable to receive more good one from another: especially in the best things, even in those which concern their spiritual edification in this world, and eternal salvation in the world to come. For Christ is the fountain and head of all spiritual life and grace, [it pleased the father that in him should all fulness dwell (Col 1:19): so as it is he that filleth all in all things (Eph 1:23)]. Now Christ communicateth that life and grace which is in him to those that are members of his body: If then I being a member of that mystical body, be linked by that near and inviolable bond of marriage to one of the members of that body, what hope is there of mutual communicating one to another, and mutual partaking one from another of those gifts and graces which either of us receive from Christ our head? If an unbelieving wife may be saved by a believing husband, and an unbelieving husband by a believing wife: much more will one believer be more and more edified by another.
Happy is that family where both the governours thereof husband and wife are mutual members of Christ's body: there will the house be made God's Church, as the house of Aquilla & Priscilla was (Rom 16:5). God's worship will there be maintained. Children will there be trained up in the nurture of the Lord: and servants also taught the fear of God: for they that are indeed of Christ's kingdom, will be as leaven which seasoneth the whole lump (Matt 13:33): instance the procession which Joshua maketh to this purpose (Josh 24:15): and the effect which is noted of the ruler whose son Christ cured, he himself believed and his whole house (John 4:53).
Here by the way, let me exhort parents and other governours of children, both to train up their own children in true piety and fear of God, and also to seek such matches for them, as they may have some assurance that they are of the same faith, and of the same mind and heart: thus shall they procure to their children much happiness in their marriage, as Abraham did to Isaac (Gen 24).
12. Of marriages betwixt believers and Infidels.
Contrary are marriages with Athiests, Infidels, and such like persons (Gen 6:4; Deut 7:3; Ezra 9:2; Neh 10:30; Mal 2:11; 2 Cor 6:14).
13. Of that mutual liking which must pass betwixt marriageable persons before they be married.
Having shewed what persons are fit to be joined in marriage, it remaineth, to shew after what manner they are to be joined.
There are in Scripture three steps or degrees commended unto us, by which marrigeable parties are in order to proceed unto marriage.
1. A mutual liking.
2. An actual contract.
3. A public solemnization of marriage.
1. The first liking is sometimes on the parent's or other friend's part, and then by them made known to the party to be married, as the friends of Rebekah, liking the offer of Isaac which was made by Abraham's servant, made it known to Rebekah herself (Gen 24:58). Sometimes again the first liking is on the parties part that is to be married: and then if that party be under the government of parents, the matter must be moved to them, before there be any further proceeding therein, as Samson who seeing and liking a daughter of the Philistines, told his father and his mother thereof (Judg 14:2). Yea though the party be not under the government of any, yet it is very meet that counsel be taken of wife and understanding friends: that in a matter so weighty as marriage is, there may be the advice of more heads than one, for the preventing of such mischiefs as through rashness might fall out. After a liking is thus taken by one party of a meet mate, that liking must be moved to the other party so liked, to know whether there be a reciprocal affection of one towards another. Thus Samson went and talked with that woman whom he liked to be his wife (Judg 14:7). If at first there be a good liking mutually and thoroughly settled in both their hearts of one another, love is like to continue in them forever, as things which are well glued, and settled before they be shaken up and down, will never be severed asunder: but if they be joined together without glue, or shaken while the glue is moist, they cannot remain firm.
Mutual love and good liking of each other is as glue.
Let the parties to be married be herein well settled before they come to meet with trials through cohabitation, and that love will not easily be loosened by any trials.
Contrary is the adulterous and brutish practice of such as so soon as they cast their eye on any whom they like, never advise or consult about a right and due proceeding unto marriage, but instantly with all the eagerness and speed they can, like brute beasts, seek to have their desire and lust satisfied. Though to keep themselves free from the penalty of the laws under which they live, they procure means to be married, yet they declare a lustful and adulterous mind. And their practice is too like to the practice of the Benjamites, who catched wives from among the daughters of Shiloh as they were dancing (Judg 21:23): or else to the practice of the old world, which so grieved the Spirit of God, that it repented him that he had made man, and thereupon he was moved to bring a general deluge on the whole world. Their practice was this, that they took them wives of all that they chose (Gen 6:2): that is, they rashly and suddenly married whomsoever they liked, without any consideration of their condition.
14. Of a contract what it is?
II. When both parties have manifested a mutual liking each to other, and upon mature deliberation and good advice do conceive one to be a fit match for another, it is requisite that a joint consent and absolute promise of marrying one another before sufficient witnesses be made. This rightly made is a contract, which is the beginning of a marriage.
The right making of a firm contract consisteth in two things:
1. In an actual taking of each other for espoused man and wife.
2. In a direct promise of marrying each other within a convenient time. So as a form of contract may be made to this purpose; First the man taking the woman by the hand to say, I A. take thee B. to my espoused wife, and do faithfully promise to marry thee in time meet and convenient. And then the woman again taking the man by the hand to say, I B. take thee A. to be my espoused husband, and do faithfully promise to yield to be married to thee in time meet and convenient. This mutual and actual taking of one another for espoused man and wife in the time present, and a direct promise of marrying one another afterwards, settleth such a right and property of the one in the other as cannot be alienated without license had from the great Judge of heaven, who hath by his divine ordinance settled that right.
15. Of the grounds of a contract.
Quest. Is a contract absolutely necessary?
Answ. Though it have been an ancient custom continued in all ages, yet I dare not pronounce it to be absolutely necessary, as the want thereof should nullify a marriage, and make it to be no lawful marriage. But surely it is so meet and requisite, as I would advise all Christians that desire a blessing and good success on their marriage to be contracted before they are married.
If there were no other ground for it but this, that God hath sanctified it, and commended it unto us by his word, it were enough to persuade such as fear God to use it.
For I demand, why doth God commend unto his Church anything by his word, but that his Church should make conscience of using it: Now that by God's word it is commended, is without contradiction most evident. For, not to insist on that argument which, not without good probability, is alleged for the antiquity of a contract, and thus collected from God's ordering of that first ancient marriage betwixt Adam and Eve, God brought Eve to Adam on the first day that they were created to see how he would like her, and upon the sight of her, and notice which withal he had of her, by that wisdom which God gave him, he then took her to himself (Gen 2:22): which taking is supposed to be but a contract, because he did not know her till after his fall (Gen 4:1). If it be objected that Adam and Eve are called man and wife in the time of their innocency (Gen 2:25). It may be answered that those titles are in Scripture given to such as are only contracted, to shew the near and firm conjunction betwixt parties espoused (Deut 22:24; Gen 19:14).
But not to insist on that which is but proable, it is more than probable that Lot's daughters were contracted: for it is said that Lot had sons in law which married [or rather should marry] his daughters (Gen 19:14,8): and withal it is said that they had not known man: now then it must needs follow that they were called Lot's sons in law because his daughters were espoused to them. But most evident for this purpose is that difference which the law putteth betwixt a pure virgin, an espoued maid, and a married wife (Deut 22:22). So as contracted persons are in a middle degree betwixt single persons, and married persons: they are neither simply single, nor actually married. To shew that this custom of a contract before marriage continued in God's Church among the Saints, it is expressly noted that Mary the mother of the Lord Jesus who lived many hundred years after that law, was contracted (Luke 1:27).
16. Of the reasons which shew how requisite a contract is.
Many good and weighty reasons may be alleged to shew how requisite it is that a contract should go before marriage. For:
1. It addeth much to the honour of marriage, that it should be deliberately and advisedly step after step, by one degree after another consummated and made up.
2. It putteth a difference betwixt such as intend marriage in the fear of the Lord, for such holy ends as are warranted in the word, and such as intend it only to satisfy their lust, or for other like carnal ends. For these can admit no delay, as was noted (in the end of Section 13) before. But they that use this solemn preparation by a contract before marriage, shew that they desire to have all things fit for so sacred a matter duly performed; and therefore they are content to make some stay for the better effecting thereof.
3. It is a means of knitting the hearts of the two parties to be married more firmly and inviolably together before they come to dwell together. For a contract being the beginning of a marriage, it is an evident demonstration of God's counsel concerning the parties contracted, that God hath prepared them each for other to be man and wife: so as after the contract is made, they may simply and absolutely pray each for other, that God would bless them one to another, to live comfortably and happily together. Before a contract is made, they can but upon supposition [if God have appointed them to be man and wife] pray one for another. For oft it falleth out that after many great hopes and likelihoods of proceeding in such or such a match, by some occasion or other it is clean broken off: but a lawful contract knitteth so firm a knot as cannot be broken: so as a man may conclude that being contracted to a woman she shall be his wife: and so may a woman conclude of a man. The consideration hereof will further move them more narrowly to observe what good qualities, or what other things, which may make them more lovely one to another, are in each other.
4. It is a means to make them beforehand prepare themselves to perform such marriage duties as God's word requireth of man and wife. For a contract giveth them assurance of marriage if they live unto it: so as then they cannot but know that it is high time for them to think how they are to carry themselves, when they come to live in house together: and withal to consider, what crosses ordinarily do accompany the married estate, that they may be beforehand prepared wisely to pass them over, or patiently to undergo them.
5. It may be a means of discovering many hidden and close inconveniences, which otherwise would never come to light. For many friends fearing lest the discovering of some evils which are carried closely, should make a breach betwixt themselves and their friends, will not make them known till they see some urgent necessity to move them so to do. Though the evil be such, as being known would hinder marriage, yet till they see some sure evidence, that they shall indeed be married [if no just exception be put in] they will hope that some other occasion may fall out to hinder the marriage, and in that respect conceal their exception. But because a contract is the beginning of marriage, after they have notice thereof, they will not forbear to disclose what they know. For this end is it, that the contract is three several times openly published in the Church, that if any do know any just cause why such persons as are contracted may not lawfully proceed to marriage, they make known the same. A commendable custom: and great pity, that it is so much neglected as it is.
6. It may prevent many plots and practices of inveigling, or stealing away maids and widows. For it oft falleth out, that when parents or other friends have provided a good match for their daughter, or for some other under their government, and all things on all parts well concluded, the wedding day appointed, and all things fitted and prepared for the solemnizing of the wedding, some desirous to forestall that marriage, by secret and cunning devices get the bride away a few days before, if not on the very morning of the intended wedding day, and marry her out of hand to another. That which maketh men so bold is, that they know a clandestine marriage being consummate shall stand firm in law. But a legal contract preventeth such mischiefs, because it maketh such a furtive marriage utterly void. None therefore knowing that a contract is lawfully made before hand, will be so bold, or rather so mad, as to offer to frustrate a marriage after any such manner.
7. It is a means to stir up the parties which are to be married, more carefully and diligently to provide all things fit for their dwelling together, and well ordering their household beforehand; that they be not to seek for necessaries when they should use them. For being contracted, they know that it cannot be long ere they must come to dwell together.
17. Of abusing, or neglecting a contract.
There are two extremes contrary to the forenamed doctrine of a contract. One of attributing too much to it: another of derogating too much from it. Many make it a very marriage, and thereupon have a greater solemnity at their contract, than at their marriage: yea many take liberty after a contract to know their spouse, as if they were married: an unwarrantable and dishonest practice. Lot's daughters were contracted to husbands (see Section 15), and yet they are said to have known no man. The law styleth her that is contracted a maid, to shew that she ought to keep herself a virgin till the marriage be consummate (Deut 22:24). Therefore Mary is thus described, a virgin espoused (Luke 1:27). But it is the common course of most to make light account of this warrantable and honourable proceeding to marriage by a contract. Few there be in comparison of the multitudes that are married, who make any conscience thereof. They think it needless, and utterly neglect it. No marvel that they meet with many mischiefs and inconveniences, when the means of preventing the same are not used. Let such duly weigh the reasons rendered in the former section.
18. Of the distance of time betwixt the contract and marriage.
Quest. What distance of time must pass betwixt the making of a contract, and consummating of marriage?
Answ. This must be left to the wise consideration of the parties contracted, and of their friends, for the same time cannot precisely be prescribed to all. Occasions may fall out either of hastening, or putting off the marriage. Only extremes on both sides must be avoided. Neither ought the marriage be too suddenly solemnized upon the contract: [than the ends and reasons of a contract, before mentioned, are made void] nor yet too long put off [than may Satan take occasion to tempt them for their inconveniency]. The laudable custom of our and other Churches sheweth, that at least three weeks must pass betwixt contract and marriage. For the contract it to be three times published, and that but once a week before the wedding be celebrated. And we read that the virgin Mary was at least three months contracted before Joseph took her to wife (Luke 1:27,56). For when the Angel first came to her she was espoused: after that she went to her cousin Elizabeth, with whom she abode three months: and then being returned home Joseph was warned by an Angel to take her to wife (Matt 1:20). I note not this as a rule for every one precisely to follow. For the virgin Mary had a just occasion to tarry three months with her old cousin Elizabeth: and so may others have occasions to put off their marriages: which may be lawful, so the marriage be not put off too long, and that there be a mutual and joint consent of both parties. For after the contract is made, neither the man nor the woman have the power of their own body.
Contrary is that unwarrantable course which many take, to be affianced and made sure to a wife, and then to travel beyond sea, or to any other place, and be absent from their spouse a year, or two, or three, or it may be more years. If a man might not go to war, not be charged with any business that should draw him from his wife the first year of his marriage, much less may he absent himself for any long time after he is contracted but not married (Deut 24:5). This may be a means to alienate the heart of his spouse from him for ever.
19. Of a religious consecrating of marriage.
III. The last degree of consummating a marriage, is the open and pulic solemnization thereof: which consisteth
1. In a religious consecration.
2. In a civil celebration.
A religious consecration of marriage is performed by the blessing of a public Minister of the word in the open face of the Church in the day time. This of old hath been used of Christians, and still is continued among us. Though we have neither express precept, nor particular pattern in God's word for this manner of solemnizing a marriage [for there is no particular for me thereof set down in the Scripture] yet it being agreeable to the general rules thereof, we ought in conscience to subject ourselves thereto.
The general rules are these, Let all things be done decently, and in order (1 Cor 14:40). The Churches of God have such a custom (1 Cor 11:16). Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake (1 Peter 2:13), with the like. But the foresaid manner of consecrating marriage, is very decent and in good order, a laudable custom of the Churches, and an ordinance of those governours under whom we live. Therefore warrantable, and to be observed. Neither is this order, custom, and ordinance appointed without just and weighty reasons. For
1. Marriage is kind of pulic action: the well or ill ordering thereof much tendeth to the good or hurt of family, Church, and Commonwealth. For by marriage families are erected, and Church and Commonwealth increased and continued.
2. Marriage is honourable (Heb 13:4). The most sacred and inviolable bond that knitteth any two persons together (see Treatise 1, Sections 80-82).
3. Marriage is God's covenant (Prov 2:17), wherein he himself hath a main and principal stroke. For God is the chiefest agent in joining man and woman in marriage.
On these grounds it hath been thought very requisite that marriage should be solemnized in the day time [as a work of light that need not be covertly and closely done] and that in a public place, whether any, that will, may have free access, either to except against it, and hinder it [if there be just cause] or to be a witness thereof, and to add his blessing thereto. And among public places the Church is thought the fittest, because it is the house of prayer, where persons and actions are most solemnly blessed. And of all persons a public Minister is thought to be the meetest to celebrate marriage, and to join the parties to be married, together, because he stands in God's room, and in and by his ministry God joineth them together, and blesseth them: so as after the Minister hath rightly joined man and wife together in matrimony, it may be well said, Those whom God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. The form of consecrating marriage, which is prescribed in our liturgy or common prayer-book, doth so distinctly, perspicuously, and fully set down whatsoever is to be observed and done by the parties to be married, their parents, or other governours, and the Minister that joineth them together, that I can add nothing thereunto. There are declared the grounds, ends, and uses of marriage. There open proclamation is made whether any can except against the intended marrriage. There each party is solemnly charged, that if either of them do know any impediment, why they may not lawfully be married, to disclose it. There also each party is openly demanded if freely and willingly they will take one another for man and wife. There the duties of married persons are declared, and they severally asked whether they will subject themselves thereto or no. All which being openly professed, the parent or some in his stead is called forth to give the Bride to the Bridegroom. Then they two actually taking each other to be man and wife, and testifying the same by express words, and by mutual pledges, the Minister in God's name joineth them together, pronounceth them to be lawful husband and wife, and by prayer craveth God's blessing upon the action, and upon their persons. Thus is the marriage consecrated, and they two made one flesh, that is, lawfully joined together by the unviolable bond of marriage.
20. Of clandestine marriages.
Contrary are clandestine marriages, such as are made in private houses, or other secret places, or in Churches without a sufficient number of witnesses, or in the night time, or without a lawful Minister of the word, with the like. As such seeking of secrecy taketh much from the honour and dignity of marriage, so it implieth some evil cleaving thereto: For every man that evil doth hateth the light (John 3:20). There is little hope that such marriages should have any good success. For where such means as are sanctified for obtaining a blessing on marriage are neglected, what blessing can thereupon be expected?
21. Of a civil celebrating of marriage.
Though upon the forenamed consecrating of marriage it be in regard of the substance thereof fully consummate, yet for the greater solemnity of so honourable a thing, it is very requisite that further there be added a civil celebration of it: under which I comprise all those lawful customs that are used for the setting forth of the outward solemnity thereof, as meeting of friends, accompanying the Bridegroom and Bride both to and from the Church, putting on best apparel, seating, with other tokens of rejoicing: for which we have express warrant out of God's word.
For the general, that the marriage time is a time of rejoicing, some gather from the notation of the word, as if it were styled marriage of merry age. But to let that pass, the Scripture useth to set forth a time of rejoicing by the joy of the bridegroom over his bride (Isa 62:5), and styleth the voice of a bridegroom and a bride, the voice of joy and gladness (Jer 33:11). And on the contrary counteth it a judgment, when joy is taken away from the bridegroom and the bride (Jer 7:34; Joel 2:16).
For meeting of friends at the time of marriage, it is noted that Laban gathered together all the men of the place, when his daughter was married (Gen 29:22). And when Samson was married, they brought thirty companions to him (Judg 14:11). And when a friend of the virgin Mary was married, Jesus and his Disciples, besides many other, were invited thereto (John 2:2). And in the parable of the marriage of the King's son, it is noted that many guests were bidden to the wedding (Matt 22:3). In all which histories it is further noted, that feasts were made at the solemnizing of those marriages. And the phrases which the Prophet useth of a bridegroom's decking himself with ornaments, and a bride's adorning herself with jewels, give warrant for putting on the best apparel at that time (Isa 61:10; Jer 2:32).
Here by the way let good heed be taken, that the things which may lawfully be used, be not unlawfully abused, as commonly marriage festivities, and that especially in feastings, are.
22. Of ill or well ordering marriages feasts.
Marriage feasts are abused,
1. When they are made at an unseasonable time: as on the Lord's day, or in a time of mourning (Isa 22:12,13).
2. When they exceed the ability of him that maketh the feasts (Luke 15:13).
3. When the abundance prepared, is immoderately taken, even to gluttony and drunkeness. The lewd practice of drinking healths to the bridegroom and bride, oft causeth much excess drunkeness (Luke 21:34).
4. When too much time is spent therein (Isa 5:11).
5. When God is clean forgotten therein, and the company poisoned with corupt communication, unchaste songs, and the like (Isa 5:12).
6. When the needy and distressed are not remembered therein (Amos 6:6).
For preventing of these abuses, a seasonable time for celebrating marriage must be chosen out: and moderation used both by him that maketh the feast, and also by them that partake thereof: moderation I say in the measure of eating and drinking, and in the time spent therein: which time must be sanctified with such communication as is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And for the more cheerfulness therein, witty questions and doubtful riddles may be propounded [as Samson did] to exercise the wit and judgment of the guests (Judg 14:12): there may be also singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, making melody in their hearts to the Lord (Eph 5:19). Yea further, that the marriage meeting, mirth, and feasting may be the better sanctified, good choice is to be made of the guests that are invited thereto. Hereof we have a worthy pattern in those who were married in Cana of Galilee, and invited to their feast Jesus, his mother, and his Disciples (John 2:1,2). Such as Jesus, will minister occasion of savoury and sanctified communication, whereby all the guests may be much edified. Such as the virgin Mary will be a good example of modesty, sobriety, and other like Christian graces. Such as the Disciples, will be far from scorning and deriding wholesome and good instructions, but rather give all diligent heed thereunto, and lay them up in their hearts.
Above all, that the mirth and joy of marriage be not damped, as Belshazzar's was (Dan 5:5), let them that are married, and all that come to rejoice with them, be sure that they have true assurance of their spiritual marriage with Christ, and of a good right in him to the creatures which they use. Otherwise their sins will be as that handwriting which appeared to Belshazzar on the wall (Dan 5:5).
Finally, in regard of that liberty which God giveth with plenty and abundance to eat of the fat, and drink of the sweet, let the poor that scarce have sufficiency be remembered (Neh 8:10).
Thus by a right celebrating of marriage, is it much honoured: and man and wife with much honour are brought together.
23. Of the honour of marriage in regard of the first institution thereof.
Great reason there is why marriage should with such honour be solemnized. For it is a most honourable thing. Honourable in the institution, ends, privileges, and mystery thereof. No ordinance was more honourable in the first institution thereof, as is evident by the Author thereof, the Place where it was instituted, the Time when it was instituted, the Persons who were first married, and the Manner of joining them together.
1. The Author and first Institutor of marriage was the Lord God (Gen 2:18,21,22). Could there have been a greater, or any way a more excellent Author?
2. The Place was Paradise; the most fair, glorious, pleasant, honourable, commodious, and every way most excellent place that ever was in this world. Place, though it be but a circumstance, addeth much to the honour of a thing. Solemn ordinances are made in honourable places. Thus with us marriages are solemnized in Churches, not in private houses.
3. The Time was the most pure and perfect time that ever was in the world, when no sin or pollution of man had stained it, even the time of man's innocency. Purity addeth much to the honour of a thing.
4. The Persons were the most honourable that ever were, even the first father and mother of all mankind, they who had an absolute power and dominion over all creatures, and too whom all were subject. None but they ever had a true monarchy over the whole world.
5. The Manner was with as great deliberation as ever was used in instituting any ordinance. For first the three glorious persons in the Trinity do meet to advise about it. For The Lord God said, (Gen 2:18) and to whom should he speak? not to any created power, but to him that was begotten of himself, that Wonderful, Counselor, &c. In this consultation this ordinance is found to be very needful: [It is not good for man to be alone] thereupon a determination is set down, to make an help meet for man. For the better effecting hereof the Lord proceedeth thereto very deliberately, by sundry steps, and degrees.
1. All creatures that lived on the earth, or breathed in the air, are brought before man, to see if an help meet for him might be found among them.
2. Every of them being thoroughly viewed, and found unfit, another creature is made and that out of man's substance and side, and after his image.
3. This excellent creature thus made is by the maker thereof presented to man, to see how he would like it.
4. Man manifesting a good liking to her, she is given to him to be his wife.
5. The inviolable law of the near and firm union of man and wife together is enacted.
Let all the forenamed branches concerning the first institution of marriage expressly recorded by the Holy Ghost be well weighed, and we shall easily see that there is no ordinance now in force among the sons of men so honourable in the institution thereof, as this.
24. Of the ends of marriage.
2. The ends for which marriage was ordained add much to the honour thereof. They are especially three.
1. That the world might be increased: and not simply increased, but with a legitimate brood, and distinct families, which are the seminaries of cities and Commonwealths. Yea also that in the world the Church by an holy seed might be preserved, and propagated, (Mal 2:15).
2. That men might avoid fornication and possess their vessels in holiness and honour (1 Cor 7:2). In regard of that process which is in man's corrupt nature to lust, this end addeth much to the honour of marriage. It sheweth that marriage is an haven to such as are in jeopardy of their salvation through the gusts of temptations to lust. No sin is more hereditary; none whereof more children of Adam do partake, than this. Well might Christ say all men receive not this saying (Matt 19:11).
Of all the children of Adam that ever were, not one to a million of those that have come to ripeness of years have been true eunuchs all their life time. Against this hereditary disease no remedy is so sovereign as this. Yea for those that have not the gift continency this is the only warranted, and sanctified remedy.
3. That man and wife might be a mutual help one to another (Gen 2:18). An help as for bringing forth, so for bringing up children; and as for erecting, so for well governing their family. An help also for well ordering prosperity, and well bearing adversity. An help in health and sickness. An help while both live together, and when one is by death taken from the other. In this respect it is said who so findeth a wife, findeth a good thing (Prov 18:22), which by the rule of relation is true also, of an husband.
No such help can man have from any other creature as from a wife; or a woman as from an husband.
25. Of the privileges of marriage.
III. If [as once of circumcision (Rom 3:1)] it be demanded what is the privilege, advantage, and profit of marriage, I answer, Much every way.
1. By it men and women are made Husbands and Wives.
2. It is the only lawful means to make them Fathers and Mothers.
3. It is the ordinary means to make them Masters and Mistresses. All these are great dignities, wherein the image and glory of God consisteth.
4. It is the most effectual means of continuing a man's name and memory in this world, that can be. Children are living monuments, and lively representations of their parents.
5. Many privileges have of old been granted to such as were married. In pleading causes, or giving sentence, they had the first place; and in choice of offices they were preferred. In meetings they had the upper hand. And if they had many children they were exempted from watchings, and other like burdensome functions. Among us, if the younger sister be married before the elder, the preeminency and precedency is given to the younger.
The privileges and honours which are given to married persons, were questionless the ground of that custom which Laban mentioneth of his country; that the younger was not to be married before the elder (Gen 29:26).
26. Of the mystery of marriage.
IV. Great is that mystery which is set forth by marriage, namely the sacred, spiritual, real, and inviolable union betwixt Christ and his Church: which is excellently deciphered in Solomon's Song, and in Psalm 45 and expressly noted, Ephesians 5:32.
Hereby man and wife who entirely, as they ought, love one another, have an evident demonstration of Christ's love to them. For as parents by that affection which they bear to their children, may better discern the mind, and meaning of God towards them, than such as never had child, so may married persons better know the disposition of Jesus Christ, who is the spouse of every faithful soul, than single persons.
27. Of marriage and single life compared together.
Let now the admirers and praisers of a single estate bring forth all their reasons, and put them in the other scale against marriage. If these two be duly poised, and rightly weighed, we shall find single life too light to be compared with honest marriage. All that can be said for the single estate is grounded upon accidental occasions. S. Paul, who of all the pen-men of holy Scripture hath spoken most for it, draweth all his commendations to the head of Expediency, and restraineth all unto present necessity (1 Cor 7:26).
Object. He useth these words [good (1 Cor 7:1) and better (v. 38)]
Answ. Those words have relation not to virtue, but to expediency: neither are they spoken in opposition to vice and sin, for then would it follow, that to marry [which is God's ordinance, and honourable in all] were evil and sinful: which is to revive that ancient heresy, that marriage is of the devil. Of old they who have called lawful marriage a defilement, have been said to have the Apostate dragon dwelling in them. But the Apostle styleth that good, which is commodious, and that better which is more expedient: and yet not simply more expedient, but to some persons at some times. For if any have not the gift of continency, it is not only commodious or more expedient that they marry, but also absolutely necessary. They are commanded so to do (1 Cor 7:9). Yet on the other side, if any have the gift of continency, they are not simply bound from marriage; there be other occasions, beside avoiding fornication, to move them to marry. It is therefore truly said that Virginity is not commanded, but advised unto. We have no precept for it, but leave it to the power of them that have the power. So far forth as men and women see just occasion of abstaining from marriage [being at least able so to do] they are by the Apostle persuaded to use their liberty and keep themselves free. But all the occasions which move them to remain single arise from the weakness and wickedness of men. Their wickedness who raise troubles against others, their weakness who suffer themselves to be disquieted and too much distracted with affairs of the family, care for wife, children, and the like. Were it not for the wickedness of some, and weakness of others, to please an husband or a wife, would be no hindrance to pleasing of the Lord. If therefore man had stood in his entire and innocent estate, no such wickedness or weakness had seized upon him: and then in no respect could the single estate have been preferred before the married. But since the fall, virginity [where it is given] may be of good use: and therefore the Church doth give due honour both to virginity and marriage (1 Cor 7:32-34).
28. Of celebrating marriage with sorrow.
Contrary to the forenamed joyful celebrating of marriage are all those indirect courses which bring much grief, trouble and vexation thereunto: as forced, stolen, unequal, or any other way unlawful marriages: marriages without parents, or other governours and friends consent: or huddled up to avoid the danger of law for former uncleanness committed, with the like. Many by their preposterous and undue performing of so weighty a matter, do not only cause great trouble and disquietness on the marriage day, but also much sorrow all the days of their life. If such find no joy, comfort or help in marriage, but rather the contrary, let them not blame God's ordinance, but their own folly and perverseness.
The Second Treatise Part II
Of common-mutual duties betwixt Man and Wife
1. Of the heads of those common-mutual duties.
In the first part of this Treatise concerning Man and Wife, hath been declared, who are so to be accounted: in this second part their common-mutual duties are to be laid forth. These are either absolutely necessary for the being and abiding of marriage: or needful and requisite for the well being and well abiding of it, that is, for the good estate of marriage, and for a commendable, and comfortable living together.
There are two kinds of the former, 1. Matrimonial Unity, 2. Matrimonial Chastity.
The latter also may be drawn to two heads: for they are either such as the marrried couple are mutually to perform each to other: or such as both of them are jointly to perform to others.
Those mutual duties are, 1. A loving affection of one to another, 2. A provident care of one for another.
Under that provident care I comprise both the Means whereby it may be the better effected [which is Cohabitation] and the Matter wherein it consisteth:
And this respecteth, 1. The Soul, 2. The Body, 3. The Good-name, 4. The Goods, of each other.
The joint duties which are to be performed to others, respect 1. Those who are in the house, 2. Those who are out of the house.
They who are in the house are, 1. Members of the family, 2. Guests which come to the family.
Many more particulars are comprised under these general heads, which I purpose distinctly to deliver, as I come to them in their several proper places.
2. Of matrimonial unity.
The first, highest, chiefest, and most absolutely necessary common-mutual duty betwixt man and wife, is Matrimonial Unity, whereby husband and wife do account one another to be one flesh, and accordingly preserve the inviolable union whereby they are knit together. This is that duty which the Apostle enjoineth to husbands and wives, in these words, Let not the wife depart from her husband: Let not the husband put away his wife. He there speaketh of renouncing each other, and making the matrimonial bond frustrate, and of no effect: which bond he would have to be kept firm and inviolable, and they two who are thereby made one, constantly to remain one, and not to make themselves two again. This matrimonial unity is so necessary, as it may not be dis-united or dissolved though one be a Christian, and the other a Pagan. If any brother [saith the Apostle] hath a wife that believeth not, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, let her not leave him.
The reasons of this inviolable union are especially two: One taken from the Author of marriage: the other from the Nature thereof.
1. The Author of marriage is God. It is his ordinance: and he it is that by his ordinance hath made of two, one flesh. Now mark the consequence which Christ as a ruled case, and undeniable principle inferreth thereon, What God hath joined together let no man put asunder: If no man, then nor wife, nor husband himself.
2. Such is the Nature of the matrimonial bond as it maketh of two one, and more firmly bindeth them two together, than any other bond can bind any other two together, how then should they be two again?
3. Of desertion.
The vice contrary to matrimonial unity is Desertion when one of the married couple through indignation of the true religion, and utter detestation thereof, or some other like cause, shall apparently renounce all matrimonial unity, and withdraw him or herself from all society with the other, and live among infidels, idolaters, heretics, or other such persecutors, as a faithful Christian with safety of life, or a good conscience, cannot abide among; and though all good means that can be thought of be used to reclaim the party so departed, yet nothing will prevail, but obstinately persisteth in renouncing all matrimonial fellowship.
This desertion is in the case of marriage so capital, as it freeth the innocent party from any further seeking after the other. In which respect the Apostle saith, If the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases (1 Cor 7:15). By bondage he meaneth matrimonial subjection [by reason whereof neither of the married persons have power of their own body, but one of the other's]. Now they that are not under this bondage, are not bound to seek after it. That desertion therefore on the delinquent's part is such dissolution of marriage, as freeth the innocent party from the bondage thereof. In many reformed Churches beyond the seas desertion is accounted so far to dissolve the very bond of marriage, as liberty is given to the party forsaken to marry another: and it is also applied to other cases than that which is above mentioned: as when an infidel, idolater, or heretic shall depart from one of the true religion for other causes than hatred of religion: or when both man and wife having lived as idolaters among idolaters, one of them being converted to the true faith, leaveth his abode among idolaters, and goeth to the professors of the true faith, but can by no means get the other party to remove: or when one of the true religion shall depart from another of the same profession, and will by no means be brought to live with the party so left, but openly manifesteth peremptory obstinance; the matter being heard and adjudged by the Magistrate, the marriage bond may be broken, and liberty given to the party forsaken to marry another. But because our Church hath no such custom, nor our law determined such cases, I leave them to the custom of other Churches.
4. Of matrimonial chastity.
The second necessary common-mutual marriage-duty is Matrimonial Chastity. Chastity in a large extent is taken for all manner of purity in soul or body: in which respect the Apostle calleth the Church of God a chaste virgin. But in the sense wherein we here use it, it especially appertaineth to the body: which is that virtue whereby we possess our vessels [to use the Apostle's phrase] in holiness and honour: or more plainly to our purpose, whereby we keep our bodies undefiled.
Chastity thus restrained to the body is of 1. Single life, 2. Wedlock.
That of single life is opposed to fornication and it is either of such as never were married. Such an one was S. Paul, in which respect he wisheth that all were as he (1 Cor 7:7). Or of such as are lawfully freed from the bond of marriage. Such an one the Apostle calleth a widow indeed. Chastity of wedlock is that virtue whereby parties married, observing the lawful and honest use of marriage, keep their bodies from being defiled with strange flesh: thus the Apostle commandeth wives to be chaste (Titus 2:5). So as they that keep the laws of wedlock are as chaste as they that contain.
Here by the way note the dotage of our adversaries, who think there is no chastity, but of single persons: whereupon in their speeches and writings they oppose chastity and matrimony one to another, as two contraries.
Some of their holy Fathers and Popes, and those not the least learned, nor of worst note among them, have inferred by their arguments against Priests' marriage, that Marriage is a living in the flesh, a sowing to the flesh, a pollution of the flesh. To that purpose S. Paul's advice to man and wife to abstain, that they may give themselves to fasting and prayer, is urged: but directly contrary to the intent of the Apostle. For,
1. He speaketh there of extraordinary humiliation. 2. He interposeth this limitation, for a time. 3. He saith not simply, that ye may pray, but that ye may give your selves [or have leisure] to prayer: as if it did only hinder, but not pollute prayer.
But how can the forenamed spots and blots of marriage stand with that beauty and glory wherewith the Apostle setteth it forth in these words, Marriage is honourable in all (Heb 13:4). If marriage were as Papists set it forth to be, the marriage-bed were very unfitly called a bed undefiled.
Behold how contrary the points of S. Paul and of their Popes were. I wot well far more contrary than chastity and matrimony.
But to return to our matter, clear it is, that married persons may be chaste, and accordingly they ought to be chaste. To which purpose the Apostle counselling men and women, for avoiding fornication, to have wives and husbands, inserteth this particle OWN [let every man have his OWN wife, and every woman have her OWN husband] whereby he implieth, that they should not have to do with any other. That which Solomon expresseth of an husband, by the rule of relation must be applied to a wife. As the man must be satisfied at all times in his wife, and even ravisht with her love; so must the woman be satisfied at all times in her husband, and even ravisht with his love. By the like rule the precept given to wives, to be chaste, must husbands take as directed to themselves also, and be chaste. This duty did Isaac and Rebekah faithfully and mutually perform each to other.
1. It was one main end, why marriage [especially since the fall of man] was ordained, to live chastely. This the Apostle implieth, where he saith, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And again, If they cannot contain let them marry.
2. By chastity is a godly seed preserved on earth. By this reason doth the Prophet Malachi enforce this duty. For after he had said, that the Lord made one, meaning of two one flesh by marriage, he inferreth this exhortation, Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal unfaithfully against the wife of his youth.
3. An especial part of the honour of marriage consisteth in chastity: whereupon the Apostle having given this high commendation of marriage, that it is honourable in all, addeth this clause [and the bed undefiled] to shew the reason of that honour. As if he had said, Because the marriage-bed is in itself a bed undefiled, marriage is therefore in itself honourable, and doth so far remain honourable, as the bed remainth undefiled.
5. Of adultery.
The vice contrary to matrimonial chastity is Adultery, one of the most capital vices in that estate: a vice whereby way is made for Divorce: as is clear and evident by the determination of Christ himself, concerning that point, first propounded in his sermon on the mount, and again repeated in his conference with the Pharisees, where condemning unjust divorces, he excepteth the divorce made for adultery.
And great reason there is thereof. For the adulterer maketh himself one flesh with his harlot. Why then should he remain to be one flesh with his wife? Two [saith the Law] shall be one flesh: not three. The like may be said of a wife committing adultery.
6. Of pardoning adultery upon repentance.
Quest. Seeing by adultery just cause of divorce is given, may this fault upon the repentance of the delinquent person be so forgiven, as no divorce be sought by the innocent person, but both continue to live together in wedlock as before?
Answ. Though it be not meet in this case, to impose it as an inviolable law upon the innocent party, to retain the delinquent, because of repentance [for we have direct and strict warrant for it] yet I doubt not but they may so do, if they will, and that without just exception to the contrary, they ought so to do. For the law of divorce did not necessarily enjoin any to sue out the bill, but only afforded them liberty to use that punishment if they saw cause. I doubt not but for warrant of this liberty, we may take God's pattern, in retaining Churches and people after they have committed spiritual adultery: and Christ's forgiving the woman that had committed adultery. For, Seeing Christ said to an adulteress, I condemn thee not, go and sin no more, who cannot conceive that an husband ought to forgive that which he seeth the Lord both of husband and wife hath forgiven: and that he ought not to account her an adulteress, whose fault he believeth to be blotted out, by the mercy of God, upon her repentance?
7. Of the difference of adultery in a man, and in a wife.
Quest. Is the bond of marriage as much violated on the man's part when he committeth adultery as on the woman's when she doth so?
Answ. Though the ancient Romans and Canonists have aggravated the woman's fault in this kind far above the man's, and given the man more privileges than the woman, yet I see not how that difference in the sin can stand with the tenour of God's word. I deny not but that more inconveniences may follow upon the woman's default than upon the man's: as, greater infamy before men, worse disturbance of the family, more mistaking of legitimate, or illegitimate children, with the like. The man cannot so well know which be his own children, as the woman; he may take base children to be his own, and so cast the inheritance upon them; and suspect his own to be basely borne, and so deprive them of their patrimony. But the woman is freed from all such mistakings. Yet in regard of the breach of wedlock, and transgression against God, the sin of either party is alike. God's word maketh no disparity betwixt them. At the beginning God said of them both, they two shall be one flesh: not the woman only with the man, but the man also with the woman is made one flesh. Their power also over one another in this respect is alike. If on just occasion they abstain, it must be with mutual consent. If the husband leave his wife, she is free, as he should be, if she left him. Accordingly the punishment which by God's law was to be inflicted on adulterers is the same, whether the man or the woman be the delinquent, (Deut 22:22). If difference be made, it is meet that adulterous husbands be so much the more severely punished, by how much the more it appertaineth to them to excel in virtue, and to govern their wives by example.
8. Of the heinousness of adultery.
But to return to the discovery of the heinousness of adultery, I find no sin throughout the whole Scripture so notoriously in the several colours thereof set forth, as it is. For besides that it is by name forbidden in the Decalogue, it is further expressly branded to be committed,
1. Against each person of the holy Trinity: the Father [whose covenant is broken] the Son [whose members are made the members of an harlot] and the Holy Ghost [whose Temple is polluted].
2. Against one's neighbour, as the party with whom the sin is committed [for this sin cannot be committed singly by one alone] the husband and wife of each party [who cannot rest contented with any satisfaction] the children borne in adultery [whom they brand with an indelible character of infamy, and deprive of many privileges that otherwise they might enjoy] the alliance and friends of each party [to whom the grief and disgrace of this foul sin reacheth] the whole family appertaining to either of them [for this is as a fire in an house] the town, city, and nation where such unclean birds roost [for all they lie open to the vengeance of God for this sin] and the very Church of God [the holy seed whereof is by this sin hindered].
3. Against the parties themselves that commit this sin, and that against their souls, bodies, name, goods, and all that appertaineth to them.
As this sin is in itself a sinful sin, so by the bitter and cursed fruits which proceed from it, it is made out of measure sinful. For
1. By it husbands' and wives' affection [which of all other ought to be the most inviolable] is so alienated, as seldom it is reconciled again.
2. By it the goods of the family are much wasted: the adulterous husband spending that wherewith he should provide for his family, on his harlot: and the adulterous wife purloining what she can from her husband.
3. By it husbands and wives are stirred up to wish, and long after one another's death: and not only inwardly in heart to wish it, but outwardly also in deed to practise it.
4. If from this sin there arise not a gauling and terrifying conscience [as oft there doth] then [which is worse] a feared conscience, an hard heart, a reprobate sense, and an impudent face.
Wherefore God accordingly deals with such sins. In his soul he hateth them: by his word he hath denounced many fearful judgments against them, both in this world, and in the world to come [against no sin more]. This sin is reckoned to be one of the most principal causes of the greatest judgments that ever were inflicted in the world: as of the general deluge: of that fire and brimstone which destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah: of Canaan's spuing out her Inhabitants: of that plague which destroyed in one day 24000: and of the Israelites' captivity, with the like: By all which we see that fearful doom verified, Whoremongers, and adulterers God will judge. Now consider what a fearful thing it is to fall into the hands of the living God.
9. Of remedies against adultery, and in particular of due benevolence, and of defect or excess therein.
For preventing this heinous sin (to omit many other remedies which God's word hath prescribed, as a diligent keeping of the heart [that lustful thoughts proceed not from thence] of the eyes [that they wander not on the beauty or properness of any one's person, or on lascivious pictures, or any other like allurements] of the ears [that they hearken not to any inticements of others] or the tongue [that it utter no unchaste and corrupt communications] of the lips [that they delight not in wanton kisses] of the hands [that they use no wanton dalliance] of the feet [that they carry thee not too near to the place where adultery may be committed] of thy company [that thou be not defiled with others' wantonness and uncleanness] of thy diet [that it be not immoderate] of thine apparel [that it be not garish and lascivious] of thy time [that it be not vainly and idly spent] to omit, I say, these and other like remedies). One of the best remedies that can be prescribed to married persons [next to an awful fear of God, and a continual setting of him before them, wheresoever they are] is, that husband and wife mutually delight each in other, and maintain a pure and fervent love betwixt themselves, yielding that due benevolence one to another which is warranted and sanctified by God's word, and ordained of God for this particular end. This due benevolence [as the Apostle styleth it] is one of the most proper and essential acts of marriage: and necessary for the main and principal ends thereof: as for preservation of chastity in such as have not the gift of continency, for increasing the world with a legitimate brood, and for linking the affections of the married couple more firmly together. These ends of marriage, at least the two former, are made void without this duty be performed.
As it is called benevolence because it must be performed with good will and delight, willingly, readily and cheerfully; so it is said to be due because it is a debt which the wife oweth to her husband, and he to her. For the wife hath not the power of her own body, but the husband; and likewise also the husband hath not the power of his own body, but the wife.
I have my warrant from the Apostle to prescribe this duty as a remedy against adultery. For to avoid fornication, he adviseth man and wife to render due benevolence one to another. If then this question be moved [How will marriage keep men and women from adultery?] this answer out of the Apostle's words may be given [by rendering due benevolence]: which he further inculcateth by declaring the mischief that may follow upon the neglect of this duty, namely a casting of themselves into the snares of Satan. Well might he press this duty to that end, because no other means is of like force: nor fasting, nor watching, nor hard lodging, nor long travel, nor much labour, nor cold, nor solitariness, nor any thing else. Some that have by these means endeavoured much to beat down their bodies, and subdue lust [but neglected the forenamed remedy] have notwithstanding felt lust boiling in them.
There are two extremes contrary to this duty. One in the Defect: another in the Excess.
Defect therein is, when in case of need it is not required, or being required by the one, it is not yielded by the other. Modesty is pretended by some for not requiring it: but in a duty so warrantable and needful, pretence of modesty is [to speak the least] a sign of great infirmity, and a cause of much iniquity. To deny this duty being justly required, is to deny a due debt, and to give Satan great advantage. The punishment inflicted on Onan, (Gen 38:9,10) sheweth how great a wrong this is. From that punishment the Hebrews gather that this sin is a kind of murder. It is so much the more heinous when hatred, stoutness, niceness, fear of having too many children, or any other like respects, are the cause thereof.
Excess is either in the measure, or in the time. In the measure, when husband or wife is insatiable; provoking, rather than assuaging lust, and weakening their natural vigour more than suppressing their unnatural humour. Many husbands and wives are much oppressed by their bedfellows unsatiableness in this kind.
In the time, when it is against Piety, Mercy, or Modesty.
1. Against Piety, when no day, nor duty of Religion, no not extraordinary days, and duties of humiliation, will make them forbear. The Prophets bidding the bridegroom and bride go out of their chamber in the day of a Fast, and the Apostles excepting of prayer and fasting, where he enjoineth this duty of due benevolence, shew that in the time of a Fast it must be forborne.
2. Against Mercy, when one of the married couple being weak by sickness, pain, labour, travel, or any other like means, and through that weakness not well able to perform this duty, the other notwithstanding will have it performed. I will have mercy, and not sacrifice, saith the Lord. Shall God's Sacrifice give place to mercy, and shall not man's or woman's lust? for so I may well term this unreasonable desire.
Quest. What if an husband or wife continue so long sick, or otherwise weak, as the other cannot contain?
Answ. In such cases of necessity the body must be beaten down, and earnest prayer made for the gift of continency: for assuredly the Lord who hath brought thee to that necessity, will give thee grace sufficient.
3. Against Modesty, when husbands require this duty in that time, which under the Law was called the time of a wife's separation for her disease (Lev 15:19, &c.). For what can be expected from such polluted copulation, but a leprous and loathsome generation? This kind of intemperance is expressly forbidden (Lev 18:19) and a capital punishment inflicted on such as offended therein (Lev 20:18). Abstinence in this time is set in the catalogue of those notes which declare a man to be righteous (Eccl 20:7) and the contrary intemperancy is put in the roll of such abominations as provoked God to spue out the Canaanites (Lev 18:28) and to forsake his own inheritance (Eze 22:10).
To this kind of intemperancy some refer a man's knowing of his wife after she hath conceived with child. But I find no such matter condemned in God's word: neither dare I make that a sin which is not there condemned. Certain Sectaries among the Jews are branded for this error.
1. Object. No other creature will so do: so as it may seem to be against nature.
Answ. 1. I deny the argument: though some forbear, yet all do not.
2. I deny the consequence: for other creatures are not so tied one male to one female, as an husband to his own wife. Besides, that which beasts by nature are tied unto, must be left to man's discretion.
2. Object. After a woman hath once conceived, no more conceptions can be expected, till she be delivered.
Answ. Conception is not the only end of this duty: for it is to be renderd to such as are barren.
Quest. What if the wife give suck to her child, ought not her husband then to forbear?
Answ. Because giving suck is a mother's duty, man ought to do what he can to contain.
10. Of mutual love betwixt man and wife.
Hitherto of those common mutual duties which tend to the preservation of the very being of marriage, and are in that respect absolutely necessary. The other common mutual duties [though they be not of so absolute necessity as the former] are in their kind necessary for the good estate of marriage, and for the better preserving of that knot: so as, if they be not performed, the end and right use of marriage will be perverted, and that estate made uncomfortable, and very burdensome. The first of these is love. A loving mutual affection must pass betwixt husband and wife, or else no duty will be well performed: this is the ground of all the rest. In some respects love is proper and peculiar to an husband, as I purpose to shew when I come to speak of an husband's particular duties. But love is also required of wives, and they are commanded to be lovers of their husbands, as well as husbands to love their wives: so as it is a common mutual duty belonging to husband and wife too: and that is true wedlock, when man and wife are linked together by the bond of love. Under love all other duties are comprised: for without it no duty can be well performed. Love is the fulfilling of the Law, that is, the very life of all those duties which the law requireth. It is the bond of perfection, which bindeth together all those duties that pass betwixt party and party. Where love aboundeth, there all duties will readily and cheerfully be performed. Where love is wanting, there every duty will either be altogether neglected, or so carelessly performed, that as good not be performed at all: in which respect the Apostle willeth, that all things be done in love. Love as it provoketh the party in whom it ruleth to do all the good it can; so it stirreth up the party loved to repay good for good. It is like fire, which is not only hot in itself, but also conveyeth heat from one to another. Note how admirably this is set forth betwixt Christ and his Spouse in the Song of Solomon: and it is further manifested in the examples of all good husbands and wives noted in the Scripture: they did mutually bear a very loving affection one to another.
Though love be a general duty which every one oweth to another, even to his enemy, yet the nearer that God hath linked any together, the more are they bound to this duty, and the more must they abound therein. But of all others are man and wife most nearely and firmly linked together. Of all others therefore are they most bound hereunto, and that in the highest degree that may be, even like to Jonathan's love, who loved David as his own soul. Solomon saith, He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord: which by the rule of relation is also true of an husband, She that findeth an husband findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. Man and wife therefore are each to other an especial pledge of God's favour, and in this respect above all others under God to be loved. If this be the ground [as it ought to be] of their mutual love, their love will be fervent and constant. Neither will the want, or withering of any outward allurements, as beauty, personage, parentage, friends, riches, honours, or the like, withhold or withdraw, extinguish or extenuate their love: neither will any excellencies of nature or grace in other husbands and wives draw their hearts from their own to those other: nor yet will the love of a former yoke-fellow dead and gone, any whit lessen the love of the living mate.
This instance I have the rather mentioned, because in many, who are far from setting their affection on strange flesh, their love of a former husband or wife departed is so fast fixed in their heart, as they can never again so entirely love any other. They who are so minded are not fit to be joined with another yoke-fellow after they are loosed from one. If they marry again, and manifest such a mind, they plainly shew that they respect this or that person more than God's ordinance. By God's ordinance man and wife are no longer bound one to another than they live together. Death is an absolute diremption, and maketh an utter dissolution of the marriage bond. If the man be dead, the wife is delivered from the law of the man, so as she may take another man. Which liberty is also given to the man. Being now free, if they marry another [that other being now a true husband or wife] their love must be as entire to that other as it was to the former: yea, and more entire, if there were any defect in the former. For as children married out of their parents' house must not retain such a love of their parents as shall swallow up their love of the party to whom they are married, but must according to the law, leave father and mother, and cleave to their yoke-fellow: So neither must the love of a former husband or wife be predominant when they are married to another. This other must be as close cleaved unto, as if they have never been joined to a former. The living husband or wife is the present pledge of God's favour. He is now thine own husband: and she is now thine own wife: and not the party that is dead. I deny not but the memory of a virtuous husband or wife ought to be precious to the surviving party: for the memorial of the just is blessed. But as the virtue of a person deceased may not be buried with the dead corpse: so neither may the person be kept above ground with the memory of his or her virtue: which after a sort is done, when love of the party deceased either taketh away, or extenuateth the love of the living. This is to give dominion to the dead over the living: which is more then the law enjoineth.
11. Of husbands' and wives' mutual hatred contrary to love.
There is a generation so crabbed and crooked a disposition as they cannot love, but rather hate one another because they are man and wife: for many husbands having wives, and wives husbands every way worthy to be loved, will notwithstanding say to the astonishment of the hearers, I have indeed a good husband, or I have a good wife: but I cannot love him, or I cannot love her: and being demanded a reason, stick not openly and impudently to reply, I think I could love him if he were not mine husband, or I think I could love her if she were not my wife. O more than monstrous impudency! Is not this directly to oppose against God's ordinance, and against that order which he hath set betwixt man and woman? Is it not to trample under foot God's favour? Though there were nothing else to move love but this, that such an one is thine husband, or such an one is thy wife, yet this should be motive enough. And shall this be the ground of thine hatred? Assuredly such a spirit is a plain diabolical spirit, contrary to that spirit which is from above; and if it be not cast out, it will cast those whom it possesseth into the fire of hell.
12. Of mutual peace betwixt man and wife.
Among other means of maintaining an inward loving affection betwixt man and wife, outward mutual peace, concord, and agreement is one of the principal. Whereupon the Apostle exhorteth to keep the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace: for peace is a bond that tieth one to another, and maketh them to be as one, even one in spirit: as on the contrary side outward discord disunites men's spirits. We are enjoined to follow peace with all men: how much more of all persons ought husbands to have peace with their wives, and wives with their husbands? They are nearer than brothers and sisters. Behold then how good and pleasant a thing it is for them to dwell together in unity. Dwell together they must: but without peace there is no dwelling together: It is better to dwell in a corner of the house top than with a contentious woman in a wide house. Persons at variance were far better be out of sight and place, than present together. Out of sight and place man and wife must not be, at peace therefore they must be. Mutual peace betwixt them is a great refreshing to their minds, being beaten with the discords of others. It is said that a wife is in this respect an haven to man [how much more man to his wife?] If the haven be calm, and free from storms and tempests, what a refreshing it will be to the mariner that hath been tossed in the sea with winds and waves?
For maintaining peace,
1. All offences so much as possibly may be must be avoided. The husband must be watchful over himself that he give no offence to his wife: and so the wife on the other side. Offences cause contentions.
2. When an offence is given by the one party, it must not be taken by the other; but rather passed by: and then will not peace be broken. The second blow makes the fray.
3. If both be incensed together, the fire is like to be the greater: with the greater speed therefore must they both labour to put it out. Wrath must not lie in bed with two such bed-fellows: neither may they part beds for wrath sake. That this fire may be the sooner quenched, they must both strive first to offer reconciliation. Theirs is the glory who do first begin, for they are most properly the blessed peacemakers. Not to accept peace when it is offered is more than heathenish: but when wrath is incensed, to seek atonement is the duty of a Christian, and a grace that cometh from above.
4. Children, servants, nor any other in the family must be bolstered up by the one against the other. The man's partaking with any of the house against his wife, or the wife against her husband, is an usual cause of contention betwixt man and wife.
5. They must forbear to twit one another in the teeth with the husbands or wives of other persons or with their own former husbands or wives [in case they have had any before]. Comparisons in this kind are very odious. They stir up much passion, and cause great contentions.
6. Above all they must take heed of rash and unjust jealousy, which is the bane of marriage, and greatest cause of discontent that can be given betwixt man and wife. Jealous persons are ready to pick quarrels, and to seek occasions of discord: they will take every word, look, action, and motion, in the worse part, and so take offence where none is given. When jealousy is once kindled, it is as a flaming fire that can hardly be put out. It maketh the party whom it possesseth implacable.
7. In all things that may stand with a good conscience they must endeavour to please one another: and either of them suffer their own will to be crossed, rather than discontent to be given to the other. S. Paul noteth this as a common mutual duty belonging to them both, and expresseth their care thereof under a word that signifieth more than ordinary care, and implieth a dividing of the mind into divers thoughts, casting this way, and that way, and every way how to give best content.
13. Of contentions betwixt man and wife.
Contrary to mutual peace are contentions betwixt man and wife: which are too frequent in most families, and by which the common good is much hindered. Discord betwixt man and wife in an house is as contention betwixt the master and pilot in a ship: may not great danger, and much mischief be thence justly feared? We heard before that man to his wife, and she to him, is as an haven. Now by experience we find that if the haven be tempestuous it is much more troublesome, and dangerous to the mariner than the wide sea. Wherefore let man and wife be of the same mind one to another as Abraham was to Lot, and when occasions of discord are offered, say, Let there be no strife betwixt thee and me, for we are man and wife: no more two, but one flesh.
14. Of husbands and wives dwelling together.
From a mutual affection of love proceedeth a mutual provident care in husband and wife one for another. In handling whereof we will first note the means whereby their mutual providence may be the better effected and manifested, and then the matter whereabout it must be conversant. The means in one word is cohabitation. For a duty it is that man and wife dwell together. The phrase used in setting out the woman's creation [he built a woman, whereby the erecting of a family is intimated] implieth as much: so doth the law of marriage whereby man is enjoined to leave father and mother, and to cleave unto his wife, that is, to go out of his father's house, and to dwell with his wife: and so doth this phrase [forget thy father's house] taken from the duty of a wife, and mystically applied to the Church. S. Peter expressly chargeth husbands to dwell with their wives: and S. Paul layeth it to the charge both of husbands and wives not to leave one another, but to dwell together, yea though the one be an infidel. Surely it was conscience of this duty which made the Levite to go after his wife, that went away from him, to bring her home again: and which made Jacob's wives to leave their father's house, and go with their husband. The word under which S. Peter compriseth this duty is a title appropriated to an husband: and an answerable title is appropriate to a wife: from which the notation of our two usual English words [husband, housewife] doth not much differ.
The power which the one hath of the other's body, and the advantage which by living asunder, they give unto Satan, [both of which are expressly noted, 1 Cor 7:4,5] do shew the necessity of this duty: and the many benefits arising from thence do further press the equity of it. By husbands and wives dwelling together all marriage duties are better performed: mutual love is better bred, preserved, and increased: the good gifts of either of them are better observed by the other: better help and succour is mutually by each afforded to the other: and in time they are made more capable of doing good one to another, and of receiving good one from another. Why then should they have any mind of living asunder, unless they be forced by extraordinary occasions, as captivity, close imprisonment, contagious sickness, and such like, which are no faults of theirs, but crosses to be borne with grief; and instant prayer, together with all other good means, to be used to bring them together again? Yea if the imprisonment, banishment, or other like kind of absence, be such as one may if they will come at the other, the party that is free ought to come to the other, if at least that other require it.
15. Of the respects for which man and wife may for a time live asunder.
Quest. May there be any just causes for man and wife willingly to live asunder?
Answ. There can nor ought to be any cause of utter relinquishing one another, which is a kind of desertion: but for living asunder for a time there may be just causes, as
1. Weighty and urgent affairs which concern the good of the Church, or Commonwealth: as when a man is sent forth to war, or on an ambassage [in which case though he may take his wife with him, yet is he not necessarily bound thereto, especially if the place whither he is sent be far off, the passage thereto difficult and dangerous, and his abode there not long]. When Reuben, Gad, and half the tribe of Manassah passed over Jordan to help their brethren in their battles against the Canaanites, they left their wives behind them in their families: when Uriah went to war, he left his wife at home: and when Moses was to bring Israel out of Egypt, his wife remained at her father's house.
2. Main duties of their particular calling: as of mariners, who are oft to be on the sea: merchants who trade in other countries: lawyers who attend public places of justice: courtiers, who in their months, or quarters, attend their Prince: keepers of women in child-bed, and sick persons: and other nurses.
Provided always that in these, and other like cases, there be a joint and mutual consent of both parties: for if man and wife may not defraud one another for a time to give themselves to fasting and prayer without consent: much less may they for lighter occasions live any time asunder without consent. Provided also that they take no delight to live asunder, but rather be grieved that they are forced so to do: and in testimony thereof to take all occasions that they can to manifest their longing desire one after another by letters, messages, tokens, and other like kindnesses: and to return with all the speed they can. No distance, or absence ought any whit to diminish their mutual love.
16. Of the errour of Papists about man and wife's separation.
Contrary to the duty of cohabitation is the doctrine of Papists, whereby they teach, that
Separation may be made betwixt man and wife for many causes from bed, or cohabitation, for a certain or uncertain time. The Council of Trent is bold to denounce Anathema against such as say, the Church erreth therein. If the many causes which they allege, besides adultery, be well weighted, we shall find them without all warrant of God's word. They draw them to two heads, 1. Mutual consent. 2. Demerit.
By consent [say they] of both parties married to attain a greater and more perfect estate, marriage consummate may be loosed from bed and cohabitation.
Answ. 1. In marriage there is a covenant of God (Prov 2:17) as well as of the two parties: the consent therefore of parties is not sufficient to break it.
2. No estate in this world can be greater or more perfect than is meet for married persons. Adam and Eve in their best estate were married: and now is marriage honourable in all.
3. The estates which they count more perfect, are either such as are not in man's power [as perpetual continency] or such as may be as well performed by married persons as by single persons [as Ecclesiastical functions] if at least they be such as are warranted by God's word. High Priests, and other Priests, all sorts of Levites, extraordinary Prophets and Apostles were married. What greater functions than these?
The causes which for demerit, they say, make a separation, are 1. Adultery. 2. Departing from the catholic faith. 3. Soliciting or impelling unto sin.
Concerning Adultery, we deny not, but that it giveth just cause of divorce: but withal we say [as we have good warrant from Christ's words] that it is the only cause of just divorce. For to make a separation for departing from the catholic faith, is directly contrary to S. Paul's and S. Peter's doctrine (1 Cor 7:12-14; 1 Pet 3:1).
As for soliciting and impelling unto sin, though it may be cause to move an husband or a wife to walk more warily and wisely, and in extremity to avoid society for a time, or to complain to the Magistrate for release, who may see it meet to lay the delinquent person in prison, or else otherwise keep them asunder till that delinquent be reclaimed and brought to a better mind: yet it is no sufficient cause finally to dissolve marriage in regard of bed and cohabitation.
They urge that if the right eye cause to offend, it must be plucked out.
Answ. 1. That is but a metaphor, and may sundry other ways be applied.
2. The words are not simply, but by way of comparison to be taken, rather pluck it out, than to be made to stumble thereby.
3. Plucking out, applied to the point in hand, may be by many other ways, than by dissolving marriage.
4. That general inhibition [whosoever shall put away his wife, causeth her to commit adultery] restrained only with the exception of fornication, admitteth neither this, nor any other such cause of dissolving marriage.
17. Of husbands' and wives' unlawful absenting themselves one from another.
Contrary also to the forenamed duty of cohabitation, is the practise of many men, who living themselves in one place [suppose at London] send their wives unto some country house, and there even mew them up, as hawkes, never caring to come at them, but are then most merry, when their wives are farthest off. If their wives live at home they will be abroad, mealing and lodging where their wives shall not know: their own house is as a prison to them: they are not well, but when they are out of it. Of the like lewd conceit and practise are many wives, who on no other occasion then mere lightness, being eager in pursuing their pleasures, and satisfying their lusts, gad out of their own houses in the day, lie out of them in the night, and remain in other company days and nights: or at least are glad when their husbands have occasion to be from home; not unlike to the light housewife which Solomon describeth (Prov 7:10, &c.). I speak of matters too famous, or rather infamous. I would there were no just cause to tax this lightness. But let such as desire to approve themselves to God or man, take heed of these heinous and more than heathenish vices. Though Israel play the harlot, yet let not Judah offend.
Too near to the forenamed kind of unlawful separation do they come, who though they live both in one house, yet make that house by their estranging themselves one from another as two houses: the man abiding in one end thereof, his wife in another: and so have their several rooms, several tables, several servants, all several: Or if the straightness of their house will not suffer them so to part other rooms, yet they will have several bed-chambers, or at least several beds: so as they that shall call them bed-fellows, shall but nick-name them. Thus they rob each other of that due benevolence which they mutually owe one to another, they expose themselves to the devil's snares, they more and more estrange their hearts one from another, and deprive themselves of such mutual comforts and helps, as by matrimonial society they might afford to, and receive from one another.
18. Of husbands' and wives' mutual prayers.
The matter whereabout husbands' and wives' mutual providence ought to be conversant, is in general the good of one another; that each of them do that for the other, which Solomon in particular applieth to a wife, viz. good and not evil all the days of their life. Now the good of man extendeth to his soul, body, good name, and goods.
A general duty tending to the good of all these is prayer. S. Peter requireth such a carriage of man and wife one towards another, as their prayers be not hindred: whereby he taketh it for grant, that prayer is a mutual duty which one oweth to the other: which duty Isaac performed for his wife. Herein may man and wife be helpful each to other in all things needful to either of them: for it is the means which God in wisdom hath sanctified for the obtaining of every needful blessing for ourselves or others. By many it is counted but a slight duty and of small use; but the truth is, that to perform it aright, in truth and faith, is both difficult in the deed, and powerful in the effect. It is the best duty that one can perform for another, and the least to be neglected. We heard before, that Isaac prayed for his wife: and to shew the good he did to her thereby, it is noted, that the Lord was entreated of him: so as she, being barren before, by that means conceived. All the physic in the world could not have done her so much good. Always therefore, without ceasing is this duty to be performed. Whensoever man and wife make any prayer, therein they must be mindful of one another: yea and oft must they of purpose take occasion to make prayers in special one for another: and that both in absence, and also in presence of one another.
This latter doth especially concern the husband, who is as a Priest unto his wife, and ought to be her mouth to God when they two are together: yet I doubt not, but that the wife may pray in the husband's presence when they two are alone, either for trial [that he may have knowledge of her ability and gift in that kind] or for help [if the wife be much better able to perform that duty than the man is, as many wives are]. Not without cause therefore have I reckoned this among common mutual duties.
19. Of the things for which husbands and wives are to pray alone.
There are sundry needful blessings which husbands and wives are to pray for that appertain only to themselves, and are most meet to be mentioned in private prayer betwixt themselves, as
1. That as they two are one flesh, so they may be also one spirit: that their hearts may be as one, knit together by a true, spiritual, matrimonial love: always delighting one in another, ever helpful one to another, and ready with all willingness and cheerefulness to perform all those duties which they owe one to another.
2. That their marriage bed may be sanctified: and as it is by God's ordinance, so it may remain to them by their well using it, a bed undefiled. There is no other thing, for which mutual prayer in private betwixt man and wife is more needful: and that so much the rather, because of the natural heat of lust which is in most: which if it be not by prayer [the best means for that purpose] assuaged, it may prove a defilement of the undefiled bed: and man and wife become adulterers one to another. As other things, so this also is sanctified by the word and prayer. The word giveth a warrant and direction for the use of it: prayer both seasoneth it, and procureth a blessing upon it.
3. That they may have children, and those such as may be heirs of salvation, and live in this world to their own and others' good: that they may be comely and well proportioned children: nor idiots in understanding, nor monsters in bodily shape, nor yet lewd and infamous in their lives: which could not but be a grief to their parents, and might also open the mouths of the wicked against them.
4. That God would give them competency of this world's goods, and other good means well to nourish, nurture, and place forth their children: and a sufficiency for the maintenance of their family, and of that estate wherein God setteth them.
5. That such needful gifts and graces as are wanting in either of them may be wrought: and such vices and infirmities as they are subject unto may be redressed.
These and many other like things give occasion to man and wife in special manner to pray one for another, and one with another.
20. Of husbands' and wives' hateful imprecations and wishes one against another.
Contrary to that holy and heavenly duty of prayer are those direful and hellish imprecations and execrations, which ordinarily do pass out of the mouths of many husbands and wives against one another [and that many times for very light occasions] cursing the day that ever they knew one another, and wishing that one of them had been under the ground before they came together. Most odious are these and such like execrations in any man's mouth, but more than most odious in the mouth of man and wife against one another.
Many who for outward shame forbear to belch forth such rotten stinking speech, make small conscience of wishing the like in their hearts. If an husband be any whit harsh, and a wife shrewish: or if through sickness, or any other like occasion they seem burdensome each to other: or if any dislike of one arise in the heart of the other: or if their hearts be set upon others: or if the survivor be to carry away the goods and lands, their hearts will be filled with a thousand wishes of another's death. Yea, many times such as have very good husbands or wives, without any shew of reason [only through an inward corruption of their heart, and malicious instigation of Satan, not taking notice of their own good] are ready to wish they were in heaven: making thereby a pretence of their eternal bliss to whom they so wish, whereas indeed their only desire is to be loosed and freed from them. God oft meets with such wicked wishers [whereby he sheweth how hateful such wishes are to him] for sometimes according to their wish he taketh away good husbands and wives from those that are evil: and when they are gone he maketh their loss to be so sensibly felt, as those ungodly wishers do, [as we speak] in every vein of their heart repent them of their rash wishes. Yea, to aggravate their wretchedness the more, he giveth them such crabbed and perverse husbands and wives in the room instead of those good ones [for seldom comes a better] as they are forced with many deep sighs and groans to wish [but all in vain] their former wives and husbands alive again, and so to verify the proverb, A good thing is not so well discerned by enjoying, as by wanting it. Sometimes again God in anger crosseth their wishes, and first taketh away the wishes of others' death: or else prolongeth the life of both to their greater vexation.
21. Of husbands' and wives' neglect of mutual prayer.
The very neglect of mutual prayer in husbands and wives for each other is also a sin contrary to the forenamed duty of prayer: whereof if all that are guilty were as well known to man as to God, how many unkind husbands and wives careless of one another's good would be noted, more than are? Rare are those husbands and wives, that have their seasons to pray alone together one with another, if ever they pray one for another. Though in outward complements they may seem very kind, and in the outward things of this world, very provident, yet if they pray not one for another, they are neither kind, nor provident. Hearty, fervent, frequent prayer is the greatest token of kindness, and best part of providence that can be.
22. Of husbands' and wives' mutual care for one another's salvation.
From the general duty of prayer which is profitable to all things, I come to the particular branches of man and wife's mutual provident care: and will first begin with that which is first to be sought, the good of one another's soul, which the Apostle intimateth to be a thing to be sought after, where he saith, What knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt SAVE thine husband, or what knoweth thou, O man, whether thou shalt SAVE thy wife? S. Peter enjoineth wives to do their endeavour to win their husbands and S. Paul setteth before husbands the pattern of Christ's love, which had especial respect to the soul and the salvation thereof: so as this is a mutual duty appertaining to them both, which S. Peter further implieth where he styleth them coheirs of the grace of life.
It is the greatest good that one can possibly do for another, to be a means of helping forward his salvation. And there is nothing that can more soundly and firmly knit the heart of one to another, than to be a means thereof.
23. Of husbands' and wives' care to win one the other, when one of them is not called.
That the salvation of the soul may be the better effected, respect must be had to the present and particular estate of husband or wife. If one be a believer the other not, the believer must use all the means that may be, to draw on the other also to believe. If both be believers, their mutual care must be to edify one another in their most holy faith.
For the first, it is the main drift of S. Peter's exhortation to believing wives, about their conversation, to draw on their unbelieving husbands to the true faith. His phrase [that they may be won or gained] as in general it hath respect to their soul's salvation, so in particular to their first conversion. Now if this duty appertain to a wife, much more to an husband, who is appointed an head to his wife, and a Saviour. To this end doth S. Paul advise believing husbands and wives that are married to unbelievers, to dwell with them.
For what a woeful thing is it, that two which in this world are so nearly linked together as to make one flesh, should in the world to come be so far separated one from another, as heaven is from hell. This indeed shall so fall out in many: for Christ hath expressly foretold it, that of two that were in one bed together [who are more fitly set forth under this phrase than man and wife, who most usually are styled bedfellows?] one shall be taken [to mercy and glory] the other shall be forsaken [or left to endless and easeless torture and torment]. But though it be foretold that thus it shall fall out with many a couple, yet our care must be, and that with our uttermost power, to prevent it, as in ourselves, so in our bedfellow.
If it please the Lord to give such a blessing to the endeav